The Mormon Therapist
The following is a comment I made on Mormon Mommy Blogs. I welcome a discussion on the comments being made regarding addiction.
I do not wish to stir any controversy. With that being said, I feel it is important to point out that one of the common denominators current research is finding when they study sex addicts is that 77% of them come from what they deem “rigid” families. Rigidity meaning there is little room for behavior, thoughts or communication that are deemed outside of the family’s rules or belief system. Unfortunately, we as religious families can often fall under this category. Therefore, although it is important for each family to decide what TV shows, books, and other material is appropriate in their home, it is also important to understand that how these decisions are made and that they are made differently in different households is equally important. People will have different definitions of what a romance novel entails as well as what is an appropriate television show. I am beginning to sense a level of judgment and concurrent snowball effect that leaves me feeling uncomfortable with how many might interpret the comments being made. It is exactly this type of communication and rigid boundary setting that leave addicts and their families feeling isolated to begin with. I am by no means implying that we should not have appropriate boundaries. We should. However, HOW we go about this boundary setting, HOW we communicate, and how comfortable we are with the tolerance needed to accept that others may set their boundaries differently from us are equally important.
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