As an adoptive parent, I’ve heard all the questions.
We get it– you don’t mean to offend, but the questions are still rather off-putting and sometimes downright dehumanizing.
“She’s not your real kid, is she?”
“Wow, she must have been expensive”
I’ve heard them all. I usually take the opportunity to re-educate the person asking the question and explain why their wording might come across as offensive to adoptive families like mine. I’ve also been known to come up with some snarky and equally rude replies- but I’m not proud of those moments even though I do admit, they were usually quite funny.
Here is the hilarious, and very practical PSA to help folks everywhere: