Why I Quit Being a Christian (in order to better follow Jesus)

Why I Quit Being a Christian (in order to better follow Jesus) June 20, 2013



The day I truly became “born again” was the day I quit being a Christian.

I can only imagine that some of those reading these first few words, are only doing so because you had an aneurysm when you read the title and your hand accidentally clicked through the link. If that’s you, please bear with me- it’s not what you think.

You see, during my seminary days I experienced a crisis of faith as isn’t uncommon for seminarians. Between homiletics, hermeneutics, theories on atonement, systematic theology, emergent theology, and the theology of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, I had lost sight of nearly everything I had believed coming into seminary– which was especially frightening since I went into seminary thinking that I already knew everything I needed to know. The process of letting go of old theology and old ways of viewing the world without having anything tangible to replace it, left me in a tailspin. My identity, and my faith, were slipping away before me. I didn’t know who I was, wasn’t entirely sure what I believed, and had no idea what label I was supposed to wear. I came to realize how unfortunate destructive it can be to live under a cultural expectation that everything be labeled, nicely sorted, and placed on the shelf where it belonged.

It’s as if we don’t know what to do with something, unless we know the precise terminology as to what to call it.

For me, I wasn’t sure what to call it, and wasn’t sure I belonged anywhere. I didn’t know what label to wear, and I certainly didn’t know how to neatly compartmentalize everything I was thinking and feeling in such a way that avoided the tension of a shifting worldview. There was no avoiding it, and no getting out of it. People had told me that if I went to seminary the Bible would become more black-and-white, and I did, only to find out it was far more grey than I had ever expected.

It was a true crisis of identity. Until then, I had always self-identified as a Christian, and along with that, all of the theology and doctrine which had been passed down to me. My identity was clear, and doctrine was so spelled out that one was left to wrestle with very few questions. Until then, I was a Christian and I knew exactly what that meant.

But now? Now I didn’t know anymore. I was more convinced than ever that I wanted to follow Jesus, but realized how unfulfilling it had been to blindly follow American Christianity.

In the midst of the tension I met my Pastor friend, Joel, and confided in him about my crisis of faith– which was really more of a crisis of identity, because my faith wasn’t diminished, I just didn’t know what to do with the faith I had. During our conversation, he told me: “It sounds like you are experiencing a reorientation of your faith around the person of Jesus. It sounds like you’re no longer oriented on a tradition, or specific doctrine, but simply oriented on Jesus.”

For the first time in months, I experienced clarity like never before.

I just wanted to follow Jesus, period. I wasn’t interested in the Americanized version, wasn’t interested in black and white fundamentalist thinking, and wasn’t interested in the never ending garbage unfairly gets associated with him.

I just wanted him- because his way seems the best way, the most exciting way, and certainly the most radical way to live.

So, I quit being a Christian so that I could better follow Jesus.

Today, while there’s certainly nothing wrong with the label of Christian and I obviously wouldn’t refuse it, I prefer to self-identify simply as a follower of Jesus which has been tremendously helpful in transforming my life. Here are my reasons:

1. The term Christian means “Christ-like”, and that doesn’t describe me.

Sure, I want to be “Christ-like”, but no matter how hard I try, I’m not. I am broken, insecure, imperfect, flawed… to the core of my being. The only thing I ever found compelling about Calvinism was the concept of total depravity– I get that, because there’s not a single area of my life that’s pure. There’s not an area of my life that is actually “Christ-like”.

Jesus, is everything I am not but everything I wish that I could be. So, if I’m to be completely honest, for me to call myself a Christian would be the sin of dishonesty, because I’m not anything like him. He is totally different than me.

2. The term Christian implies that I have arrived at something, and I haven’t.

Probably a more accurate way to use the term would be to say that “I am trying to become Christian” (Christ-like). But to say I’m already there? I’m not. Anytime I can get just one small area of my life to actually be Christ-like, I celebrate as I look over my shoulder and see 19 other areas of my life that are totally not-like-Christ.

When I think of being a Christian, I get tempted to think I’ve arrived. When I get tempted to think that I’ve arrived, I start acting like I have- which breeds laziness, arrogance, and keeps me disconnected from the broken world around me which hasn’t arrived at anything yet either. I don’t want to separate myself from a broken and messy world- instead, I’d prefer to be right next to everyone else who’s like me (which is all of us) so that I can point towards the one who is gentle, loving, slow to anger, and who will one day clean up what’s messy and fix what’s been broken.

3. The term “Jesus Follower” seems entirely more accurate and appropriate, so that’s how I self-identify.

When you’re following someone, it’s because you can’t get there on your own. It’s because you don’t actually know where you are going, and you have no hope of arrival if you’re not closely following behind someone who actually knows where they’re going. THAT is a far more truthful description of where I am at… I don’t have a clue how to get where I am going, but I’m happy to simply be on the path in the direction of Jesus.

Second, the term follower implies that I am attempting to do something. I so desperately want to be like Jesus- and each day is simply an attempt, as I follow. But, I fail more than I succeed, which proves even more that the title of “Christian” would be completely inaccurate for me to own.

