Why Defining Moments Matter For All Of Us

Last updated on: May 4, 2024 at 9:06 am By Kurt W. Bubna

Defining moments in life can happen fast and unexpectedly or result from something planned. Perhaps it is starting a new job, finishing college, or experiencing the death of a loved one. A defining experience is when something significant and sometimes painful takes place that you will never forget. Those moments often reveal who you are and what you value. And they frequently influence many other subsequent related experiences. These life-impacting moments force us to overcome our fears and act. That’s why defining moments are... Read more

What You Must Remember About Getting Old(ish)

Last updated on: April 26, 2024 at 9:12 am By Kurt W. Bubna

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We, collectively as a nation, are getting older—much older. About one in four people fall under the category of “senior citizen.” The number of boomers (those born between 1946 and 1964) alive today is about 64 million. According to one report, “the aging of the baby boomers is creating a dramatic shift in the age composition of the U.S. population.” Furthermore, many of the boomers are working much later than expected. Perhaps it’s inflation, the rising cost of living, or high... Read more

Three Ways to Handle Religious Bullies

Last updated on: May 1, 2024 at 9:16 pm By Kurt W. Bubna

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A lot of Christians reacted in anger when I posted on my social media accounts that I’m in favor of tattoos and body piercings. Rather than sinful, I see it all as art and artistic expression. For some reason, people think they can get away with verbal bullying and downright rudeness on the interwebs. Sadly, too often, Christians are the worst offenders. Sometimes, things that might get you punched in the face if you said them to someone within range... Read more

Are Divorced People Stupid?

Last updated on: April 29, 2024 at 3:49 pm By Kurt W. Bubna

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Despite how many in the Church treat divorced people, divorce is not an unpardonable sin. Nonetheless, it’s almost always painful. Jesus made it clear that divorce “pulls apart what God has put together.” Even if a couple separates amicably, tearing two back into one hurts your soul (and wallet). However, when married people split in heartbroken anger, it’s excruciating, and the nuclear fallout burns anyone within range. The prophet Malachi wrote, “For I hate divorce, says the Lord the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with... Read more

What An Unexpected Death Can Teach You About Life

Last updated on: April 24, 2024 at 8:04 am By Kurt W. Bubna

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Death is not a topic many of us want to think about or read about. Few of us want to be reminded of the fact that there is a 100% mortality rate for humans. When we’re young, we act like we’ll live to be at least a hundred. But the century mark seems to approach far too fast when we’re older. My wife’s aunt, Bonnie, passed away recently. She was only 77 and seemed relatively healthy for her age, but... Read more

How To Resolve Conflict Without Nuking Your Relationships

Last updated on: April 18, 2024 at 9:58 am By Kurt W. Bubna

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Conflict happens, and no one likes to hear this, but healthy conflict is good in our relationships. When we fight fair, conflict helps us to set appropriate boundaries and express our honest feelings. What makes conflict challenging is our tendency to stockpile our hurtful experiences rather than openly address them in a helpful and godly manner. People who say little things don’t matter have never tried sleeping with mosquitoes in their room. I agree with Sarah Osborn, “Healthy conflict does require... Read more

Why Shame Is A Problem And What To Do About It

Last updated on: April 18, 2024 at 10:03 am By Kurt W. Bubna

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When it comes to relationships, shame is a silencer. When overwhelmed by the shadows of shame, we hide in fear of rejection. Too often, we are frightened posers who live behind masks in terror of being too vulnerable and too transparent with others. Why the masks? We humans fear that if people knew the real us, they would discard us, and one of our greatest fears is the fear of rejection. Sadly, we broken creatures are often a mix of... Read more

Why You Must Check To See If Your Friends Are Laughing

Last updated on: April 18, 2024 at 5:37 am By Kurt W. Bubna

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When someone is wounded and hurting, they stop laughing. When someone is suffering, smiling is impossible. Laughter is replaced with echoes of agony. How do you tell if someone is soul-sick? What can we check to see if someone is suffering from depression, anxiety, or sorrow? Is there an instrument of sorts available to us to let us know when someone we are in a relationship with is hurting? Scientific evidence provides us with an answer: laughter. The loss of... Read more