Yes you can

You may be tired. You may be discouraged. You may be uncomfortable. No matter what, your best option is to move positively forward. Hanging on to past disappointments will only hold you back. Taking comfort in being a victim gives you no real comfort at all. Staying safe by never venturing out, by never taking risks, is the riskiest thing you can do because it guarantees that you won’t get anything accomplished.It takes effort to move forward. It takes courage and determination. Fortunately, … [Read More...]

Fear of rejection

Do you fear rejection? Are you afraid of someone saying no to you? Ask yourself, is that really so bad. There are very successful people in this world to get told no every day. They understand that there is no dishonor in being told that. In fact, most times in order to get one yes answer you must get considerably many times that number of no answers. Rejection is really a misleading word because when someone says no to you, when someone answers you with a no, that is not a rejection of you … [Read More...]

Your obligation

It was highly improbable and in fact virtually impossible that you would ever exist, and yet, here you are. You cannot do more than merely scratch the surface in imagining how immensely fortunate you are to be experiencing this day.So, with all that good fortune going for you, what are you going to do? How can you spend this moment, this day, this lifetime in such a way that will acknowledge and adequately make use of the wonderful, fortuitous circumstance of your existence?It would be … [Read More...]

Treasure the experience

Maybe it didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. But it did happen. And you did experience it. And in that experience is value.Maybe you didn’t get what you wanted. Perhaps you were disappointed, or even deceived or betrayed. Even so, you learned something valuable. And in some way, it adds to the richness of your life.Don’t be too quick to judge what happens in your life. Because there is much, much more to the experience than what you can see when you’re right up next to it. Think … [Read More...]

Bigger problem

You’d never expect to solve a problem by making it even more of a problem, yet sometimes doing just that can be surprisingly effective. The very problem with many problems is that they are not big enough to provide much in the way of motivation. Most people would respond quickly and forcefully if they were suddenly and directly threatened. Many of those same people would, when faced with a minor annoyance, simply complain about it rather than take steps to get past it.If there is a challenge … [Read More...]

Positive focus

One thing that makes positive focus so powerful is that it keeps you from being pulled down by all the little things. The details of your life can work for you or they can work against you. The moments of your life are where you actually live, and as such those moments are of critical importance. You can use them, you can lose them, or you can abuse them.Think of someone you know who is continually angry, someone who complains about everything and everyone. Would you consider that person to … [Read More...]

Positive talk

The words you use have an enormous impact on yourself and those around you. Unfortunately, most people use very negative language both in their own internal thoughts and in the words they speak to others. A powerful technique for success, which you can use every day, is to consciously make your language more positive.Look for ways to state things in a positive manner, rather than as a negative. When people ask you how your day is going, do you ever use “not bad” as your reply? Think of how co … [Read More...]

Controlling fear

Fear is always powerful, and often it can even be very helpful. Fear can give you much-needed extra energy in new and unfamiliar situations. It sharpens your senses. It helps you to focus. It helps you avoid legitimately dangerous situations. Yet fear can also be tragically limiting. To successfully manage your fears, you must learn to accept them, to find their positive message, and to make productive use of them. Your fears give you plenty of things to fear, and that can be useful. The key … [Read More...]

Creating value

Life is not about taking. What you take has no value to you. Life is about giving and creating value. About making a difference. If you try to shortcut the process, it is you who will come up short in the end. When you take something you don’t deserve, you might get it but you won’t own it—it will own you.To create value in your own life, look for ways to make a difference in the world. The bigger difference you make in the lives of others, the bigger results you’ll see in your own life. … [Read More...]

Expectations and reality

If your reality is not in agreement with your expectations, you have two choices. The easiest choice is to lower your expectations so they’re more in line with your reality. But that’s a compromise. After all, you created those expectations in the first place. There was a reason why. There was something in you that led you to expect the best of yourself. Does it really accomplish anything to turn your back on that?The other, more difficult choice is to lift up your reality to meet your exp … [Read More...]