4. When I quit being a Christian so that I could better follow Jesus, the Bible made a lot more sense.

Before my reorientation of faith around Jesus and following his example, I missed a whole lot in scripture. Since my orientation was around doctrine, there seemed to be a reason, excuse, or a loophole for everything. There were justifications for war, violence, the death penalty, greed… but once I reorientated my life around Jesus, I started to pay attention to what he said and take it much more seriously.

Stuff like “turn the other cheek”, “put down your sword”, “love your enemies”, and “whatever you’ve done to the least of these…” started become statements that I never again wanted to avoid, dodge, or explain away as I used to when I was a Christian.

As a Jesus follower, the “red words” become the lifeblood of faith and the compass for daily life. I see all the rest of scripture through the filter of the life, teachings, and example of Jesus.

So, while there’s no running away from a term that’s been here since Antioch, I’m personally not a fan of it for the simple fact that it’s not the best way to describe me.

I’m just a Jesus follower.

A messed up, broken, follower.

And, I’ve grown to be very okay with that.


The first in a 7 part series on the core-convictions of being an Anabaptist.

Anabaptist Core-Conviction #1

“Jesus is our example, teacher, friend, redeemer, and Lord. He is the source of our life, the central reference point for our faith and lifestyle, for our understanding of the church, and our engagement with society. We are committed to following Jesus as well as worshiping him.”

[1. Muray, Stuart. The Naked Anabaptist. Herald Press. 2010]

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  • mia

    just because a person labels himself ‘christian’ does not mean he is a follower of ‘Jesus”…..Jesus’ true followers knows this. christians are a group or groups of people who CLAIM to be christ-like but really or not. thank you.

  • mia

    You do not need a church. Christ lives inside of those who loves him

  • mia

    You are on the right road now. ‘christianty is a enemy of christ. Jesus is one spirit and christianity are many. Look at all the evil people in the world that sat that they are christians.

  • mia

    Read the bible for yourself and ask ‘Jesus to come into your heart.

  • Johnny

    Your final statement “I’m OK with that” You should never be OK with just being a follower, you should be striving to be more that just a follower. I also have quit following the teaching of the local church but I claim to be a disciple of Jesus be cause I’m always learning from His teachings and like you His teachings have become more clear to me sense I left the confines of worldly Christianity. I applaud you for sharing your message as you did. Your on the right path; keep Him in focus.

  • How is it possible to become more than a follower of Jesus? That’s the pinnacle.

  • Johnny

    Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone
    wants to become my follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.
    Luke 9:23 Then he said to them all, “If anyone wants to
    become my follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me.
    Luke 14:27 Whoever does not carry his own cross and follow
    me cannot be my disciple.
    When Jesus said “take up your cross and follow me” He was
    headed for Golgotha. Are you still willing to follow Him?
    To just follow Jesus is one thing, there have been many
    people who have followed, but there’s always a point where you’re not willing to continue because of the treacherous terrain (some where your just not willing to go); but if you’ve given yourself to Him in complete submission then you are not just merely following Him but you have surrendered to His guidance. Then where ever He goes regardless of the consequences or the cost, you will follow. This is being more than “just” a follower. Just being a follower can turn back at any time.
    Sometimes things get ruff, sometimes money gets tight,
    sometimes evil will seem to prevail in a bad situation; in these times people who have followed at a distance will give up because it would seem to them that God had forsaken them. Jesus was betrayed, humiliated, condemned and put to death, and He endured it to the bitter end… Yet through it all, after it was all said and done, God was Glorified… Some people are not willing to follow Jesus to the conclusion of a bad situation and see the Glorify of our Almighty God. So don’t just follow Jesus – Make a commitment to surrender to His will as His disciple.

    Johnny Miller

  • Kammy Billeisen Chambers

    I recommend looking up my church Wiregrass Church. Our pastor is Andy Stanley. ..Charles Stanley’s son, but oh so different than daddy.

  • YH

    I struggled with the same issue for a long time(Totally get St Paul’s helplessness to change himself, totally get total depravity and St Augustine).
    The good news of Christianity is that impossible is now possible. A grown person can change, in totality, inside out. We can be Christ-like because God gave himself to us to unite with us. It’s not a metaphor or a doctrine we are obliged to believe although it doesn’t manifest itself in real life at all. It’s a real, experiential thing. It’s not like constant self-discipline to do good according to the Word outside of us, but it feels like a natural manifestation of your own personality, except for the fact that it’s technically not. It’s God’s. The Word is a person, a person who resides in us! He’s not a set of rules, or a disciplinarian outside us.

    But to reach this point, I believe the soul should go through something like a second conversion, where you love God for God Himself and Himself alone, not even for good and godly things He gives. This is subject to the person’s walk of faith but God knows very well how to get a soul there, if you are willing. A total surrender enables a union with God like never before. Because of this closest union between the two souls, you deify, become like God(A doctrine in Eastern Orthodox). I would have condemned this kind of doctrine as heretic but now I get it. Oh by the way I am Catholic, and my frequent confessions and Sacrament of Confirmation helped me get to this point.