In her Sexual Authenticity, Melinda Selmys says that the distinction between “traditional” and “alternative” families is often misunderstood: “At the heart of it is distinction between family as something we choose to meet our own needs and desires (for comfort, security, affection, etc.), and family as something that we are thrust into and that makes claims on our moral and integral humanity” (113). The difference is that traditional families have a quality of givenness, thrownness, that alternative families cannot replicate.... Read more





