No matter why a relationship ends, a broken heart feels awful. We can know that it is in our best interest that we “get over it” and move on, but that is still a tough task. Emotional healing takes time and care to accomplish. Hopefully, this spell will speed the process. At the very least, it will keep your hands busy, and force you to indulge in the self-care you need to do anyway. This spell takes significant preparation that should start just after a full moon, with the collection and blending of ingredients as the moon wanes.
This is a two part spell: You kick off the spell at the Dark moon – or within thirteen hours before “New Moon.” We begin with a purification and release of old emotional bonds. Then, the next day with the kick-off of a new lunation at the New moon, and throughout the waxing phase, we restore our wholeness and build self-love. There are candles, oils, bath sachets and incense blends to make, and ultimately a charm bag to fill and wear as a talisman of emotional healing.
Broken Heart Repair Spell for both Waning and Waxing Lunar Phases
Begin this process of collection and preparation just after the full moon passes into the waning lunar phase.
- Small blue drawstring bag or pouch on a long cord that can be worn around the neck and hang to heart level.
- Self-lighting Charcoal Pucks, like these from Swiftlite (for Hookah pipes)
- a heat-safe dish or censer for burning loose incense. I prefer a wee cauldron with sand, like this one from Azure Green.
- 1 black chime candle (banishment)
- 1 blue chime candle (peace)
- A chime candle holder of some sort, obviously.
- Small Rose Quartz stone
- Small Sodalite Stone
- Prepared Emotional Purification Bath Sachet in muslin bag. (see recipe below)
- Prepared Self-Love Empowerment Oil (see recipe below)
- Prepared Emotional Healing loose herbal incense blend. (see recipe below)
- Three additional juniper berries.
- Three additional rose petals.
- A personal concern – or a tag-lock. This can be a strand of your hair, a nail clipping, or your personal sigil, etc.
- 1 small square of blue intention paper that can be easily rolled into a scroll to fit inside the pouch.
Emotional Purification Bath Sachet
- Half-cup of Sea Salt
- Half-cup of Epsom Salt
- Muslin bag filled with:
- Rose petals or Lavender: Love, protection, sleep, peace and tranquility.*
- Hyssop: Promotes spiritual opening. Also used for cleansing and purification. Lightens vibrations.*
- Angelica Root: Exorcism, protection, healing*
- Lemon Peel: Water, Cleansing, purification, removal of blockages, spiritual opening.*
*Correspondences found at SacredWicca.com
Save three rose petals for the pouch below.
Emotional Healing Incense Blend
For detailed instructions on how to blend a loose incense for magickal purposes, check out my article Magickal Herbalism like you Really Mean It.
- 2 parts Powdered Myrrh resin: Moon, Water, Emotional Healing, Goddess.*
- 2 parts Cinnamon Powder: Fire, strength, tranquility, God.*
- 1 part Thyme leaf: Water, Purification, healing, strength, loyalty.*
- 1 part Rosemary leaf: Fire, Protection, love, mental powers, exorcism, purification, healing*
- 1 part Juniper berry: Protection, purification, healing.*
- *Correspondences found at SacredWicca.com
Save three juniper berries for the pouch below.
Self-Love Empowerment Oil
In a small jar, infuse the following
- 4 ounces Jojoba Oil – this is great for the skin, and has a much longer shelf life than any other carrier oil.
- One vanilla bean, split open – Venus, Love
- Peel of a small Orange – Sun, Happiness, Empowerment
- hand-full of dried red or pink rose petals – Venus, Love
- small rose quartz
Allow to infuse in a warm place for at least a week, or until you are ready to begin your spell at Dark moon. Strain out the plant material and bottle the Self-Love Empowerment oil with the rose quartz. Make sure to date and label your creation. Trust me, you’ll forget later if you don’t.
Dark Moon: Release of Old Bonds
On the eve of the Dark moon while she is still waning (preferably within the 13 hours preceding the new moon), and be careful of the exact time, draw a hot bath, add the salts, and then swirl the herbal bath sachet through the water counter clockwise. State your intention that this bath serve to purify you of all baneful thoughts and emotions, and will break all unwanted connection to your former lover.
Soak in the bath and meditate on any thoughts or feelings, that connection that has to be severed because it is no longer appropriate or good for you, or them. See THE CONNECTION being drawn out of you like a poison, and entering the water. (not the person, per se, but their effect upon you.) Cry it all into the water if you want to cry. Soak for as long as it takes to let it all go, every thought and emotion that does not serve your highest good. This purifying potion you’re sitting in draws it all out, and leaves you healthier and better-balanced.
Now, open the drain and sit there as you watch all the emotional funk, obsession and heartbreak drain away.
Now stand up and take a regular cleansing shower. Shampoo, shave, scrub away all that old, dead skin from the past. Really scour yourself into a shine! I also recommend a haircut at some point soon, and possibly even a fresh start on a beard. Our hair and skin hold our experiences and memories within them. If you want to disconnect from who you were, and things that happened in the past, releasing the hair that was made during that time can help speed that process. I’ve been known to chop a whole foot of hair off after a break-up. It literally felt like a weight was lifted, because it was!Lotion up, anoint your heart area with the self-love oil. Dress in fresh clothes.
