3 Things You Should Avoid This Ramadan To Make It More Spiritually Meaningful | Ro Waseem

3 Things You Should Avoid This Ramadan To Make It More Spiritually Meaningful | Ro Waseem June 16, 2015

Ramadan is my favorite time of the year. No, not because of fasting (that is rather uncomfortable!), but because of the spiritual highs I experience from re-reading and reflecting on the Quran in this month. For me, Ramadan is a time of solitude and introspection. A time to exclusively dedicate all my energies in improving my relationship and connection with God.

Wouldn’t it be  revolutionary if all of us Muslims could dedicate this month in reforming ourselves and then staying that way even when Ramadan has passed us by? Unfortunately, this just doesn’t happen.

As Ramadan approaches, certain Muslims suddenly change character. They fast, occupy the mosques, read the Quran, give away in charities, and try to avoid all the detrimental things they’ve become accustomed to. But as soon as it is over, they revert back to their ways of old, happily content that they’ve performed their religious rights and have pleased God. It’s almost as if Eid liberates them from their moral responsibilities they so fervently upheld in Ramadan!

So, here are the three things you should try to avoid in this Ramadan:


1. Don’t Take Fasting As An End In Itself

I’ve always thought of Ramadan as a training program, and this really helps me keep things in perspective. To convey my point, let’s take the example of an intensive revision class set up by your university to help you achieve your goal: passing the exam.

Now here’s what happens: The students make it incumbent upon themselves to attend every class, but pay no attention whatsoever to what they’re doing. Having sat in these classes for a month, they expect the professor to be pleased with them for attending all his classes, hoping that he would pass them in the exam because of their dedication. Unprepared as they were, they miserably fail the exam, and thus repeat the year. For many, this becomes an on-going process. But, any sign of progress is nowhere to be found!

This is what happens every year for many Muslims. A major factor of why this happens, though, is because religious people tend to take their rituals and rights as an end in themselves, rather than taking them as a means to an end. They think, albeit naively, that performing these rituals somehow pleases God, and so they have no incentive to make an effort and derive any values from the rituals they perform.

The mere act of fasting, in no way, pleases God, I would think. This is an idea alien to the Quran. Rather, the purpose of fasting is that it should teach us self-control, make us more conscious of God (2:183), and help us develop an attitude of gratitude (2:185). It is these values that God wants us to attain in Ramadan.

Otherwise, what’s the point?


2. Don’t Read The Quran In A Language You Don’t Understand

I can’t emphasize this point enough, and this is something that needs to be stressed frequently, before we come out of the Arab-supremacy complex.

I can relate to how daunting it seems to pick up the Quran and read it for the first time, especially if you’re not much of a reader. So, for those of you that have never read the Quran, the month of Ramadan provides an excellent platform. Presumably, your family members would already be reading the Quran this month, so the environment is all in your favor! However, I implore you not to read the Quran in Arabic if you don’t understand it. Indeed, that defeats the whole purpose of sending down revelation:


A book we have revealed to you so that it may bring people out of ignorance, towards enlightenment.” Quran, 14:1


The purpose of the Quran has never been to encourage people to read it for the sake of it, or to attain rewards. The purpose is to enlighten humankind. Needless to say, you don’t become enlightened by reading it in a foreign language.

As I wrote previously in a blog,

“What was supposed to be a book with a revolutionary message, you revolve around it, not understanding a word of what it says.

What was supposed to be a book that was meant to transform your heart, you don’t even let it cross your brain.”

If you’re looking to read the entire Quran this month, then let me do the math for you. There are 30 Juz (parts) in the Quran, each Juz consisting of roughly 20 pages. So, 30 days and 30 Juz. Still with me? Good. 1 juz every day. 20 pages. Yeah, not so much, is it? Of course, there is no “rule” that you have to read the entire Quran. Read whatever is easy to read. Quality over quantity, always!

[ You’d probably have a translation of the Quran in your home, but if not, you should download this translation here.]

Moreover, if you intend to attend Taraweeh, do realize that although these are optional, they’re a great way of reviewing the message of the Quran in Ramadan. I’ll repeat this again: Please don’t just stand there for the sake of it, having no idea of what is being recited. It defeats the purpose. Take your translation with you to the mosque, or if you don’t have one, you could always download it on your cell phone and take that instead. Whatever you do, make good use of it!

To encourage you further, here are some chapter summaries of the Quran to get you started.


3. Don’t Donate Money Only To Attain Rewards

To donate money in hopes of accumulating rewards is very paradoxical indeed!

The purpose of giving is just that: giving! No more, no less. We should help others, not only in Ramadan but all year round, simply because it is the right thing to do. It is what the soul yearns for! Expecting “rewards” for our service makes the whole process unnatural. It’s no more about benefiting others anymore, it becomes self centered. The ego comes in: “What can I get from this?”

Give, because you are fortunate enough to share your resources with others. Give, because it is your moral responsibility. Give, because it is only through giving do we truly thank God for our blessings. Give, not to earn rewards, but to play your part as a responsible citizen of the world.

Rabia Al-Basra expresses this sentiment most eloquently:

O Lord,
If I worship You
From fear of Hell, burn me in Hell.
O Lord,
If I worship You
From hope of Paradise, bar me from its gates.
But if I worship You for Yourself alone
Then grace me forever the splendor of Your Face.


Final Thoughts

It’s always best to maintain a balance, and Ramadan is no exception. Don’t burn yourself, but don’t waste it either. What are the goals you wish to achieve this Ramadan? Jot them down, now! Written goals are easier to review and evaluate progress.

A major theme of the Quran is that of accountability, self-control, and being conscious of God. If you think about it, these are the values that fasting should help us internalize. If we internalize these values from the core of our being, then nothing could steer us towards immorality.

This Ramadan, regain control of yourself!

Source: Beawiharta/Reuters
Source: Beawiharta/Reuters








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