Could you tell me what a clitoris is?

Its me again! Wife who gets frustrated by other wives denying sex from their husbands.

I just wanted to share with you that I was recently in a group of women and the topic of sex came up. These women were making negative comments and obviously thought that sex was a thing of the world or that it was for men only.

I am so proud of myself. I listened non-judgementally. Yes, me! I was able to share my thoughts kindly. I was daring. I even asked them what the purpose of the clitoris was. No one said anything. I told them that it was a gift from God to enjoy with their husbands. I shared my “testimony” if you will that sex in marriage is how God designed for us to be, beyond its procreative powers.

Afterwards, one married women of 17 years came up to me shyly, “Could you tell me what a clitoris is?” In my mind I really wanted to react, what!? But I refrained. I kindly told her. She told me that she always wondered what that clump of skin was for. She had not experienced the “O” either. 

17 years! No wonder she thought sex was for men. 

I am so proud that you were able to control your own reactivity enough to make yourself useful in what I’m sure was a difficult conversation.  The fact that you are willing to be daring and caring in dispelling unhealthy myths or stereotypes is a wonderful act of service.  That this woman was willing to approach you with what I’m sure she felt was an embarrassing question, means you were highly successful.  Onward, ever onward!

I would highly encourage all women and all married men to become educated in the way of female anatomy.  It can be surprisingly complicated.  But understanding female anatomy can be extremely beneficial in understanding the female body as well as female sexuality. Reaching orgasm (‘the O”) can be more complicated for women.  Some prefer direct clitoral stimulation (which many sexual positions do not allow) while others are more successful with indirect contact.  It is imperative that women discuss their needs for orgasm with their husbands, and that a couple experiment together with different positions and touches until she is successful in obtaining this beautiful release.  If either is unwilling to do this, then sex can become a chore or a “man thing” which is highly detrimental to the relationship.  

The following excerpt and graph is taken from wikipedia:

The clitoris is a sexual organ that is present only in female mammals. In humans, the visible button-like portion is located near the anterior junction of the labia minora, above the opening of the urethra and vagina. Unlike the penis, which is homologous to the clitoris, the clitoris does not contain the distal portion of the urethra, and FUNCTIONS SOLELY TO INDUCE SEXUAL PLEASURE. 

Clitoris
The internal anatomy of the human vulva, with the clitoral hood and labia minora indicated as lines. The clitoris extends from the visible portion to a point below the pubic bone.
Gray’s	subject #270 1266
Artery	Dorsal artery of clitoris, deep artery of clitoris
Vein	Superficial dorsal veins of clitoris, deep dorsal vein of clitoris
Nerve	Dorsal nerve of clitoris
Precursor	Genital tubercle
MeSH	Clitoris
Dorlands/Elsevier	Clitoris