What I Wish I Knew

 

When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess.  I was scared.  I didn’t know what it would mean for his life or for ours.  Well, recently World Down Syndrome Day was celebrated, and I saw this sweet post by  Amy Julia Becker, who lists five things she wishes she had known when she learned that her daughter was born with Down syndrome.  Here are two that jumped out at me:

You think Down syndrome means tragedy, and people will compare your experience to that of losing a child in a car accident or to cancer or some other horrible fate. And though you will experience a sense of loss, you will realize eventually that you have lost a hypothetical child, and that the child right in front of you, this child, with her sparkling eyes and crooked teeth and warm soft hand, this child is a blessing. In time, because of the privilege of knowing and loving her, you will realize that your grief has turned to gratitude and that your worry has turned to wonder.

and

You think Down syndrome means isolation, but you will discover that it brings a world of connections. It’s not only that you will now feel a bond with other parents of children with Down syndrome throughout the country and around the globe. It’s that having a child who looks and acts somewhat different from what you expected, a child who you see as beautiful and funny and kind and smart and brave, will help you to recognize that same beauty in everyone else. You will think your world has become smaller, when it has only begun to grow.

Read the other three here.

I can say Trig is one of the best things that has ever happened to our family!  I love him so much!! He shows life in a different light, he’s just a love bug. Now that he’s been in preschool, I can tell he’s learning so much.  I love seeing him grow up. It’s like everything he does is so big now! We’re so proud of him for everything he accomplishes. He just lights up our life. I love you, brother!

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  • https://www.facebook.com/jill.newsom Jill Newsom

    God Bless you and your family this beautiful Easter season!

  • Sue Lynn

    We love him to. God Bless Trig and his entire family!!!

  • Joseph

    That is awesome to hear; God bless little Trig! :)
    He sure growing up, and looking cuter every day!

  • TrueBlue

    A lovely tribute to your brother!

  • Thomas

    I have no problem Down Syndrome kids in the least bit, fact is Trig can hang out with me any day of the week ssshish heck he can even bring his cus. Tripp along with him we could have a great time.

  • mary yarbro

    Bristol, I really enjoyed reading your blog about Trig. It reminded me so much of my brother “Mac” who passed away in 1997 at age 53. At one time living to the age of 30 was an extremely long life for those with Down’s. He was my “big” brother. He brought so much to our lives. Mac had 12 brothers and sisters, me being the youngest. Every one of us adored him. I so appreciate your Mom and Dad and the rest of your family.

  • Thotocv

    Thomas , you are sooooo creepy

  • Michele

    Hi Bristol. :) Thanks for this post. When I had my Natalie there were people who said to me “Oh, I’m so sorry” and I had to CORRECT them and say “Well, I’M not sorry!” I believe that having a child with special needs, particularly Down Syndrome, in your family sweetens every family relationship. It brings things into much sharper focus and helps each person find joy where they would not have seen it before. These children change lives, even strangers’ lives, for the better every day. The blessings of having them in our lives always outweigh the difficulties. We all have lessons to learn from these special ones who love unconditionally, forgive quickly, and live happily every day. Much love to you and to your sweet brother and family. xoxo

  • Jennifer

    Bristol, this is such a great post, I hope a lot of people will read it. Trig is as blessed to have such a loving family, as you all are to have him in your life. You’re a wonderful sister Bristol. My sister is 11 years older than I am but I never received such a nice birthday wish from her like the one you sent to Piper!
    Your Mom posted this same photo of Trig a while ago and it’s my absolute favorite. What a cutie!
    Happy Resurrection Day to all of the Palins

  • Thotocv

    Who takes care of Trig with all the travelling around Sarah and Todd do? I know a family with a boy with DS about the same age and i see what it requires of the parents especially whdn they are under 3 years. And why doesn’t he always wear his glasses? It’s very rare to see him wearing then in photos.

    • Jules

      You’ve seen a handful of pictures of a child you don’t know and you attempt to make an assessment about his life day to day as if you watch him grow up? That’s wonderful logic. Not. Sarah, nor Todd, travel that much. Did you parents never leave you with a sitter, an adult sibling? I suggest you stick to being critical of your own life, as it’s the only one youll know.

  • http://twitter.com/imjustleanne leanne

    God bless you and your entire family! :)

  • Tootie

    Your whole family is a testimony for all as to how to love and cherish a child with this disease. God bless you.

    Bristol, we were so encouraged that Christians in Paris marched for traditional marriage. We were beginning to think no one was willing to stand up for Jesus and His plan for man. Think of it, no one is saved until he first realizes he is in need of salvation. A homosexual must come to that conclusion so that he can be delivered and lead a normal, happy life in Jesus. Oh, and may I add, he will not go to hell so long as he continues with the Lord.

    • TrueBlue

      “Oh, and may I add, he will not go to hell so long as he continues with the Lord.”

      Well, damn, Tootie, with you here on Earth dispensing your infinite wisdom, why wait for the second coming?

  • Tootie

    Trig with his glasses is adorable!

    Britol, we were so encouraged when we saw on the internet many Christians marking peacfully for tradional marriage. Oh, many more need to realize that patting sin on the head and, in so doing, condoning it helps no one.

