What I Wish I Knew


When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess.  I was scared.  I didn’t know what it would mean for his life or for ours.  Well, recently World Down Syndrome Day was celebrated, and I saw this sweet post by  Amy Julia Becker, who lists five things she wishes she had known when she learned that her daughter was born with Down syndrome.  Here are two that jumped out at me:

You think Down syndrome means tragedy, and people will compare your experience to that of losing a child in a car accident or to cancer or some other horrible fate. And though you will experience a sense of loss, you will realize eventually that you have lost a hypothetical child, and that the child right in front of you, this child, with her sparkling eyes and crooked teeth and warm soft hand, this child is a blessing. In time, because of the privilege of knowing and loving her, you will realize that your grief has turned to gratitude and that your worry has turned to wonder.


You think Down syndrome means isolation, but you will discover that it brings a world of connections. It’s not only that you will now feel a bond with other parents of children with Down syndrome throughout the country and around the globe. It’s that having a child who looks and acts somewhat different from what you expected, a child who you see as beautiful and funny and kind and smart and brave, will help you to recognize that same beauty in everyone else. You will think your world has become smaller, when it has only begun to grow.

Read the other three here.

I can say Trig is one of the best things that has ever happened to our family!  I love him so much!! He shows life in a different light, he’s just a love bug. Now that he’s been in preschool, I can tell he’s learning so much.  I love seeing him grow up. It’s like everything he does is so big now! We’re so proud of him for everything he accomplishes. He just lights up our life. I love you, brother!

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  • David

    Trig is so lucky to have been born into your Family, Bristol.

  • Britney

    Wait, what? In Sarah Palin’s book, “Going Rouge”, she said she never told anyone that she was pregnant with a child with down syndrome. She said you guys didn’t find out until you met him, after he was born. Now you’re saying you knew while she was pregnant? I’m confused.

  • Thotocv

    You’re confused Britney? Sounds like the Palins are too! Must be hard to keep up a facade.

    Melory FYI, the majority of Sarah Palin emails were withheld or redacted before they were finally released to the public and long after they were requested. There were nonetheless, a few incriminating passages missed by the filterers.

    And how about this current conundrum? Hmmm?

    ” Facts? We don’t need no stink’ facts”. You guys are funny.

    • melory

      Provide the proof, you lying lib!

    • melory

      “Melory FYI, the majority of Sarah Palin emails were withheld or redacted before they were finally released to the public and long after they were requested. There were nonetheless, a few incriminating passages missed by the filterers.”

      Proof it, you lying lib!

  • Thotocv

    Oh and Melory, go grab one of your copies of Going Rogue and read what Sarah write about when Trig was born and how the kids weren’t to beforehand that he had DS. Yep.

    • melory

      Thotocv, how about you give us the exact qoutes and page number in the book to back up your claims? Since you are the one who are making the claim – time to provide the proof, you lazy lib!

      • TrueBlue

        Not to antagonize, Melory, because you’re clearly unhinged, but Mrs. Palin gave in interview to People magazine in 2008, and this is what was written:

        On April 18, 2008, Palin gave birth to 6-lb., 2-oz. Trig, five weeks early. As Todd and their three daughters gathered around the bedside (Track, an Army private, listened in by phone from his base in Fairbanks), Willow said of the new arrival, “He looks like he has Down syndrome.”

        Palin, who says her own qualms were laid to rest “the minute [Trig] was born,” felt a lump in her throat. “If he does, you know you will still love him, Willow. It’ll be okay.”

        Willow pressed: “But why didn’t you tell us?”

        Palin admitted she didn’t know how to break the news. “I was a little shocked,” says Willow “but I don’t care – he’s my brother and I love him.”


        • melory

          “Not to antagonize, Melory, because you’re clearly unhinged” Says the deranged liberal!

          Nope, I want if straight from her book, page number everything, not liberal version of events. Since you read the book – you should be able to qoute from the book.

          • TrueBlue

            Dang, Melory, between the two of us, I don’t think anyone would say that I’m the deranged one. You come off as downright scary.

            Anyway, I didn’t read “Going Rogue,” I read the People magazine article, which I linked in my comment to you. Mrs. Palin gave that interview, so of course it should be gospel to you.

        • melory

          “Dang, Melory, between the two of us, I don’t think anyone would say that I’m the deranged one.” Not only are you deranged, you are also delusional!

          Who is more scary – you who are here hating on a young woman – or me – here – defending the young woman?

          • TrueBlue

            I’m not hating on anybody. I just presented evidence to support the fact that Bristol says she was told that Trig had DS, but Mrs. Palin reported to People magazine that her children didn’t know until Trig was born. You’ve chosen to make absolutely no comment about this contradiction, except to name-call. And I actually don’t hate you, I just think you’re unhinged.

