The Benefits Of Not Getting Married Just To Get Married

“Better late than never” isn’t true

Remember what I said about discerning the character qualities needed for a good marriage partner? One of the top pieces of advice I heard from “single-again” adults is that it is far better to remain single than to jump into a marriage that you or your partner aren’t prepared to commit to for a lifetime, for better or for worse. As one person said, “We say ‘better late than never’ but ‘never’ would have been better than marrying the wrong person.” Another told me, “I don’t think that singles realize how torturous it is to be married to someone who you feel doesn’t love you. If you aren’t sure both of you are committing to truly make it work, don’t do it.”

There is no perfect marriage or perfect person – your spouse will be married to a very imperfect person, too, right? But I heard over and over again how important it was to not blow past warning signs out of a deep desire to get married.