What This White Mother Did to Her Black Daughter’s Hair: Bantu Knots

It’s been a long time since I updated you guys on progress with our daughter Naomi’s hair!  As you know, I struggled with her hair after we adopted our daughter from Ethiopia.  For two and a half years, I’ve been on a quest to learn how to properly care for her hair (to keep it healthy) and to properly style her hair (to keep her loving her sweet curls).  Today was “hair day,” and I got my inspiration from — as always — Chocolate Hair Vanilla Care.  Though I am not even remotely as talented, I was pleased with the way my first “bantu knots” turned out.  Thanks, Rory!

Here’s the result of our very long hair session which took us through The Incredibles, one episode of Sesame Street, and two Phineas and Ferbs (!):

And from the side!

What do you think?  I made an ear to ear part so she can also wear a headband with a flower on it — Chocolate Hair Vanilla Care’s suggestion — and Naomi loved it!

I am hoping these stay for a while, to make my learning curve worth it.  However, I think this may be my favorite style so far!

Want to try it out?

Rory will show you how!  (It involves weaving thread and a needle!)


My second time, I did much better:



For more information, go to Chocolate Hair Vanilla Care‘s website.  She promised written instructions and more photos too!

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  • http://www.facebook.com/tara.edelschick Tara Edelschick

    Aww, Nancy, I love it. Happy Mother’s Day!

  • http://www.NancyFrench.com/ Nancy French

    Thank you, Tara! You too!!

  • Rozann Thoelke

    That is just darling!

  • Trinka Jeffery

    Love it!!! I have long hair, and I often find I’ll get hair-headaches when I have my hair in one style for long. Does she have that problem? Or have you found a strategy to alleviate it?

  • Loren

    Just discovered your blog, but wanted to ask if you were familiar with “Naturally Curly” website? Lots of information, reviews, videos, and advice on keeping curly hair healthy. My straight-haired son used to work there, and they’re very nice folks: http://www.naturallycurly.com/

  • Dawnlandia

    She is SO PRETTY!!!!!!!!

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  • JustAsh

    good job. just make sure not to do her edges so tight so it won’t form bumps. it looks really nice though. edges are very important and can cause hair breakage. looks too tight

  • Mia

    You rock! Loved the hair. Thank you for sharing.