Is ‘The List’ About What You Want in a Spouse Poisoning Your Expectations?

It’s a common practice among singles. The making of The List. This is a catalog of the things the single wants in a spouse. The idea being to establish a standard to help guide them toward finding a spouse and having a healthy marriage. Name exactly what you want and don’t settle for anything else.

Is this a healthy practice for singles? Are they establishing healthy boundaries or setting unhealthy expectations?

The Good Part

Intentionality is a good thing. Purpose and aim resonates deep within our souls. This is what drives singles towards making The List in the first place. We don’t want to just let things happen to us. We want to be proactive about what it is we are pursuing.

It is a great practice for singles to name a vision for their life and to be mindful of pursuing a partner in alignment with that vision. The rallying cry for hopeful singles is ‘never settle’, the idea being that we should not marry just anyone. It needs to be someone we are well suited for.