With tears running down my face, we started the event by lighting a candle for Richard and putting his big ole smiling face up on the screen – and we carried him with us through the evening.
Before I went to bed, I read through my emails from Richard over the years – emails giving me advice on everything from marriage to ego… emails helping us honor the First Nations histories as we created Common Prayer… emails teaching me Lakota wisdom and the richness of Native cultures…
…emails that were usually signed “your uncle – Richard”
One of my favorite emails was him teaching me the Lakota phrase “Ikce Wicasa” – which means “common man”. He put it like this:
“In Lakota tradition it is anathema to becoming a bigshot – arrogant, boastful, proud, highminded, etc…. To be humble, simple, “one of the guys” is to be a common man, Ikce Wicasa — it is a thing to be sought after… in my life, I strive to be ikce wicasa — “common man.”So thank you Richard. May your courage and wisdom continue to inspire us to greatness, and may your humility and common-ness continue to inspire us to smallness.
I went to bed staring at the ceiling, smiling as I thought of all the great memories of Richard. And then I thought of one of the gifts he gave me — a turtle shell which hangs in my office. In Lakota it symbolizes a long, full, healthy life. I went to sleep thinking of that turtle shell and of Richard – though he left us much sooner than I would have hoped, his life was a full, beautiful, life well lived. A life that pointed to Jesus.
May our love and prayers continue to pour out for Katherine – and Andrew, Phillip, Ian, and Daniel and the whole Wiconi family…. as you grieve his death and celebrate his life.
So Richard – our brother – our uncle – we will miss you. But it won’t be long till we’ll sit around a drum on the other side and dance with the angels together.