What I Wish I Knew


When I found out Mom was pregnant with a baby who would have Down syndrome, I confess.  I was scared.  I didn’t know what it would mean for his life or for ours.  Well, recently World Down Syndrome Day was celebrated, and I saw this sweet post by  Amy Julia Becker, who lists five things she wishes she had known when she learned that her daughter was born with Down syndrome.  Here are two that jumped out at me:

You think Down syndrome means tragedy, and people will compare your experience to that of losing a child in a car accident or to cancer or some other horrible fate. And though you will experience a sense of loss, you will realize eventually that you have lost a hypothetical child, and that the child right in front of you, this child, with her sparkling eyes and crooked teeth and warm soft hand, this child is a blessing. In time, because of the privilege of knowing and loving her, you will realize that your grief has turned to gratitude and that your worry has turned to wonder.


You think Down syndrome means isolation, but you will discover that it brings a world of connections. It’s not only that you will now feel a bond with other parents of children with Down syndrome throughout the country and around the globe. It’s that having a child who looks and acts somewhat different from what you expected, a child who you see as beautiful and funny and kind and smart and brave, will help you to recognize that same beauty in everyone else. You will think your world has become smaller, when it has only begun to grow.

Read the other three here.

I can say Trig is one of the best things that has ever happened to our family!  I love him so much!! He shows life in a different light, he’s just a love bug. Now that he’s been in preschool, I can tell he’s learning so much.  I love seeing him grow up. It’s like everything he does is so big now! We’re so proud of him for everything he accomplishes. He just lights up our life. I love you, brother!

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  • Thotocv

    She bipolar isn’t she, Trueblue? I noticed it too.

    Melory, you should know I am agnostic and it matters to me not at all what the Bible says. Your arguments against abortion would fall on deaf ears.

    • melory

      “Your arguments against abortion would fall on deaf ears.”

      I know. It doesn’t matter if you believe what the Bible says, the Bible is still true, and God can deliver from deception.

    • TrueBlue

      It’s crazy, Thotocv! I feel for Melory. I’ve never “met” anyone on any comment thread like her/him!

      • melory

        Where did the peace go?!

        Will talk to my to buddies Tru and Tho again some other time! In the meantime, you two comfort each other, melory has been really mean to you! A person cannot even disrespect the Palins anymore without melory getting on your nerves! What is this world coming to!

        Take care!

        • TrueBlue

          I still wish you peace, my friend! Truly! I think you need it. Be well.

          • melory

            Thank you, I think you need peace too, so be well, my friend!

  • Thotocv

    Melory, yes I understand that you firmly believe the Bible to be true even though everyone doesnt share your belief.

  • Thotocv

    Melory, I couldn’t care less that you ” have been mean to me”. My comment about you being bipolar was an observation, that’s all.

  • melory

    Tho, I couldn’t care less about your observation.

    Till next time!

  • Thotocv

    Melory, my observation was for Trueblue. I do not know if you are aware that you are polar or not, nor do I really care.