My Life is a Love Story

Falling in love is easy, if mysterious. It can be as simple as a chemistry-laden kiss.  It can be as complex as seeing a girl in an orange silk dress across a crowded room and knowing that my world is about to be turned inside-out. However, growing a love that is sustainable, with healthy boundaries and joy, is the work of a lifetime. My life is a love story, and the Red Goddess is my co-author.Love stories get a bad rap, and for good reason! Courtly tales of romance from the Middle Ages, c … [Read more...]

Maxim Monday: Foresee the future

Foresee the future. I see this in two ways.I suspect this Maxim is relating to thinking ahead and planning wisely for what may arise. Looking ahead and making plans  are important, whether that's for later in the week or for our 5 year plans. I am a planner by nature. I like to have at least a vague sense of where I'm headed. As I've gotten older I worry less about the details and more about the larger picture. To think of it in slightly different terms, I try to be more intentional about my … [Read more...]

Maxim Monday: Use time sparingly

What does this one even mean? Is this trying to tell us not to waste time? Or to try and do things efficiently, so as to spend the least amount of time on any one task?We cannot 'use' time, as time is a mental construct humans have created. From what I understand, not all societies think of time or interact with it the same ways.Sparingly means meagrely, pieced out, prudently, with restraint. How do we use time like this?I have no idea. This one has got me stumped. Do you have any … [Read more...]

Identity

My birthday was this week. Birthdays and anniversaries are good times to reflect on one's life, so I've been thinking about the last year of my life, about the challenges and successes.The greatest challenges for me in the last 12 months have all been relational. Since this time last year I have had a miscarriage, lost and/or ended three important friendships, survived my son being 4, and entered into the deepest of emotional depths with my husband.The struggles with my husband have been … [Read more...]

Practical Magic for Tough Times

There are two things, two not especially 'magical' things, that help me when times are tough.The first is rest. My primary gut response to times of intense stress, physical and/or emotional, is to sleep. I become borderline narcoleptic. I can barely keep my eyes open. This happens when I've been processing emotional issues for maybe a little too long; it also happens to me during childbirth. When my first child was born, the midwife had to shake me and kept shouting at me, "Wake up! Hold … [Read more...]

In the Weeds

When the going gets tough, and it often does when one attempts 'advanced living,' what do you do?After my weekend in Canada, my week was a rough come down. My period started; I was physically exhausted and sleep deprived. My son turned five and we threw a larger than usual birthday party. My in-laws came to town. And my husband and I took some risks while at the same time excavating some intense relationship stuff. Did I reach out to friends? Did I fall back on the foundations of my … [Read more...]

Into the Woods

I went to Canada, into the woods, and thought I was going on vacation. How wrong I was.I expected fun, laughter, and trees. I got all of that. Fun was had, in a variety of forms. There was laughter. The grey mists against the deep greens of the trees and floating on the surface of the lake fed the Alaskan part of my soul. The camp site was not as spectacular as I'd hoped and the food wasn't very good. But it was the surprises...... Oh, the surprises.The first great surprise was mead. … [Read more...]


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