    • daryl

      Amen

  • Thotocv

    Tootie your religious beliefs are yours. They are not everyone’s. and thus, they have no place in government affairs.

  • Thotocv

    What a minute! Something is amiss:

    “When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess. I was scared”

    Bristol supposedly knew Trig had DS before he was born? That’s not the story Sarah tells. She claims she kept it from everyone until he was born, including her children. She lays out a big story about their reaction in the hospital after he was born. Don’t believe me? It’s in her book. Hmmmm do what’s going in here? Did Sarah lie? Did Mrs Francais not ask Bristol to review this before she posted it? Interesting. It must be hard living a facade.

  • Thotocv

    What a minute! Something is amiss:

    “When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess. I was scared”

    Bristol supposedly knew Trig had DS before he was born? That’s not the story Sarah tells. She claims she kept it from everyone until he was born, including her children. She lays out a big story about their reaction in the hospital after he was born. Don’t believe me? It’s in her book. Hmmmm do what’s going in here? Did Sarah lie? Did Bristol not review this after it was written fir get? Interesting. It must be hard living a facade.

  • Thomas

    Thotocv you a serious issue that needs to be addresed, you really should take a long look at youself!

  • Thotocv

    Thomas, what issue? The question is, hiw could Bristol be scared that her brother would be born with DS when she apparently didn’t know until after he was born. Hmmmm?

  • melory

    Hey Thotocv, ole buddy, ole pal, just because you are a liar doesn’t mean everybody is a liar.

    You will never catch Bristol’s mom lying – she has been scrutinized more than any politician ever in the history of America and she is still as clean as the wind-driven snow. All you liberals have are lies – so go fact-check the liberals who gave you your info – you did not read her book.

    The media went through thousands of emails of Bristol’s mom and here is what LA Times reported:

    “The media have yet to find a smoking gun or email cursor amid some 24,000 pages yet.
    The Briton writes that far from being embarrassed by any findings in the trove of her electronic missives, Palin “is likely to emerge from the scrutiny…with her reputation considerably enhanced.”

    http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/washington/2011/06/sarah-palin-god-letter-trig-down-syndrome.html

    Sarah Palin email frenzy backfires on her media antagonists!
    http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/tobyharnden/100091820/american-way-sarah-palin-email-frenzy-backfires-on-her-media-antagonists/

  • melory

    Trig is so cute with those glasses!

    I believe the Lord hand-pick the parents and families of these beautiful babies – because He knows they cannot be entrusted to just anyone. If people understood this they would not abort these babies, they miss out on so much – if they only know how honored and highly favored they are that the Almighty God found them worthy to be parents and family to these special children of His! The enemy robs them of that blessing and honor when he convinces them to get rid of these babies before they are born.

    A blessed Easter to everybody:

    The Darling of Heaven cruzified, worthy is the Lamb!

    Thank you for the cross, Lord.
    Thank you for the price you paid.
    Bearing all my sin and shame, in love you came
    And gave Amazing Grace.

    Thank you for the scars, Lord.
    Thank you for the nail-pierced hands.
    Wash me in Your cleansing flow, now all I know…
    Your forgiveness and embrace.

    Worthy is the Lamb
    Seated on the throne.
    We crown You now with many crowns
    You reign victorious!
    High and lifted up
    Jesus, Son of God.
    The darling of Heaven, crucified…
    Worthy is the Lamb.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=AR4CCLnmf1Q

    • melory

      should be “crucified”

  • David

    Trig is so lucky to have been born into your Family, Bristol.

  • Britney

    Wait, what? In Sarah Palin’s book, “Going Rouge”, she said she never told anyone that she was pregnant with a child with down syndrome. She said you guys didn’t find out until you met him, after he was born. Now you’re saying you knew while she was pregnant? I’m confused.

  • Thotocv

    You’re confused Britney? Sounds like the Palins are too! Must be hard to keep up a facade.

    Melory FYI, the majority of Sarah Palin emails were withheld or redacted before they were finally released to the public and long after they were requested. There were nonetheless, a few incriminating passages missed by the filterers.

    And how about this current conundrum? Hmmm?

    ” Facts? We don’t need no stink’ facts”. You guys are funny.

    • melory

      Provide the proof, you lying lib!

    • melory

      “Melory FYI, the majority of Sarah Palin emails were withheld or redacted before they were finally released to the public and long after they were requested. There were nonetheless, a few incriminating passages missed by the filterers.”

      Proof it, you lying lib!

  • Thotocv

    Oh and Melory, go grab one of your copies of Going Rogue and read what Sarah write about when Trig was born and how the kids weren’t to beforehand that he had DS. Yep.

    • melory

      Thotocv, how about you give us the exact qoutes and page number in the book to back up your claims? Since you are the one who are making the claim – time to provide the proof, you lazy lib!

      • TrueBlue

        Not to antagonize, Melory, because you’re clearly unhinged, but Mrs. Palin gave in interview to People magazine in 2008, and this is what was written:

        On April 18, 2008, Palin gave birth to 6-lb., 2-oz. Trig, five weeks early. As Todd and their three daughters gathered around the bedside (Track, an Army private, listened in by phone from his base in Fairbanks), Willow said of the new arrival, “He looks like he has Down syndrome.”

