and other people, should they exist:
Several months after I’d stopped seeing my first spiritual director because he’d been transferred to a different parish, I saw that he’d be giving a talk on Catholic understandings of homosexuality. Since I knew I wasn’t his only gay spiritual directee—in fact, he’d been recommended to me by another gay Catholic who, like me, was trying to live in accordance with Catholic teaching—I was excited to hear his perspective.
I ended up sharply disappointed in the talk. I thought it relied on stereotypes, bad research, and unconvincing applications of natural law. I didn’t learn much about homosexuality that day. But I learned a lot about spiritual direction.