The Mormon Therapist
There is a questionnaire posted on an LDS men’s sexuality blog that might get the ball rolling without having to sign-up/pay for classes in sex ed. It seemed pretty extensive and some of the readers commented on how sharing it with their spouse really opened up discussion.
http://marriedman-goodinbed.blogspot.com/2009/07/couples-questionnaireconversation-list.html
Thanks for sharing this resource. I think this is a great place for couples to begin to have a very frank and open discussion regarding their sexuality. Some may find some of the items on this questionnaire offensive. I hope that is not where one would choose to focus. I would rather a couple communicate about NOT liking something, than being too offended to state their dislike in the first place. And you might be pleasantly surprised at what the both of you DO like. What is paramount about having this type of discussion is the ability for the couple to be open, honest and safe while having it. In other words, if you don’t like an answer – focus more on the fact that your spouse was willing to share that answer with you than on the fact that you didn’t like it or that it made you feel uncomfortable. The ability to share this type of vulnerability will help raise both the respect and intimacy of any couple.
Having promoted this type of discussion, I do not want to discourage couples from taking a class on sex ed if that is what they feel would be helpful to them. The sexual journey a couple chooses to take can include all types of appropriate resources.
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