        Palin, who says her own qualms were laid to rest “the minute [Trig] was born,” felt a lump in her throat. “If he does, you know you will still love him, Willow. It’ll be okay.”

        Willow pressed: “But why didn’t you tell us?”

        Palin admitted she didn’t know how to break the news. “I was a little shocked,” says Willow “but I don’t care – he’s my brother and I love him.”

        http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20223201,00.html

        • melory

          “Not to antagonize, Melory, because you’re clearly unhinged” Says the deranged liberal!

          Nope, I want if straight from her book, page number everything, not liberal version of events. Since you read the book – you should be able to qoute from the book.

          • TrueBlue

            Dang, Melory, between the two of us, I don’t think anyone would say that I’m the deranged one. You come off as downright scary.

            Anyway, I didn’t read “Going Rogue,” I read the People magazine article, which I linked in my comment to you. Mrs. Palin gave that interview, so of course it should be gospel to you.

        • melory

          “Dang, Melory, between the two of us, I don’t think anyone would say that I’m the deranged one.” Not only are you deranged, you are also delusional!

          Who is more scary – you who are here hating on a young woman – or me – here – defending the young woman?

          • TrueBlue

            I’m not hating on anybody. I just presented evidence to support the fact that Bristol says she was told that Trig had DS, but Mrs. Palin reported to People magazine that her children didn’t know until Trig was born. You’ve chosen to make absolutely no comment about this contradiction, except to name-call. And I actually don’t hate you, I just think you’re unhinged.

          • https://www.facebook.com/ritchietheriveter Ritchie The Riveter

            TrueBlue, the excerpt says that Willow wasn’t told … and while she asked “why didn’t you tell us”, nothing was said about her older sister, Bristol, NOT being told.

            There is no proof of contradiction here … but certainly evidence of straining at gnats on the part of Ms. Palin’s detractors.

          • TrueBlue

            RichieTheRiveter, you’re right. Although I find the opposite case the more compelling, there is no definitive proof that Bristol wasn’t told of Trig’s condition before he was born. I don’t think I was stretching, however, to have read into the 2008 People magazine article that the “we” Willow referenced meant all the Palin siblings. But…one never knows what a mother and daughter will share during a quiet moment, so you’re correct, perhaps Bristol was told before Trig’s birth. Anyway, it’s not a conspiracy, just an observed discrepancy.

        • melory

          And I think you are deranged.

          Still waiting for the qoute and page number from Sarah’s book. Perhaps you can help out your friend Thokocv.

          • TrueBlue

            Melory, please…

            In the post above, Bristol writes, “When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess. I was scared.”

            In the People magazine interview THAT MRS. PALIN GAVE IN 2008, she relates how Willow asked her why they weren’t told before Trig’s birth that he had DS. I linked it. You can read it, or you can choose to continue to ignore it.

            Thokocv is not my friend, but he/she asked why the contradiction, and I believe there is evidence to support that a contradiction exists, but apparently that contradiction hurts your heart so much that you can’t even acknowledge it. I’m not a “Trig Truther.” Trig is a lovely little boy. I’m simply addressing the two different stories told by Bristol and Mrs. Palin.

            I’m finished with this now. Have a good day. Happy Good Friday. Go in peace…

        • melory

          Is it such a bad thing to for once insist a liberal back up his/her claims with real evidence. If he read the book – he should be able to provide proof straight from the book- page number at least. That is all I ask.

          Go in peace – and a blessed Easter to you.

        • melory

          Btw, I did not read Bristol saying she was “told” about Trig having Down Syndrome.

        • Tom

          Um. The article quotes Willow (not Bristol) asking her mom “why didn’t you tell us?”. Since Bristol was the oldest girl, Sarah may well have confided in her independently and Willow would not have known about that. It makes a lot of sense that you wouldn’t tell the younger ones. So much for the contradiction.

  • melory

    Can’t wait to see the President’s emails! Or the emails of any Democrat for that matter! Fact is liberal news outlets reported that Palin came out looking really good and liberals had egg on their face. That is a fact!

    Scrutinize the president, not Palin – CNN:
    “When is this journalistic scrutiny going to be applied to politicians who wield actual power?”
    http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/06/11/welch.palin.email/index.html

  • Thotocv

    Again in the words of Melory ” Facts? We don’t need no stinkin facts!”. Grab you copy of Going Rogue Melory and you’ll see it in black and white with your own eyes. No way you’ll be able to question it. Dare ya.

    • melory

      Qoute and page number, please! You made the claim – now provide the evidence – from the book you keep talking about.

  • CJ

    Every soul is precious to GOD. Every soul is purposed for something special. Evey soul has value and matters. Every soul conceived has the potential for being an incredible BLESSING and each and every soul has been created in the image and likeness of GOD.

    Who are we to tamper with and trample on GOD’s HOLY PROVIDENCE? Who are we to decide who is worthy to be born? And of those who are, who are we to decide who among them have any less value than another?

    The child is never the problem…….WE ARE!

