Six Tips For Engaging in Conflict Without Destroying One Another

6)   Find the tunnel’s light

 Nothing is worse than that moment in a conflict when you wonder why are we yelling at one another?! We put blinders on when we disagree. Take the blinders off and be reminded of the vision of your relationship – to love one another, be in unity together, etc.

 Look for the light at the end of the tunnel. When an olive branch is offered, don’t slap it away. Allow yourself to ask why are we fighting and answer it honestly.

 You are fighting because someone’s value has been threatened and the natural sparking of iron sharpening iron is floating in the air, threatening to turn your relationship to ash. Look for the value in conflict and name it.

 Allow yourself to break free of its tangles before the healthy exercise of conflict resolution turns into something irreparable.