My husband is out of town. We have a very healthy and active sex life and we want to know how to stay bonded in that way while he is gone. Is phone sex okay? We have never touched ourselves and want to know what mutual masturbation is and if it is considered unholy and impure? (We want to visualize each other and hear each other speak and masturbate to each other). Yes, phone sex is okay! I have written... Read more
23 yo female… I’m so glad you asked this. I’m in a very similar situation– the depression, pornography and difficult times. I only did it for about a year on and off. I also masturbated a handful of times, but it’s been quite a while since I did either (at least 8 months). I think a lot of my worry and feelings of guilt come from not knowing how serious this is. I prayed about this for a considerable space... Read more
Two comments: I posted the original question about my husband’s low desire. I found this post on sexual tips very helpful in the sense that it made me feel less alone, but I’m wondering if you have any further thoughts on what to actually do about the issue? Thank you so much for this wonderful blog! This post on sexual tips was so helpful! Like the previous commenter said, it made me feel less alone in my situation; less hopeless.... Read more
I want to wish a wonderful Father’s Day to all of you fathers. I know many of you work hard to provide for your families – financially, spiritually and emotionally- and to juggle varying responsibilities. I hope you can feel appreciation and love for all that you do. For those who find this day difficult -for whatever reason- may we all remember to celebrate our relationship with our Father in Heaven. May we bask in His unconditional love and concern... Read more
I think my husband has serious depression issues — bordering on suicidal tendencies. Off and on, for years, he has mentioned that things would be better if he wasn’t around. When confronted with hard issues he tells me he routinely hopes he’ll get hit and killed by a semi on his way to/from work. In his own words “wishing I was dead all the time is because I can’t find any point of sticking around and lots of reasons to... Read more
This was a question asked regarding the latest post on childhood masturbation: Is there a certain age where you would start feeling concern if they are continuing in the practice? Yes. I would start feeling concern if the child continued to find it a non-issue to masturbate in public places from first grade on (especially if calling attention to themselves and even being teased by other children does not have an impact on the cessation of the behavior). When a... Read more
I am 23 year old female, and I have some questions about pornography. During my teen years there were several occasions (4 or 5 maybe?) when I would stumble across pornography on the TV at night. I would watch sometimes for 5-10 mins and there were times I do recall getting aroused. Sometimes it would not interest me at all and I would change the channel. I think 2 of those times I would seek out pornography on TV because... Read more
I would love to start a commentary (specifically from LDS men) on the following article taken from The Guardian:Men and Porn What resonates and what doesn’t from your own experiences? Women: what resonates in this for you? Do you see similar stories or themes in the men of your lives? Read more
I have a little 5 year old daughter in Kindergarten who struggles with masturbation. Help!!!! She has struggled with this for almost 2 years and it seems to get worse and worse. I have been to the doctor, prayed, tried a sticker chart. She is doing it in her Primary class and at school. We have talked with her about it, but she doesn’t stop. The problem seems to be getting worse. I love her so much, I don’t know... Read more
I’m going to address the following questions/comments all on this one post: I have read a couple of questions and responses pertaining to masturbation. I am female and have been a member all my life, but have never been talked to by anyone about this subject. As a result, I have never thought of it as a sin or frowned upon. Okay, now to explain our situation. My husband and I have not been married long, but I am having... Read more
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