What I Wish I Knew


When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess.  I was scared.  I didn’t know what it would mean for his life or for ours.  Well, recently World Down Syndrome Day was celebrated, and I saw this sweet post by  Amy Julia Becker, who lists five things she wishes she had known when she learned that her daughter was born with Down syndrome.  Here are two that jumped out at me:

You think Down syndrome means tragedy, and people will compare your experience to that of losing a child in a car accident or to cancer or some other horrible fate. And though you will experience a sense of loss, you will realize eventually that you have lost a hypothetical child, and that the child right in front of you, this child, with her sparkling eyes and crooked teeth and warm soft hand, this child is a blessing. In time, because of the privilege of knowing and loving her, you will realize that your grief has turned to gratitude and that your worry has turned to wonder.


You think Down syndrome means isolation, but you will discover that it brings a world of connections. It’s not only that you will now feel a bond with other parents of children with Down syndrome throughout the country and around the globe. It’s that having a child who looks and acts somewhat different from what you expected, a child who you see as beautiful and funny and kind and smart and brave, will help you to recognize that same beauty in everyone else. You will think your world has become smaller, when it has only begun to grow.

Read the other three here.

I can say Trig is one of the best things that has ever happened to our family!  I love him so much!! He shows life in a different light, he’s just a love bug. Now that he’s been in preschool, I can tell he’s learning so much.  I love seeing him grow up. It’s like everything he does is so big now! We’re so proud of him for everything he accomplishes. He just lights up our life. I love you, brother!

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  • melory

    To my liberal friends – I must admit – I was not very kind to you today – hope we can try again some other time! Perhaps you will find it in your hearts to forgive me!

    A blessed weekend to you all!

  • melory

    In fact I was rude! Thank you for forgiving me!

  • LeAnn

    Your family is so blessed to have both you and Trig. Hope you all have a wonderful EAster and my love and appreciation to you all and especially to your mom.

  • Anna Karns Mitchell

    They are Gods Angels given to only the most special people.

  • https://www.facebook.com/EbayTrainMe Kimberly M

    Nicely said. Here’s a very interesting vid I came across about an amazing young man with Down Syndrome. Hope you share with your mom as I know it would inspire her: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6He0FWoFj0

  • Christy wilson

    As a Special Educator for the last 22 years, I have spent my life in the service of Special Needs children. I coached my first Special Olympic event at 14. At that age I knew, the kids had ahold of my heart. My life is enriched every day. God Bless this boy! How lucky are we to receive their gifts.

  • Tess Kerchner

    Thank you for the nice article, Bristol.

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  • Debra

    Keep up the good work Palin family! Keep your eyes on God, you will be fine! It’s all about His kingdom!