I Find It Frustrating That Many Husbands Are Expected To Accept A Wives Response That She Is No Longer Interested In Sex.

I posted earlier about my frustration with other women denying their husbands sex. I have since worked through more of my issue.

Thanks for posting this. I appreciate what is written. I agree with this writer that the most frustrating part is a spouse that is apathetic to the other spouse about sexual needs. (Fortunately, my husband meets my needs).
I find it frustrating that many husbands are expected to accept a wives response that she is no longer interested in sex. I hope husbands realize that this isn’t healthy and let their wives know that it isn’t healthy for the marriage.

I wholeheartedly agree that “I am no longer interested in sex” is not an appropriate stance to take within a marriage. My hope is that through proper education and reaching out, women or men who find themselves wanting to take this stance can find the hope and motivation to not give up. Being asexual is not part of the “plan of happiness.” It is not what Heavenly Father wants for an individual. And it is also not what Heavenly Father wants for a spouse. Marriage is supposed to be the place where our sexuality can be expressed freely, safely, kindly and exuberantly. If this is currently not the case, then there is work to be done. And hopefully the work can go forward in as non-judgmental and enjoyable of a process as possible. In fact, couples who are willing to do “sex work” can sometimes reach higher levels of intimacy than couples who think their sex life is fine. This is because they do work that forces them to look at all aspects of their marriage and of themselves, which in of itself, is an intimacy producing process. I hope my message is one that offers the desire to persevere and move forward towards unchartered and exciting territory.