let me rephrase that…

… perhaps I should have been clearer when I celebrated being a loser at love. I was in no way implying that being single meant you were a loser. I was referring to myself, in that I am doing it wrong. And that is no exaggeration.

This is how I should have been doing it…

“Perhaps what single people are doing wrong is giving up. Sure, they keep praying. But is it just token prayer to God because they know they should pray, but don’t really want to anymore? Or maybe, God forbid, they have stopped praying because they feel they have prayed enough. They decide God must not want them to be married, or that it will happen in God’s time despite any further prayer.

Or perhaps they are not praying for the right things. Prayer for a spouse should include asking for all those called to marriage to have the courage to act on it, lest their free will decision to not act affect the lives of others whom they were supposed to marry and have children with. It should include visits to the Blessed Sacrament begging Jesus to help them heal from their own issues so as not to bring unhealthy issues into their relationships. Most of all, it should include asking for perseverance in prayer and an increase of faith.” [excellent source]

As for me, yes I stopped praying for a spouse. I’ve actually quit caring. I doubt this is good. Or maybe it is. Maybe it means acceptance. But probably just apathy. I think I was desiring a spouse for all the wrong reasons. Or maybe it was all the right reasons but I was confused about the source.

Anyway, I have found the frequency of blog posting is in direct correlation to my prayer life. I haven’t done either with any regularity for quite some time.