    GOD BLESS YOU, Bristol, Sarah and Amy, for continuing to be a BEACON of CHRIST’S LIGHT and LOVE in this twisted, morally vacant, decaying world. I LOVE what you and Amy wrote and I’m sure the LORD does too! oxo :)

  • Emma

    I thought Trig is about five years old. He looks about three in this photo. I would love to see some more recent pictures of Trig, but I would respect the family’s privacy, too.

  • Lisa

    I consider children with special needs – very special and a complete blessing. If God has given you one of his precious special needs children – you have indeed been blessed. The thing I love the most of about children with Downs Syndrome is that they can not lie. When they show you love, you know it’s the truth. They see the good in everyone – and never expect the bad. That’s why I know, when I get that smile – it’s genuine and I treasure it. I make it a point to talk to all children with down’s syndrome. The idiots that shy away from them are just that – idiots. They have no idea what a blessing they’re missing. God bless you and your family Bristol. I’m not a Republican at all – but I am indeed a Christian – and God is love. Happy Easter everyone – and thank God He Arose!!

  • melory

    Amen Lisa!! He lives!

    The very same God that spins things in orbit
    He runs to the weary, the worn and the weak
    And the same gentle hands that hold me when I’m broken
    They conquered death to bring me victory

    Now I know my Redeemer lives
    I know my Redemer lives
    Let all creation testify
    Let this life wihtin me cry
    I know my Redeemer, He lives
    My Redeemer lives – Nicole C Mullen
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AN6B36yUG44&feature=player_detailpage

  • melory

    To my liberal friends – I must admit – I was not very kind to you today – hope we can try again some other time! Perhaps you will find it in your hearts to forgive me!

    A blessed weekend to you all!

  • melory

    In fact I was rude! Thank you for forgiving me!

  • LeAnn

    Your family is so blessed to have both you and Trig. Hope you all have a wonderful EAster and my love and appreciation to you all and especially to your mom.

  • Anna Karns Mitchell

    They are Gods Angels given to only the most special people.

  • https://www.facebook.com/EbayTrainMe Kimberly M

    Nicely said. Here’s a very interesting vid I came across about an amazing young man with Down Syndrome. Hope you share with your mom as I know it would inspire her: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6He0FWoFj0

  • Christy wilson

    As a Special Educator for the last 22 years, I have spent my life in the service of Special Needs children. I coached my first Special Olympic event at 14. At that age I knew, the kids had ahold of my heart. My life is enriched every day. God Bless this boy! How lucky are we to receive their gifts.

  • Tess Kerchner

    Thank you for the nice article, Bristol.

  • Debra

    Keep up the good work Palin family! Keep your eyes on God, you will be fine! It’s all about His kingdom!

  • Mary Vann

    Bristol and Family…..

    Trig is adorable and everyone can tell he is much loved.

    I have a Down Syndrome nephew that will be 51 in July. The doctors never expected him to live much past 10 years of age. GOD had other ideas. He too is much loved!

    Unfortunately, his Daddy (my brother) died on March 26th, quite unexpectedly. He goes to work everyday at a company that hires ALL handicapped people and where he has worked almost his whole life. When the driver of the transport van picked him up, he announced, “Father died, he had a heart attack.” Bless his heart, he knows he will not see him again.

    Love your blog and get all your Mom’s postings. Love her so much……a ray of honesty among politicians. Liberals are SOOOOOOOO afraid of her…..that’s why they are so nasty. Please tell her hello for me, and that I have great admiration for her.

    GOD bless……

  • Thotocv

    Melory, you did not read Bristol saying she was
    ” told” about Trig having DS????? Well that how else would she have found out about it before he was born, as claimed in this blog post? Oh this should be good…….

    Sounds to me like you finally took out your dog-eared copy of Going Rogue and found the contradictory passage. Good.

  • Gene and Donna McCance

    Our family had a mentally challanged child that they raised. He was actually Donna’s cousin. Donna’s parents were raising him. After her parents passed away he went to live in a home for the mentally challanged. That was where we were first exposed to a Down Syndrome young man who was Donna’s
    cousin’s room mate. What a loving young man he was and he just lit up a room. I realized, after a while, he lived a life maybe little smaller than our own, but a good life. He worked every day, loved the Cubbies and Bears, liked a beer now and then and had a wonderful sense of humor. These Down Syndrome babies are being aborted by the thousands. Who among us has the right to say this baby lives or this baby dies? God help us.

  • melory

    Trig Truthers are the most despicable of all liberals. What you all are doing here is just another form of that. As you may have noticed I have no tolerance for your kind, but I am glad you were so kind to forgive me – so I will pretend you are a decent human being and try again:
    ____

    “Melory, you did not read Bristol saying she was” told” about Trig having DS?”
    Yep, I have not read that anywhere, have you? “How else would she have found out?” That is your assignment – think about ways people find out things!

    You use Sarah’s book as you source – now provide the evidence from the book – the burden of proof is on you – don’t be so lazy – if you want a debate – you have to provide evidence/facts – then we will gladly debate the case.

    I know you can’t wait for us to move on to more important “what did you know and when did you know it” questions like when did Obama and Holdren find out guns were sent to Mexico by Obama’s administration – that resulted in more than 200 Mexicans and and an American border agent killed.

