Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Can You Like a Man Without Knowing it?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Can You Like a Man Without Knowing it? February 1, 2017

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Okay, on to today’s question:

Can you like a man without knowing it?

To make a very long story, very short.

There is a young lady that I have met about 9 months ago and our friendship has been getting closer and closer. About a month after meeting her, I have decided to keep our friendship growing and have decided to pursue her. It seemed like from the very beginning we connected really well and there seemed to be an attraction on both ends.

A few days ago I have decided to spill the beans and tell the girl how I feel about her and offer to court her if the feelings are mutual and just in case they weren’t, then I decided that it would be best to split our ways. I was very confident that our feelings were mutual. All the signs were there. To my surprise she was very shocked to hear that from me and told me she couldn’t give me an answer.

After further talking she asked me if it’s possible to like somebody without knowing it after I told her why I thought our feelings were mutual. I was kinda stumped and confused. My understanding is that you either like someone or you don’t. I told her that I will give her time and space for as long as she needs to decide.

I of course have been praying for this for months and have never felt so confident about pursuing a young lady. But this question has me quite puzzled honestly. Maybe somebody can break it down for me. Thank you and God bless you for taking the time :)

Now this is a guy asking for advice and most of what he was told was to pray. Then he went on to describe himself and it looks almost more like a ‘Compliment me’ situation in a ‘see what a great catch I am?’ sort of way.

Here’s a little about myself. I’m about 6″1′, muscular build and workout at the gym 2-3 days outta the week on average. There is a good number of young ladies chasing me around at church and out of church. I am also a youth minister.

Is this even worth responding to with a real answer or is he just trolling for admiration?

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