          • https://www.facebook.com/ritchietheriveter Ritchie The Riveter

            TrueBlue, the excerpt says that Willow wasn’t told … and while she asked “why didn’t you tell us”, nothing was said about her older sister, Bristol, NOT being told.

            There is no proof of contradiction here … but certainly evidence of straining at gnats on the part of Ms. Palin’s detractors.

          • TrueBlue

            RichieTheRiveter, you’re right. Although I find the opposite case the more compelling, there is no definitive proof that Bristol wasn’t told of Trig’s condition before he was born. I don’t think I was stretching, however, to have read into the 2008 People magazine article that the “we” Willow referenced meant all the Palin siblings. But…one never knows what a mother and daughter will share during a quiet moment, so you’re correct, perhaps Bristol was told before Trig’s birth. Anyway, it’s not a conspiracy, just an observed discrepancy.

        • melory

          And I think you are deranged.

          Still waiting for the qoute and page number from Sarah’s book. Perhaps you can help out your friend Thokocv.

          • TrueBlue

            Melory, please…

            In the post above, Bristol writes, “When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess. I was scared.”

            In the People magazine interview THAT MRS. PALIN GAVE IN 2008, she relates how Willow asked her why they weren’t told before Trig’s birth that he had DS. I linked it. You can read it, or you can choose to continue to ignore it.

            Thokocv is not my friend, but he/she asked why the contradiction, and I believe there is evidence to support that a contradiction exists, but apparently that contradiction hurts your heart so much that you can’t even acknowledge it. I’m not a “Trig Truther.” Trig is a lovely little boy. I’m simply addressing the two different stories told by Bristol and Mrs. Palin.

            I’m finished with this now. Have a good day. Happy Good Friday. Go in peace…

        • melory

          Is it such a bad thing to for once insist a liberal back up his/her claims with real evidence. If he read the book – he should be able to provide proof straight from the book- page number at least. That is all I ask.

          Go in peace – and a blessed Easter to you.

        • melory

          Btw, I did not read Bristol saying she was “told” about Trig having Down Syndrome.

        • Tom

          Um. The article quotes Willow (not Bristol) asking her mom “why didn’t you tell us?”. Since Bristol was the oldest girl, Sarah may well have confided in her independently and Willow would not have known about that. It makes a lot of sense that you wouldn’t tell the younger ones. So much for the contradiction.

  • melory

    Can’t wait to see the President’s emails! Or the emails of any Democrat for that matter! Fact is liberal news outlets reported that Palin came out looking really good and liberals had egg on their face. That is a fact!

    Scrutinize the president, not Palin – CNN:
    “When is this journalistic scrutiny going to be applied to politicians who wield actual power?”

  • Thotocv

    Again in the words of Melory ” Facts? We don’t need no stinkin facts!”. Grab you copy of Going Rogue Melory and you’ll see it in black and white with your own eyes. No way you’ll be able to question it. Dare ya.

    • melory

      Qoute and page number, please! You made the claim – now provide the evidence – from the book you keep talking about.

  • CJ

    Every soul is precious to GOD. Every soul is purposed for something special. Evey soul has value and matters. Every soul conceived has the potential for being an incredible BLESSING and each and every soul has been created in the image and likeness of GOD.

    Who are we to tamper with and trample on GOD’s HOLY PROVIDENCE? Who are we to decide who is worthy to be born? And of those who are, who are we to decide who among them have any less value than another?

    The child is never the problem…….WE ARE!

    GOD BLESS YOU, Bristol, Sarah and Amy, for continuing to be a BEACON of CHRIST’S LIGHT and LOVE in this twisted, morally vacant, decaying world. I LOVE what you and Amy wrote and I’m sure the LORD does too! oxo :)

  • Emma

    I thought Trig is about five years old. He looks about three in this photo. I would love to see some more recent pictures of Trig, but I would respect the family’s privacy, too.

  • Lisa

    I consider children with special needs – very special and a complete blessing. If God has given you one of his precious special needs children – you have indeed been blessed. The thing I love the most of about children with Downs Syndrome is that they can not lie. When they show you love, you know it’s the truth. They see the good in everyone – and never expect the bad. That’s why I know, when I get that smile – it’s genuine and I treasure it. I make it a point to talk to all children with down’s syndrome. The idiots that shy away from them are just that – idiots. They have no idea what a blessing they’re missing. God bless you and your family Bristol. I’m not a Republican at all – but I am indeed a Christian – and God is love. Happy Easter everyone – and thank God He Arose!!

  • melory

    Amen Lisa!! He lives!

    The very same God that spins things in orbit
    He runs to the weary, the worn and the weak
    And the same gentle hands that hold me when I’m broken
    They conquered death to bring me victory

    Now I know my Redeemer lives
    I know my Redemer lives
    Let all creation testify
    Let this life wihtin me cry
    I know my Redeemer, He lives
    My Redeemer lives – Nicole C Mullen