    You also can’t wait to fact-check the President on his whereabouts during the Bengazi attack – or are you ok that he went to sleep while our Embassy was under attack?

    You care so much about facts – I know you agree it is time for Hilary to give us the facts about Bengazi:
    “Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s much delayed testimony on the terrorist attacks that killed Ambassador Chris Stevens, Sean Smith, Tyrone Woods and Glen Doherty at the U.S. Mission in Benghazi, Libya was remarkably short on facts and analysis and was further clouded by Clinton’s feigned outrage at a very basic question from Senator Ron Johnson of Wisconsin.

    Hillary ClintonWhy, Johnson asked Clinton, weren’t the survivors of the Libya attack interviewed before U.N. Ambassador Susan Rice’s now-discredited public statements on the attack were aired?

    “With all due respect, the fact is we had four dead Americans,” Clinton told him angrily. “Whether it’s because of a protest or whether a guy out for a walk decided to go kill some Americans, what difference at this point does it make?” What difference does it make, you’re kidding me! And liberals obsessed about Bristol?
    http://www.conservativehq.com/article/11826-yes-hillary-it-does-matter

    As soon as you give us the evidence from the book you use as your source re Bristol – we can get that issue out of the way and move on to the more important issues – that Americans really care about.

    Or perhaps you don’t want us to move on to fact-checking Obama, Holder and Hillary that is why you refuse to give us the evidence from Sarah’s book?

  • melory

    Job 19:25-26

    25 “But I know that my Redeemer lives,
    that in the end he will rise on the dust;
    26 so that after my skin has been thus destroyed,
    then even without my flesh, I will see God.”
    Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)

  • Thotocv

    Melory, you’re too funny. Such a willing suspension of disbelief. Here we have a clear contradiction in the Palin story and you try to pretend the proof isnt in Sarah Palin’s book or that there is some way, other than bei g to by her parents, that Bristol would have known before Trig wasbor. That he had DS. What, like sweet angels whispered it in her ear one night ? She read it in the Northern Lights as they danced across the Alaskan sky? You are easy prey for someone like Sarah Palin.

    • melory

      LOL! When you ask liberals the hard questions – they always say you are funny!

      I am trying to help you – you are a tool of the leftists – they throw out their talking points – and you just take them and run with them. A person with self-respect will at least double-check, and when challenge will have no problem to provide the proof. You are such a mind-numbed robot – you are incapable or too lazy to come up with evidence to proof your claim.

      I am so happy to find out liberals hate contradictions and lies – we have a few questions about the Contradictor-in-Chief and his Administration that Americans hope you now can explain – I can provide you with a list – but you still have to explain the ones I already asked.

      In the meantime, please explain:

      a) Why Obama told America he is a Christian and then went on ABC and refer to his “Muslim faith”.
      b) Why did he say in an interview that he visited 57 states and still had one left to visit?

      Hilary and Obama admin lied that a video caused the Bengazi attack – their lies resulted in unrest in Muslim countries that took the lives on many innocent – and all she can say is “what does it matter” and you libs are fine with it – yet you want to bully Bristol about a non-issue?

      So what does it matter what Bristol knew and when she knew it?

      Now we have already established that Palin is not a liar – character is what you do when no-one sees you – Palin was going about her business – not ever imagining that hundreds of thousands of blood-hungry liberals will went through her correspondence with a fine tooth comb! She came out clean as the wind-driven snow – as reported by liberal news outlets!

      We also have no evidence that Bristol is a liar – so you have to conclude that there is a good explanation for the “contradiction” and that there is no lying involved, based on the evidence of their past behavior.

  • MiddleRoader

    I won’t wade into the “when did Bristol know” debate, b/c I haven’t read Palin’s book, but please, any perspective parents of special needs kids, tell your kids in advance. They, like you, need time to prepare and learn. Plus, Palin’s own admission that she couldn’t talk about it before Trig’s birth promotes a feeling of shame. In fact, even if genetic tests turn out negative (or you choose not to have them), parents should discuss with each other and family members the possibility, however remote, that the baby could have problems, and how they would deal with that. I work with special needs kids, and it always tugs at my heart at little when friends of mine who are pregnant say they don’t care what sex the baby is, “as long as it’s healthy.” I alway want (but refrain) to say, “What if it’s not?” I realize I come at this from a different perspective and the vast majority of kids are perfectly normal, but just like we make contingency plans for floods, fire, accidents, terrorist attacks, etc., parents-to-be need to spend at least a little time on how they would deal with a baby with special needs.

  • melory

    Wow!

    I thought you were different – I don’t even know where to start – what you are insinuating I find shameful. Are you the parent of a special needs child? For a person that has no problem with babies being murdered in the womb you have the audacity to criticize the parents and family of special needs children.

    Forgive me for being so rude – I have to recover from what I just read – that was a low-blow – I hope Sarah and her family or little Trig never get to read what you wrote.

