(Am I getting really carried away with my long blog titles lately? I think so).
I promise you my blog isn’t turning into a fashion blog —though how fun would that be? (Maybe a different blog eventually? I have considered this)!
So. Wanna help me get dressed this weekend? I’m emcee’ing a conference for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship/USA (the org I work for) for about 700+ college & university students from across MI. And of course, the fashion pressure is on ~not from them of course, just my own bit’o’pressure. I don’t need to be perceived as cute and I don’t need to be perceived as a fashionable dresser but I –over think perhaps– fashion in contexts where I’ll be up front because of these 3 factors:
1) I do not like the feeling of being upfront and feeling self-conscious about myself, my weight, my flab rolls, my acne, etc. I counter this by taking care of what I’ve been given. Dressing appropriately & professionally feels like taking a blankie/paci up front. =)
2) I like to model the fact that it’s perfectly fine to be a Minister AND still love and appreciate fashion and beauty, in a healthy way, of course.
A few weekends ago at the Blogher / Penguin Writer’s Conference in NYC (which I still really need to blog about) about 25 people looked at me puzzled and say “You’re a Minister?” I wasn’t offended AT ALL. Seriously. Not many people see Ministers who are a) woman b) have multiple tat’s c) a million piercings & d) dress fashionably. I realize I’m breaking the stereotype for what a ‘Minister-of-Jesus’ looks like and to that I say, Hallelujah Jesus because God doesn’t call white men only in Land’s End suits or black robes/white collars to be the primary communicators of God’s truths.
I’m here, baby & I’m fabulous! =)
3) I’ve been living fairly intentionally about my love for the art of fashion in the last 5-6 years —specifically not hiding it because of those who perceive my looks and my dress as a reason I shouldn’t be taken seriously. Now that is sad to me. I have heard it before. A pastor once called me a “pretty young thang,” and asked what I could possibly be doing in full-time ministry. This was before he heard a single word that I said. That hurt my feelings. Made me feel bad for natural blonds. lol.
I wanted to bust out the famous Julia Roberts’ line from Pretty Woman (which my friends & I always quoted in high school): “I say who! I say when! I say….who!” But, you know, since she was a prostitute and all, talking about who she’d have sex with, I don’t think that would have been necessarily effective in solidifying the fact that I was a qualified minister of the Gospel. I digress.
I don’t mind explaining this because I think it’s appropriate that you know I’m thoughtful about the theology of beauty, and I’m workin’ with what my Mama gave me.Here we go. I would LOVE for you to vote on your fave look of mine for this weekend…
Again, my “Fashion Dahling” Pinboard on Pinterest has been REALLY INSPIRING me, y’all! Yesterday, I hopped on & chose 4 looks I’d tried to emulate for this weekend. Of course, I needed to think about flat shoes because being emcee is only ONE of my FOUR roles this weekend. When my feet hurt, I am so unhappy. And because I hate being unhappy, I don’t try to pretend my feet don’t hurt, I just take off my shoes and walk around barefoot. Which is, ya know, kinda ghetto-fabulous of me.
Here’s what I tried…
I actually prefer the look on the right as I have a deep and abiding love affair with skinny jeans + hot heels but again the feet issue!
I REALLY wanted to wear this cute, lil’ black pencil skirt because I’ve never worn it before and because I love the look of a tucked in shirt and black pencil skirt, but I just couldn’t figure out one that I felt comfortable in and as of now have ruled it out: what do you think? (With the red tights, I have on flat red shoes). I tried on 2 other looks with this skirt but it was FAIL all over the place.
On the right, again I found myself tempted by my super-sky-high-bright-red-Jessica-Simpson-stiletto’s!
So, what’s your vote? Look 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, or 6?