Black Candle Dressing:
Facing west, inscribe the black candle with words, names and symbols that describe the old relationship that you are releasing. Anoint it with the emotional healing oil, from the base to the tip, pointing away from your heart area. Sprinkle some of the incense over the candle and rub it into the inscriptions. Focus all your energy and thoughts into this candle until it IS what you release.
If there are pictures of the relationship, set the candle on top of them.
Light the charcoal in a heat safe dish or censer, and when hot, sprinkle some emotional healing incense on the coal. Breathe deeply, ground yourself and declare your intentions aloud. ”I release (Name of Former Lover) and this relationship between us that no longer serves our highest good.”
Light the candle and meditate. As the candle disappears, so do your lingering hurts, desires, obsessive thoughts and all that baggage you don’t need. Breathe deeply, visualizing your own aura filling with white, healing light.
As the moon completely wanes into darkness, let the candle burn away completely. If there are any remains, bury them in the earth away from your own property, preferably in the banks of swift moving water.
New Moon: Self-Love and Wholeness
The second part of the spell begins the next day, and be sure that it is past the time of the new moon (this can be found in almanacs and on the internet). While the moon waxes again, rise in the morning, and prepare yourself for the day in a special way. Put on a favorite outfit of clothes, after-shave, make-up, jewelry, or whatever empowers you and makes you feel ready for the next adventure.
Face west and anoint your heart area with the emotional healing oil. Gather the ingredients for your pouch at your altar. Light some more of your emotional healing incense blend.
Blue Candle Dressing:
Inscribe into the blue candle your own name, words and symbols that describe what you wish to draw into your life. Peace, Happiness, Fulfillment, etc. I caution you against any mention of a new relationship at this point. You need to heal and strengthen yourself first, before you attempt any sort of re-bound relationship. Those are doomed to failure if you don’t go into them with your own head (and heart) on straight.
Anoint the candle with your oil, from the base to the tip, pointing it toward your heart and visualizing all these wishes flowing into your heart.
Write your intention for the future on the blue paper. “I am happy, fulfilled, at peace and moving on into my next adventure.” Here is my example: “My heart is restored to wholeness through Divine Love. Gently, beneficially, for the highest good of all involved, harming none. So mote it be.”
Focus your energy and intentions into the candle until it IS your manifested desires. Read your intention paper aloud, then light the candle.
Charm Bag Charging:
As your candle burns, we’ll hold each stone and ingredient and meditate on what each one can bring to you, then add it to the charm bag.
First, add something personal, or your tag-lock: a token, your sigil, a seed, a strand of your hair.
Anoint the Sodalite stone, tap it three times and blow over the stone. Say awake, awake, awaken to your powers of balance. Picture yourself tapped into that new moon sliver above, and her light flowing through you to the stone. Hold it in your palm, imagine yourself restored to a lightness of heart. Then put in the blue pouch.
Anoint the Rose Quartz stone, tap it three times and blow over the stone. Say awake, awake, awaken to your powers of peace. Tap into the new moon again, flowing into the stone. Imagine yourself glowing with pink light. Then put it the blue pouch.
Hold the three juniper berries in your palm. Tap them three times, blow over them. Awaken their power of healing. Add them to the bag.
Hold the three rose petals in your palm. Tap them, blow over them, and awaken their powers of love. Add them to the bag.
This makes 9 items.
Hold the bag in your hand. Blow into it gently and repeat your intention statement: For example: As the moon waxes to fullness, my heart is restored to wholeness through Divine Love. Gently, beneficially, for the highest good of all involved, harming none. So mote it be.” Roll up the paper tightly and add it to your pouch.
Close it, anoint the pouch with the oil and hold it over the burning incense to be purified and charged one step further. Put it on like a necklace allowing it to rest over your heart. Meditate with the candle and incense as long as you are able. Bury any remains of this candle on your own property, or add them to the pouch.
Waxing Moon: Daily Follow-up
Each day as the moon waxes to fullness, open to the moon’s light, and meditate while wearing your charm pouch. Add another drop of oil into the pouch to “feed it.” Visualize that the moon’s energy is growing within you, restoring your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being. You are a whole, well-balanced, independent person of great value and beauty. You are a perfect child of the god/dess, and your spiritual guides are all around you, cheering you on, and helping to protect you from anything that would derail you from your best life…which is why we can assume the relationship ended. Nothing that happens in a witch’s life is arbitrary, in my opinion.
Try not to dwell on what is ended, or what you’ve lost. Instead, envision your new future as filled with love and adventure. Lean into your new solo path and start making fun plans for yourself. Get out there in the world and do the things you do. Take excellent care of yourself, eat well, attend to your beauty routines, and indulge in life’s simple pleasures: treats, enough sleep, fresh water, exercise, and try to be a little social.
Wear your pouch for as long as you want it with you. When you feel the work is sufficiently complete, at the earliest on the night of the next full moon, give thanks for the fulfillment of the spell, and then keep it on your altar, or near where you sleep.
Remember that life is meant to be enjoyed, and a better future lies ahead! You are a god/dess and don’t you ever forget it!
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