    • MiddleRoader

      (Sorry for the length of this comment, but I have a lot to say.) I am not a fan of Palin’s politics, but I have never criticized her child-rearing or her treatment of Trig. I tried to make my comment generic and not specific to the Palins. Perhaps it was a bit judgmental of me b/c every family is different and if Palin wasn’t ready to share the info with her kids, than that’s her choice. It worked out well for them; they have all embraced Trig and he’s a happy and loved little boy. But generally speaking, if you know your child will have special needs, it’s a good idea to prepare the siblings. Here are 2 examples supporting that view:
      “In many cases, medical science is capable of finding out if a child is going to be born with special needs. If this is an option, then this is a good opportunity to talk to children and tell them his or her new brother or sister will be in need of special care. Tell the children what will be wrong with his or her new sibling; even young children are able to understand if explained properly.” (http://www.helium.com/items/1376648-how-to-prepare-your-kids-for-life-with-a-special-needs-sibling)
      “Prepare other siblings for the arrival of their special sister or brother. Explain what Down Syndrome is, and let them know that although this little person is special, that they should treat him/her the same way they treat each other.” (http://voices.yahoo.com/preparing-baby-down-syndrome-tips-parents-1987142.html?cat=25)
      I guess the 2nd part of my comment did sound a little harsh. But I was basically saying what Todd Palin said when he learned of the diagnosis: “We shouldn’t be asking, ‘Why us?’ We should be saying, ‘Well, why not us?’” When you get pregnant, it should at least cross your mind that there could be a problem, and you should give at least a passing thought to that possibility.
      And to answer your question, didn’t really want to share this, but in the light of my “feeling of shame” comment, I’d be hypocritical not to. No, I do not have any special needs children; I was one. This was in the 1950’s, so that term wasn’t even coined yet: I was just “crippled,” and my parents were completely taken by surprise. To their credit, my parents rose to the occasion. My dad switched to night shift so he could visit me in the hospital. My mother never gave up on me, and advocated for me, and made me do painful physical therapies every day. Somehow, they scraped together the money for my medical care. (For the record, after many corrective surgeries, casts, etc., I’m pretty normal physically now.) My condition was not genetic, so there was no way they could have known in advance, which is why I say every parent-to-be should consider this possibility. It can happen to anyone.

    • MiddleRoader

      I am not a fan of Palin’s politics, but I have never criticized her child-rearing or her treatment of Trig. I tried to make my comment generic and not specific to the Palins. Perhaps it was a bit judgmental of me b/c every family is different and if Palin wasn’t ready to share the info with her kids, than that’s her choice. It worked out well for them; they have all embraced Trig and he’s a happy and loved little boy. But generally speaking, if you know your child will have special needs, it’s a good idea to prepare the siblings. Here are 2 examples supporting that view:
      “In many cases, medical science is capable of finding out if a child is going to be born with special needs. If this is an option, then this is a good opportunity to talk to children and tell them his or her new brother or sister will be in need of special care. Tell the children what will be wrong with his or her new sibling; even young children are able to understand if explained properly.” (http://www.helium.com/items/1376648-how-to-prepare-your-kids-for-life-with-a-special-needs-sibling)

      “Prepare other siblings for the arrival of their special sister or brother. Explain what Down Syndrome is, and let them know that although this little person is special, that they should treat him/her the same way they treat each other.” (http://voices.yahoo.com/preparing-baby-down-syndrome-tips-parents-1987142.html?cat=25)

      I guess the 2nd part of my comment did sound a little harsh. But I was basically saying what Todd Palin said when he learned of the diagnosis: “We shouldn’t be asking, ‘Why us?’ We should be saying, ‘Well, why not us?’” When you get pregnant, it should at least cross your mind that there could be a problem, and you should give at least a passing thought to that possibility.
      And to answer your question, didn’t really want to share this, but in the light of my “feeling of shame” comment, I’d be hypocritical not to. No, I do not have any special needs children; I was one. This was in the 1950’s, so that term wasn’t even coined yet: I was just “crippled,” and my parents were completely taken by surprise. To their credit, my parents rose to the occasion. My dad switched to night shift so he could visit me in the hospital. My mother never gave up on me, advocated for me, and made me do painful physical therapies every day. (For the record, after many corrective surgeries, casts, etc., I’m pretty normal physically now.) My condition was not genetic, so there was no way they could have known in advance, which is why I say every parent-to-be should consider this possibility.

    • MiddleRoader

      I keep trying to respond to your comment, Melory, but somehow it gets lost in the “awaiting moderation” queue. I meant absolutely no disrespect to the Palin family. I would have no problem with Sarah or Trig reading what I wrote. Although I disagree with Sarah’s politics, I have NEVER criticized her child-rearing or her treatment of Trig. I may have been a bit judgmental; every family is different. But in general, if the mother has knowledge in advance, it’s better to tell and prepare family members. Look at the title of Bristol’s post: “What I wish I knew”. She says she was scared. Maybe if, before Trig was born, she had met some kids with DS and read articles like she reference, she would have been less scared. I’m simply saying that I wish everyone would know the facts and myths about DS and other disabilities before they give birth. Everyone should know the “red flags” of autism, because early detection and intervention is so important. People shouldn’t just assume it won’t happen to them. Yes, if it does, they will probably find a way to deal with it; a mother’s love surpasses many odds. But, as they say, knowledge is power. Happy Easter!

