Are sexual toys inappropriate?

Thanks!

I don’t necessarily see it as my role to tell couples what is or is not appropriate when it comes to their sexual preferences, creativity and recreation.  I see this more as a healthy exercise between you and your spouse to explore.  What might be bond-producing in your relationship may not translate into healthy sexuality for another couple.  There is nothing that currently comes to mind that I would deem inherently inappropriate as far as “sex toys” go.  At the same time, I am not going to go as far as to imply that I am aware of all that is available.

Some good questions to ask yourselves when incorporating any type of sexual nuance into your marriage:

• Does this help us feel more connected?
• Does this help us have fun and feel creative in our approach?
• Are we both comfortable (is anyone feeling coerced)?
• Does this help one of us achieve orgasm more easily?
• Are we avoiding causing physical harm to either partner in our sexual play (i.e. bruising, affixiation, etc.)?

And remember, just because you try a new tool – doesn’t mean you have to keep it.  Some of this is just a trial and error process.  Explore.  Be creative.  Have a good sense of humor.  Communicate.  When something works, add it to your repertoire.
If you have a more specific question as to particularly what you are referencing, let me know.