Throw Him a Bone When He Picks up the Broom

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 4:22 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

This choice seems like such a little thing to us women, but 72% of the men I surveyed said they were deeply impacted by it. Read more

Looking for Approval? Start By Praising Your Provider Husband

Last updated on: September 24, 2019 at 4:14 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I’m a working mom with two kids. We have a comfortable lifestyle, no major financial problems — just the typical mortgage and monthly bills — and I just got a big raise at work. Still, my husband seems stressed about work and frequently mentions his worries about layoffs. I don’t understand why he’s so concerned — after all, it’s not like I don’t bring any money to the table! – Confused Dear Confused, I understand your frustration —... Read more

Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband’s Gift-Giving Style

Last updated on: February 17, 2014 at 9:55 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine’s Day together, until I unwrapped my present. A blender. He knows that I like jewelry, and he’s the one who likes smoothies. I got upset that he was being selfish, and then he got upset and said he had seen me looking at that same blender in a catalogue so he picked it up at the mall –and only the day before, at that. Shouldn’t he have thought... Read more

Disappointed on Valentine’s Day

Last updated on: September 30, 2019 at 4:17 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Priming Your Wife for Primetime

Last updated on: December 23, 2015 at 4:33 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic. In other ways, we have a great relationship, but this is a big deal for me and it really bums me out. What can I do so that she finds me desirable? –Frustrated Dear Frustrated, Well, it sounds like you are just like the typical married male that wants more sex than you get. (Ladies, if... Read more

Has My Teen Lost His Faith?

Last updated on: September 16, 2015 at 4:17 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, My 15-year old son begins his complaining about going to church on Saturday night and doesn’t quit even after we’ve forced him to go on Sunday morning. He’s always loved church and he has plenty of friends. I asked him to pray about it and he told me matter-of-factly that he doesn’t even know if he believes God answers prayer. Where is this coming from? And what can I do? –Worried Dear Worried, You are not alone! This... Read more

Should I Hide the Victoria’s Secret Catalog from My Husband?

Last updated on: May 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

I know my husband loves me and thinks I’m attractive. So I’m confused and a little hurt why he asked me recently to put my Victoria’s Secret catalog out of sight. I've gotten these in the mail for years and I never once thought I needed to "hide" them from my own husband! Does this mean he’s attracted to other women? Read more

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

Last updated on: June 5, 2015 at 9:24 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This works really well for my family but my male co-workers get frustrated when they can’t reach me during traditional office hours. I’m getting all my work done but I’m worried they’re not viewing me as an equal colleague because they don’t always see me in the office. –Trying to Find the Balance Read more

Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.

Last updated on: January 12, 2018 at 7:52 am By Shaunti Feldhahn

As strange as it seems to men, what a woman wants her man to listen to isn’t really the problem itself: it’s her feelings about the problem. Read more