      • TrueBlue

        I thought your point was a good one, MiddleRoader. I think, as someone who works with special needs children, you would have an opportunity to see firsthand how brave families deal with the challenges that come with raising special needs babies. You surely have some insight that would lead you to believe that preparation can be a good thing. I’d bet that if Mrs. Palin could go back in time, she would have told every one of her children that Trig was a DS baby before his birth, especially now that she knows how easy he is to love and what a beautiful little boy he is despite his challenges. It seems that maybe fear of the unknown, understandably, was what kept her from sharing the facts of Trig’s condition.

  • Thotocv

    Wow, so confronted by a clear contradiction here Melory refuses to acknowledge a Palin lie….. And instead just tries to distract.

    • melory

      Did they assign you here to represent what-difference-does-it-make liberals and proudly show off their hypocrisy and hate? You are doing great!

      I answered your questions, it is your turn now!

      Waiting!

    • melory

      “Palin lie..”
      Poor thing, you are stuck with the talking points until they take you in and reprogram you.

      So we will just ignore you, it is no fun talking to a mind-numbed robot.

  • Thotocv

    Too funny Melory. There really is no way to get around the contradiction here is there?? Sarah Palin wrote in her book, told People Magazine and said in the Barbara Walters interview that she didn’t tell her kids that Trig would be born with DS. And yet now hereis the claim that Bristol knew beforehand.

    Yes, best for you to ignore that! Too funny.

    • melory

      LOL! You’re proving my point, mind-numbed robot! You noticed how everybody have ignored you, I am the only one that felt sorry for you!

  • melory

    “The tomb is empty!
    He lives y’all!!
    Can I get a witness that He lives!! We’ve got to tell everybody, He lives!!!”
    Nicole C Mullen (My Redeemer lives!)

  • Thotocv

    I will give Sarah Palin credit for knowing how to pick an easy target!

  • Thotocv

    Melory, you crack me up. The others at least recognized that there is a contradiction and didnt try to argue it like you did.

    • melory

      The others recognized that I have answered your questions, and that it is your turn now. They have also recognized that you are a hypocrite and a robot who is stuck with the talking points.

  • melory

    MiddleRoader I understand what you are trying to say and I appreciate your attitude.

    I hope you will also understand what I am saying – although it may sound harsh:

    a) I find it offensive that pro-abortion people like you and True-blue think you can advise on the issue of DS children. You do not even believe that these children have a right to be born or that all human life is equal- so spare us your wisdom.

    b) You chiding Trig’s mom and your lecture directed at her was uncalled for and has no place here at his sister’s website. You and Tru-blu are the only ones who felt the need to do that.

    c)I was wondering, do you also judge the women who abort their DS babies? Do you criticize the decisions they make in dealing with the news of a DS baby? Do you lecture them about the right way to go about their life as it relates to these issues?

    d) Would you go on their website and judge them knowing their children and the world will read that? Or do you respect their right to make their own choices and call on everybody to mind their own business? Can the same respect be shown to Sarah?

    e) You have a right to your opinion, but keep them to yourself out of respect for Trig and his family, at least here at Bristol’s blog.

    f) I believe your post was meant to hurt and accuse Trig’s mom – that is what liberals try to do when they come here.

    g) I am not surprised that you have no problem with Trig reading your initial post. Liberals are that self-righteous, insensitive and busy-body.

    h) Parents and families of special needs children were wise and brave enough and had the integrity to allow these children their God-given right to be born into this world – when they do need help – pro-abortionists are the least qualified to help.

    I know in your follow-up posts you have already addressed some of my concerns, I just thought what I wrote may help you understand why I found your post on Saturday so hurtful and offensive.

    In the end, I hope you understand that I have nothing against you personally, you are one of the few liberals I respect.

    My last post in the matter.

    • TrueBlue

      Melory, although you directed your comment to MiddleRoader, you mentioned me, so here’s my response:

      MiddleRoader stated that she was a special-needs child. I thought it was an incredibly poignant and courageous disclosure. Since she’s actually lived through an experience similar to that of the Palins, MiddleRoader’s insight has merit.

      On the other hand, you have no idea who I am, what I’ve lived through, or what I’m qualified to comment on. But I’m full of Christ’s light today (still basking in Resurrection Day’s afterglow!), so I will thank you for harsh, judgmental comment; it affords me the opportunity to say this to you and in doing so, honor Him: Be well today and everyday, Melory. I wish for you nothing but the best and brightest this day has to offer. Go in peace…

      • melory

        Oh, cry me a river. I was referring to your pro-abortion views. Because of that I am of the opinion that you have no right to criticize or advise their parents and families.

        They do not have a RIGHT TO LIFE is what pro-abortion liberals believe about special needs children, most of these children would have been murdered in the womb if it were up to people like you, so pardon me for not thinking you have their best interest at heart.

        I wish for you to be delivered from the ideology of death that is liberalism and thank you for your well wishes, you too go in peace.

        • TrueBlue

          Cry you a river? Oh, Melory, DO NOT get it twisted: no tears here. No way, not for you. Not for bipolar, angry, name-calling, hater you. And what’s more, I have NEVER discussed my views on abortion with you. I didn’t mention it on this thread, either. You are stuck on one speed, so everything you write circles back to abortion. Bristol posts about snowmobiles, you post about abortion. Bristol posts a gorgeous photo of the Alaska sky, you post about abortion. Bristol posts about Trig’s birth, you circle back to abortion. You spout Scripture and ask liberals for forgiveness in one post, and then you’re cursing and foaming at the mouth and gnashing your teeth and hating liberals of all stripes in the next. Cry you a river? No way. I’m laughing right now.

