On DOMA, Proposition 8, Homosexuality and My Progressive Islamic Viewpoint

Altmuslim published two viewpoints on homosexuality in Islam and thoughts about equality in marriage, which is being debated by the Supreme Court. The first, which argues that homosexuality and marriage for homosexuals should be accepted in Islam, is from Pamela Taylor. The second, which argues that homosexuality is a sin in Islam, is from Gareth Bryant.

By Pamela K. Taylor

The Supreme Court on Tuesday and Wednesday is hearing arguments about marriage equality for GLBT individuals. A lot of Muslims are squeamish about this issue. They follow traditional interpretations that rule homosexuality or at least homosexual acts to be sinful. How then, they ask, can we accept gay marriage? As a progressive Muslim, I reject those interpretations of the Quran (more on that later) and support gay marriage for various reasons:

1) The Quran is quite clear that love, long-term companionship and sexual relations are a blessing from God and an integral part of what it means to be human. It is also clear that sex should only occur in the context of a committed, publicly acknowledged relationship. To deny marriage to gay people is to condemn them to choose between celibacy — which is unnatural and perhaps even impossible for all but a few — and living in sin.

I cannot believe that a merciful, loving God would make an entire class of people with the capacity for love and attraction, only to present them with such an onerous and tragic choice.

2) The story of Lot, as I and many who share a progressive approach to the Quran read it is not about the GLBT community. It is not about loving, mutually desired relationships. It is about a community who, like all communities, was predominantly straight (thus the Quran tells us that they have wives who were made for them) and who went out robbing and raping travelers.

The Quran is quite clear that Lot’s visitors were not interested in sexual relations, and that Lot was despairing because he had no way to protect them from the mob that came out from the city to have their way regardless of what the visitors or Lot thought about the matter. This is not a description of a committed, loving relationship. It’s a description of violation and violence.

The story of Lot has nothing to say about gay marriage; it has everything to say about people’s individual rights to life, safety, personal property, freedom to travel in the land and about going against the innate drives God has given to us.

This last is a theme that Prophet Muhammad (saw) often addressed, telling us not to go to extremes in our religion — don’t pray or fast excessively, don’t become a hermit, don’t take up celibacy, don’t impoverish yourself through charity, but also don’t be a miser, don’t wear ostentatious clothes but also don’t wear rags, etc., etc. — because our bodies have a right over us. That is, our bodies have innate needs and desires, and we should not deny them, but indulge them within reason and the limits set down by God.

Which brings us back to point one: Lot’s people broke the bounds by forcing sexual relations, gay or not, on people who did not want it. Gay people are fully within the boundaries when they are engaged in mutually desired, loving relationships.

3) I believe in secular democracy, and I believe that secular democracy is the best expression of the political values the Quran promotes — to conduct affairs through consultation, individual participation in political allegiance and no compulsion in religion. Not only is there the famous, “lo ikraha fi deen” verse in the Quran that commands there to be no compulsion in faith, the Prophet also gave us the example in the Compact of Madinah which stipulated that the Christians and Jews who lived under the Prophet’s rule would continue to practice and live by their own religions teachings and laws, as would the Muslims who were emigrating to Madinah.

Thus, the Prophet set up a secular state. When Jews came to him for rulings, he judged by their law, not the teachings of the Quran.

In the United States, our secular democracy stipulates that the government cannot make laws establishing religion. Those who argue that gay marriage is against the Bible or the Quran have the right to believe this and to practice according to this belief. The government does not have the right to enshrine this religious belief into law. They are required to protect the rights of people who do not believe that the Bible or Quran ban gay marriage, but rather support it.

And, the government must protect the rights of those who don’t give a hoot about what the Bible or Quran says. It is not the government’s business to make moral decisions about who we choose to live our lives with (so long as it is a mutually agreed upon relationship by consenting adults) or to discriminate against certain types of relationships by giving tax and other benefits to some committed relationships and not others. We long ago realized that the government could not dictate to us that we were not free to marry people of our choice in terms of race; so too with gender.

As a minority religious group who wants to maintain our civil rights to follow our beliefs as we see fit; we must support the civil rights of other groups to follow their beliefs as they see fit, even if we disagree with their beliefs. Thus, even Muslims who disagree with progressive interpretations of the story of Lot should support gay marriage.

4) For most of us who believe in a religion, marriage is not just about civil rights and tax benefits. It is a social compact in which society celebrates with a couple the joys of loving and being loved, of being a family. It is a social embrace of that couple that honors their commitment to one another. And, it is recognition that their love reflects God’s love, is an embodiment of God’s love for all Her Creation. How can we declare that any love — whether it is between spouses, parent and child, friends, colleagues — is anything other than God expressing Her love for us through us?

