Most girls have a secret vulnerability—and you asking her out can be very affirming
I know it doesn’t look like it, but even the most amazing girl likely has a secret vulnerability: she wonders if she is worth something. If she is worthy of being loved. If she is special in any way.
On our nationally-representative survey for For Young Men Only, 91% of girls felt that way. Let me make that very real to you. This means that in any classroom or any friend group, if there are 15 girls in the room, that means only one or two of them do not feel that way. The other 13 or 14 wonder things like, “Am I the type of person who anyone will ever love?”
Think about that for a second. Think about a particular female friend, who you think is beautiful and a great person. If she is like most girls, she truly wonders if she is the type of person who anyone will ever love.
So when you take that step of courage to tell your friend Brianna, “You have mentioned wanting to see that movie a couple of times. Want to come with me on Saturday?” It is unbelievably affirming to her. It says to her, “You are special. You are the type of person who someone will love someday.”
It doesn’t mean that you will be that boy—just that she is that type of girl. It is an action of not only affirmation but genuine kindness.
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