          • melory

            I am sorry you are so upset! I forgive you for the false accusations against me. I never cursed or hated on you or anyone. Most of the stuff liberals believe are so offensive that it does sound like hating when you are just telling the truth.

            I am sorry the topic of abortion is so offensive to you. That is why we should root out the evil that is abortion then we never have to mention that word again!

            Take care.

          • TrueBlue

            Your reading comprehension is as faulty as your self-righteousness. I’m not upset, Melory. And I don’t seek your “forgiveness.” Best.

    • MiddleRoader

      Thank-you for the respect, Melory (and for the support, True Blue). (And sorry for the multiple comments; I had computer problems.) My views on abortion are an entirely separate issue; we’ve already discussed that, so I won’t rehash it here. (However, I do think that knowing more about certain birth defects and their treatment may reduce the number of abortions of children with genetic disabilities.) I repeat that I meant no disrespect to the Palins. It was just a suggestion, based on my personal experiences and (limited) research on the subject, to prospective parents. I admit that it came off a little judgmental and I apologize for that. I spent some 30 years in a totally unrelated job field, before embarking “what I really want to do when I grow up” so I am not an expert (yet!) in special needs research. Accept or reject my suggestion, but don’t take it as an insult to any family of an exceptional child. Lastly, you say I have a right to my opinion, but keep it to myself on this blog. Well, then, what’s the use of having an opinion? I assumed that based on the nature of Bristol’s post, parents or parents-to-be would be reading it, and I want to share my thoughts with them.

      • melory

        Others also expressed their opinion without chiding and judging Trig’s mom.

        For the record: Trig’s mom only promotes love, acceptance, support and celebration of special needs children. You owe her an apology. Just my opinion.

        Liberals scorned her for taking her special needs infant with her on trips and public events as she would any other of her children. She’s doomed when she does, and doomed when she doesn’t! What I have to say to liberals is Keep Your Hands off Trigs mom!

    • Judy Willox

      Here, here Melory, I salute what you say! “Keep your hands off of Trig’s Mom.” The whole Palin family are beautiful people from what I have seen and observed. Having met Sarah, I found her to be a breath of fresh air and a class act! Ans she is a GOOD Mother!

  • Thotocv

    No Melory, nice try, but you haven’t answered the question how Bristol could have known Trig would be born with DS when Sarah herself said publicly on at least three occasions that they didn’t tell the children before he was born.

    There really is no answer to the contradiction.

    Here’s what likely has happened: The writer of this blog didnt get the family to review this post before it was made and the contradiction was missed.

  • Thotocv

    Melory, you need to have something clarified. People who are pro choice actually do believe children with DS have a right to life, just as all children do . Similarly, people who are pro choice believe in a pregnant woman’s right to choose birth or abortion. A diagnosis of DS does not change that.

    • melory

      “People who are pro choice actually do believe children with DS have a right to life”

      They have a strange way of showing it, my friend! These children have a right to life until mom decides to take away that right – and soulless liberals, say, yay, go girl, we are behind you all the way!

      I really pray that the Lord will open the eyes of people like you to see the evil of abortion.
      I don’t believe you want babies murdered, but you have been deceived into thinking that it is actually right and cool to support a woman having an abortion – that it shows you are enlightened, not a hater, etc. The Bible says the Lord is the only one that can deliver from deception.

      Some other time, if you are interested, we can talk more about abortion specificly, in previous posts we went into it in detail, I am not in the mood to go through it all in detail again.

      Have a great day!

  • Thotocv

    She bipolar isn’t she, Trueblue? I noticed it too.

    Melory, you should know I am agnostic and it matters to me not at all what the Bible says. Your arguments against abortion would fall on deaf ears.

    • melory

      “Your arguments against abortion would fall on deaf ears.”

      I know. It doesn’t matter if you believe what the Bible says, the Bible is still true, and God can deliver from deception.

    • TrueBlue

      It’s crazy, Thotocv! I feel for Melory. I’ve never “met” anyone on any comment thread like her/him!

      • melory

        Where did the peace go?!

        Will talk to my to buddies Tru and Tho again some other time! In the meantime, you two comfort each other, melory has been really mean to you! A person cannot even disrespect the Palins anymore without melory getting on your nerves! What is this world coming to!

        Take care!

        • TrueBlue

          I still wish you peace, my friend! Truly! I think you need it. Be well.

          • melory

            Thank you, I think you need peace too, so be well, my friend!

  • Thotocv

    Melory, yes I understand that you firmly believe the Bible to be true even though everyone doesnt share your belief.

  • Thotocv

    Melory, I couldn’t care less that you ” have been mean to me”. My comment about you being bipolar was an observation, that’s all.

  • melory

    Tho, I couldn’t care less about your observation.

    Till next time!

  • Thotocv

    Melory, my observation was for Trueblue. I do not know if you are aware that you are polar or not, nor do I really care.


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