My husband and I don’t really talk during sex. What’s there to talk about? I’m certainly not going to talk about something other than sex because then I get distracted and the mood totally dies. Or we can talk about sex, but talking about sex while you’re actually doing it seems stupid it me. And saying stuff like, “Do you like that? How about that?” just seems like silly porn talk to me. I would laugh out loud if my... Read more

The Scarred Soul: Understanding & Ending Self-Inflicted Violence by Tracy Alderman, PhD Read more

For the most part, I try to answer questions in the order they are received.  However, due to the volume of questions I receive, I am unable to answer all of them. What you can expect from the different titles on my blog:Direct Question: Question or comment that has either been posted on my blog or that I have come across through other avenues. FYI: Information and resources that I come across and think would be useful to my audience.... Read more

“Research shows that the primary complaints leading to divorce are not physical abuse or addiction but, rather, lack of communication, lack of affection and nagging (Hetherington, Cox, and Cox, 1981, p. 58).”Taken from Divorce Busting by Michele Weiner-Davis. Read more

I have been in therapy for most of the last several years. My therapist warned me when I started that therapy was likely to result in the end of my marriage. She doesn’t tell me what I should do, but has continued to say that she thinks I probably will leave the marriage eventually if I recover. Neither of us thinks that I am ready to leave yet, although there were times when I thought that I was and she... Read more

Natasha, maybe you could help with my question. I’m an LDS woman, married for almost 19 years, with 3 children (youngest is 11, oldest is 17). I feel trapped because I was not ready or mature enough when I got married to know what I wanted, and I haven’t ever been in love, or attracted to my husband. I went through the motions and did what I was taught that I was supposed to do, gave up on any goals... Read more

After paying for a telephone consultation please send me an email at natasha.parker@sbcglobal.net and leave me the following: -a phone number where I can reach you-who I should ask for when I call-the best times to schedule a consultation-general topic you would like to discuss After I receive your request, I will email you (usually within 48 hours) and we will schedule a time (central daily standard time). I will also send you two attachments consisting of basic information I... Read more

Full question:A few weeks ago, my husband sat me down and told me he is gay. We have both been on emotional roller coaster ever since. Am I crazy to think that our marriage can make it? My overriding answer to this question is YES, you can make it!! I don’t mean to sound glib in my response for I am well aware that many couples in this situation choose to separate. This is a very personal and extremely difficult... Read more

Creating this blog has been a tremendously rewarding experience. The issues you’ve shared with me and your fellow visitors confirm all over again why I chose this profession. While the issues we discuss are always challenging and sometimes heartbreaking, I’m continually convinced that solutions exist to the relationship and individual problems we face. Sometimes the biggest step is simply the first one – sharing. Like each of my children, this blog is growing rapidly! I launched this blog 10 months... Read more