Love is wondrous blessing, and the Quran asks over and over, “Which of the blessings of God will you deny?” How dare we deny the blessing of love between two individuals, how dare we deny them the joy of that love? Even worse, how dare we suggest that God withholds Her love from two people who wish to commit to one another in marriage? Rather we should celebrate love in all its forms!

Pamela K. Taylor is a long-time member of Muslims for Progressive Values and has written for “On Faith” at The Washington Post. This post originally appeared on her personal blog.

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  • http://www.garethbryant.wordpress.com Gareth Bryant


    This is Gareth Bryant, the author of the counter-article, the Anti-Homosexuality/Anti-Same-Gender Marriage, to be released by AltMuslim. Now, my point is not to necessarily try to “convince” people that my position is more-correct, from an exclusively Islamic perspective; but, it is more to empower people, with the facts, concerning this issue, holistically, according to the Islamic texts, in order for people to come to their own conclusions. Because, realistically, my words cannot make anyone do/not do anything…only the guidance of Allah (i.e. Islam) can make people change their stances on an issue such as this. I am just a conveyor of information, regarding a very relevant, important, issue, of our modern times, which will, regardless to whether you are a Muslim or a Non-Muslim, a so-called “Conservative” or “Liberal”, or whether Prop-8 will ever passe or not-Each & every one of us, whether we are pro-Homosexuality/pro-Same-Gender Marriage, or anti-Homosexuality/anti-Same-Gender Marriage will be affected.

    • Hyde

      Right on bro! See you around NYU!

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  • Sipa

    Great commentary. While I personally don’t think gay marriage is permissible in Islam, neither Islam nor any other religion should affect the laws of the country in which we live. What Allah thinks, we will find out of the day of judgment so let us leave the judgment up to him.

    • Steve Kudlo

      That is a very wise thing you have written, though I do feel for the closeted gays in muslim families. Many years from now we may find out what is really happening there.

  • Brother No. 201908732

    The author fails to address Surah 7, verse 81 which reads “For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women : ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds.” It clearly states men having intercourse (practicing their lusts) with men as if they were women is a sin, instead she claims not having intercourse is sinful. Then she tries to stretch explanation of verses in the Quran about love and relationship so that we are pressured into not denying “true love”. She even insinuates that Allah has created them with this abnormality despite no concrete proof in the Quran or in science/genetics. To that the answer is simple: In may verses in the Quran, Allah discusses men’s obligation to their wives, and women’s obligation to their husbands (whether it deals with social, religious, or economic situations) but not one verse is stated men’s obligation to their husbands, or womens’ obligation to their wives and that’s because it’s simple- it’s a sin! C’mon please stand firm in Islam’s beliefs and not fall victim to negative peer pressure, learn from the examples before you, not to twist them.

    • Steve Kudlo

      I think it’s easier to think of gay relationships as an extension of friendship.

  • M

    To be honest, this commentary is more of an opinion piece by the author. Given that the piece doesn’t make much reference to any Islamic texts, practices, rituals, or even scholarship, what one is left with is the author’s own interpretation of religious scripture. This is something that even the Protestant reformer Martin Luther had an issue with (i.e. excess in self-interpretation without set bounds), let alone Muslim scholars historically. Muslim societies historically were not devoid of discussions on homosexuality, but even then, the one thing that every scholar and layman was sure of, was that the legal texts and scriptural texts were clear as to the impermissibility of same-sex marriage. In our post-modern world, we argue based on notions of inclusion and the general sense that people should be free to do whatever they want without harming others, but Islamic Law (as do most law systems) operate on the premise that there exists bounds within human behavior. And in Islam, those bounds are set by God, though expressed and interpreted by scholarly human agency. I felt this piece, as do most pieces that advocate for same-sex marriage recognition in Islam, to be lacking in sound discussions on the confluence of shari’ah and homosexuality.

    • Steve Kudlo

      I think what everyone overlooks is the penalty for gay behavior, or even being effeminate or butch. It is death, which is irreversible, permanent. And no one is harmed by this sin. God have mercy.

      • Jesse Jones

        Sin does harm the community that is why there are laws against it

        • Steve Kudlo

          Prove that being gay is a sin. It’s an orientation. And the laws are changing, not eternal.

  • Sakura

    As a Christian, I too see the same sort of thing in the ‘church’. You are either a creature of this world, or you are a servant of God. God’s sovereignty is absolute, or it’s only partially effective.

    People can be post-modern with scriptures and act as if it’s all just a bunch of interpretive nonsense, or you can submit to the word of God and follow it.

    Choice is yours and the outcome has eternal consequences.

  • Bob

    I need info on gay muslims being accepted into their families…

  • Jesse Jones

    M’s comments sum it up for me, non-referencing “me” piece. No scholarly references, it’s almost like she doesn’t understand her own religion. Her last paragraph summoned up her position, it’s Wahhabism for gays, just plain Protestantism. They will never win this heavenly battle, if you don’t think it’s a battle, check the language the other side uses.

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    the world.