Archives for February 2012

Engendering American Values

"Would you like to buy some girl scout cookies?"For a hundred years, Girl Scouts have been asking this question with smiling faces- and one would be hard pressed to say "no" to any one of these uniformed diet-busters. As a veteran girl scout leader, I expect to have more than my share of (un)necessary calories each spring, but what I didn't expect was the additional rewards that come with scouting. For a mom of three boys and one girl, my daughter and I have found girl scouting to be the … [Read more...]

Dirty socks

When my older kids head off to school, I start my other job - the dirty sock picker. I try to look at the bright side while doing this job - keeping my tongue moving in the remembrance of Allah (swt) or simply working out things in my head, keeping my mind busy. I am not perfect though and, sometimes, I do not see the glass half-full and can almost watch my life pass away as I pick up dirty socks, clothes, toys, and anything else that can be thrown on the floor. And on a bad day, the resentment … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: Bullying

Has your child ever been the victim of bullying?  Has she bullied others, been bullied, or just stood on the side and let it happen?  What's your role as a parent in helping your child grow through this serious issue? How have you handled it? Below are some responses from mothers like you.  If you've dealt with this before, please share below!H shares:The first rule of bullying for me is to stop it when I see it.  If my child is doing the bullying, I stop him, ask him to apologize, and as … [Read more...]

Teaching Posthumously

I was waking up my 6 year old for school or suhur, or something the other day, with my usual growl and frown, and couldn't help but pause and remember my father, sending prayers for him.  I flashed back to how he used to wake us up with a loud smile, a boisterous nature, and a happy, off-to-the-right-track beginning of the morning jolt. He would laugh when we grumbled, covered our faces with our blankets, or screamed "I'm getting up" for the hundredth time.  And he'd come back and wake us up a … [Read more...]

My Prophet: A Collage

It’s important that we seek creative ways of imparting the knowledge of our deen. We must help our children by keeping things relevant and relatable. Here’s a simple project idea that we can use to cultivate and deepen our connection and love for the Prophet (peace be upon him). Let’s help our kids build a personal connection to their Prophet by creating their own artwork about him. This project is especially useful in this month of Rabi’ al-Awwal, as people remember and revere the birth and life … [Read more...]

Strive to Be Content Wherever You Are

Assalam Alaikum GrowMama Sisters,I recently reconnected with some dear family friends via email.  We both had to relocate for work related reasons from a large and vibrant Muslim community.  I shared our exchange with some fellow GMG moms and they thought it would be beneficial to share with our online community.Our friends write:Good hearing from you, how are you and the family? And how do you like it where you are? Have you guys adapted yet? We're still struggling a bit here. The Mu … [Read more...]

Letting Grow

Yesterday, my son was born. Today he’s making me an apple cinnamon omelet. I spent 12 years encouraging his independence, and now I want to scream, "I’ll do it for you, just stay my baby."We used to cry together, each of us on one side of the nursery school door. Now he waltzes out to his friends without a backwards glance, a casual bye mom.We used to make up songs jumping in the trampoline, but now he's got his own beat, (plus I don't know the words).It is tough watching them grow, t … [Read more...]

Facebook and The Book

About three years ago I was taking a class at the Hartford Seminary titled, “Answering the Big Questions: An Approach Towards Philosophical Theology.” It was taught by the former dean of the Seminary, Dr. Ian Markham. It was a thought provoking class especially since it was taught from a belief in God perspective (as opposed to the philosophy courses I took as an undergraduate). Towards the end of the semester we spoke about eschatology, or how our faith traditions view the end of time. Of cou … [Read more...]

Center Stage

I have known all along that my relationship with Allah was not as strong as it could be. We know that according to the hadith of the prophet Muhammad (S) the highest level of faith is to live life as though you can see Allah, and if you can’t see Him, then to know that He sees you. So is He an actor in my life, or just an observer, or occasionally not in my consciousness at all? I thought I understood what I had to do to better cultivate our relationship: be sincere in my prayer, try to shed t … [Read more...]