Be Grace

Be Grace March 1, 2013

I hate ordinary time, ordinary things & most of all ordinary Grace.

I do enjoy when things are simple.  In fact, sometimes I long to make myself and my life more simple.  I am first in line to muck up my life with new experiences, new challenges, new temptations and yes, new and exciting sins.

I blame it on the ordinary.  I blame it on being an Enneagram 7.  I blame on blasted genetics.  I blame it on me too.  I keep trying to learn (and re-learn) how to live in the present.  How to make peace with the ordinary.  How to suppress the inner adventurer.

But lately, I’ve been wondering if I should.  The instigator is, Happier at Home a book by Gretchen Rubin full of ideas of how she’s approaching a happier life at home: “Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson & my other Experiences in the Practice of Everyday Life.”  There’s a great deal I’m learning from this book, but the primary thing sticking out to me is to fully own your leanings: something she sums up nicely by saying” Be Gretchen.”


Being Grace, means I want a dolphin to kiss my face in Mexico.  Being Grace propelled me to run a marathon, (though I’d never been a runner) finish my bachelors degree (though odds were stacked against me).  Being Grace, in my best moments, produces an incredible momentum of ferocious tenacity.  In my worst moments, gets me in BIG trouble faster than most.

In order for me to “Be {healthy} Grace,” I need to learn to accept in me that “ordinary” is not my favorite.  I’m never going to want to be ordinary.  I will never want to dress ordinary.  I will always have extravagant & new hairstyles.  I will never want the ordinary, every-year-it’s-the-same-family-vacation.  This book is causing me to rethink how I can “Be Grace” in a healthy way that will lead to not only my own happiness but greater happiness in our home.

In order to “Be Grace” I will be an adventurer of sorts, I will likely always adore blogging & writing because it’s enough mental, emotional challenge to stimulate me for 55,000 years.  I will drag my family to weird vacation spots, I will try to make life for others better through advocacy even at personal cost.  I will never stop trying to personally grow.   I will likely never embrace being your average, ordinary gal even though I think it would be somewhat easier to live that way, to settle in a bit more.

I will be Grace.  I will not be ordinary, but I will be the version of me God intended.  And that’s good enough.

How about you? Are you happiest when things are more ordinary than not?  What’s your ordinary quota?  


“On Fridays around these parts we like to write. Not for comments or traffic or anyone else’s agenda. But for pure love of the written word. For joy at the sound of syllables, sentences and paragraphs all strung together by the voice of the speaker.

We love to just write without worrying if it’s just right or not. For five minutes flat.

Here’s how we do it:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat with no editing, tweaking or self critiquing.

2. Link back here and invite others to join in {you can grab the button code in my blog’s footer}.

3. Go and tell the person who linked up before you what their words meant to you. Every writer longs to feel heard.

OK, are you ready? Give me your best five minutes for the prompt: Ordinary.” –Lisa-Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday


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  • Heather Jacobs

    I stopped over from Five Minute Fridays, I can very much relate to struggling with being ordinary, especially with the experimenting with hair thing:) What a great picture of you and the dolphin! So thankful that God is not ordinary and makes each of His children unique. Glad I came by! Blessings!

    • Thanks Heather! Yes, the hair thing! It’s the worst! sometimes I wish I could just be content to have the same style year after year, but no, I just can’t! anyway, I’m thankful for that too! Thanks for stopping in!

  • It isn’t always easy to be who God created us to be, but oh so important. Refreshing to read you won’t settle for less.

    • Thanks so much, Julie! I won’t! Thanks for stopping in!!!

  • Grace, this self-acceptance turned self-celebration is something I’ve been learning to practice over the last several months. Being an ‘I’ and a 5, I LOVE introspection and reflection and self-exploration; it has been a blast and a blessing to discover more of what makes Aubrey, Aubrey, and to turn around and fully EMBRACE it! Rather than wondering if I live up to all the “shoulds” and “woulds” of the world, I am learning to just be who God made me to be. Oh my, is that the most freeing life lesson that can be learned! Keeping on being Grace, I’ll keep on being Aubrey, and God will be glorified in both. 🙂

    • oh so true! And I’m slightly jealous that you are learning this so young! (see there’s that not being me thing poking it’s ugly head in the form of jealousy….how easily we fall, eh? lol) Seriously though, I think you are so right, there’s so much freedom in it & we should learn to embrace these truths DAILY!

  • Amy Pederson

    Grace, I love so much how you are so accepting that you’re not ordinary. It is an inspiration to me, and I offer you blessings beyond. He has called you to be you, and that is perfectly wonderful.

    • Yes, thankyou. The idea itself is inspiring to me as well! Let’s live fully!

  • Simone

    Grace, I never want to dress ordinary either. I have a fear I think of looking like everyone else. I love that you’re embracing the extraordinary you. Love the picture with the dolphin, love your words. Trailblazing! Reminds me of India Arie. Thanks for your kind words. I feel like I spent the first 20+ years of my life trying to be someone else. Now that I’m ahem 30ish, I’m settling in to just being me- that new creation –in his image and all. #FMF

    Happy Weekend.

    • Well thank you, Simone! It’s always a good day when someone says you remind them of India Arie. =) Have a great weekend yourself!

  • southmainmuse

    What an awesome photo. I agree. We all are made unique and need to celebrate that. Some of us are extroverts, some of us are introverts. No matter what we do, how we do it — we just need to be pleasing to Him. Nobody else. So be yourself and enjoy.

  • mongupp

    That photo is beautiful!!!

  • Jennifer Peterson

    LOVE this and yes!! be who God intended you to be( I need to remind myself of that daily)… Going to look into that book to:) Thank you

    • Jennifer, there are some really great things about the book for sure. I’m listening to it via audible, so I wanna go back for a 2nd lesson to take it all in, take notes & do a review here for the blog.

  • Awesome take on “ordinary”. I love that you’re embracing “being Grace”. I’m going to use one of my audible credits to “happier at home”. I’ve been curious and your mention of it here has convinced me its credit-worthy. I don’t like ordinary, my blogs called carried away for goodness sake! I love all things grand, dramatic, sweeping and, over the top. to me ordinary is a symptom of lack of creativity. Anything with a bit of thought, humor, and fun can become extraordinary. Great fmf!

  • hahaaha, well good! I love to make people go “hmmm.” I love what you said about God having a wild side! So true! I hope that you will grow into the liberation that is just being you! Thanks for commenting! =)

  • Sunday Stacy

    I have been exploring what “Being Stacy” means more fully for around 5 years now. It’s not an easy thing to do or sometimes for others to accept yet I could not imagine being anyone else. Thanks for the post!