What The [bleep] Is So Good About Good Friday?

As I write this it’s noon my time, on Good Friday. Outside my window the sky is a thick mat of mottled grays. It’s cold here—or what we here in San Diego call cold, anyway.

I don’t like to write on Good Friday. But I thought I’d visit here for a moment, in case any of my dear reader friends happen to stop by for a little Good Friday commiseration.

Hello, friend! Much love to you.

I’m always massively depressed on Good Friday—and am today. Listless. Unmotivated.



My wife Cat took the day off work to do our taxes. She’s in her office right now, figuring and calculating.

Today is all about paying the cost of being alive, I suppose.

See? Depressed.

I don’t like sharing that I’m depressed today, because I know it can’t help but sound like a kind of bragging, as if the conscious subtext of what I’m saying is, “I’m suffering because I so closely identify with Christ on the Cross. Isn’t it great that I’m always depressed on Good Friday? Aren’t I a good Christian?”

And, God knows, the world has enough Christians telling the world what good Christians they are.

See? Depressed. Again: why I don’t write on Good Friday.

Today, of course, is the nadir of the Christian year. We live, we breathe, we survive this darkness. And then, wonder of wonder, the son rises again.

But that’s two days from now. Does zilch for me today.

Love, love, love to you all, on this blessed, tragic, miserable freakin day.

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  • I'm depressed today but I wish I could claim it has something to do with Christ.

  • If you're a Xtian, it probably does. I mean, that's been my experience. My sadness today doesn't FEEL as if it has anything at all to do with Christ–but I know that, every year—and some years, without even knowing what day it is—I find myself feeling this exact same crappy way.

  • I agree with you. It's a sad day. But a good sad that I wish more people knew and felt.

  • I want to be a Christian but I am not one yet. I dunno why I feel sad. Just empty. But this whole Lent I just really noticed how, as much as I want to be close to God and stuff, He's so distant from me. Every time I've heard the Passion narrative, it's like all I can do is not understand in the slightest.

  • Out of fear (which so easily becomes anger) people kill what's good. There. That's … the gist of it, for sure.

  • Cibola

    Love, love, love one another is what we need to do in this blessed, tragic, miserable, freakin world we live in.

  • Maybe I should be sad today, but I'm not. We have daily chapel where I am (that puts me in one of about three places in America), and have focused on Holy Week each day. I saw a passion play at a big First Baptist church just last night. I'm prepared to preach twice on Easter, after attending a sunrise service. It's been a great week.

    Sure, the resurrection is 2 days away. This is the day that Jesus died. His mother was sad, the apsotles were terrified. The sky turned dark in the middle of the day, and the earth trembled. It's all because Jesus died. But why did he die? So you and I might live. By his stripes we are healed. He is the Lamb of God that was slain, and takes away the sins of the world. That should do something for us even today.

  • Christine

    ah John I have finally found a kindred spirit!! Always am massively depressed on good friday and con’t do church services (gasp…shock…horror) on it cos all the songs make me want to cry. But within the sadness there is a hope…but like you said, does zilch for me today

  • Greta Sheppard

    I just came in the door from a Good Friday Inter-Church presentation

    of the cross…sang and acted and preached out. On the wall of the church was a wall hanging…barely visible in the dimmed lights. My eye were drawn to it. Here’s what I read:








    Obviously, it is a cry of a depressed heart… someone who knows what Good Friday is all about but feels helpless in a sense to explain the love behind the suffering…

  • Whoa Big Guy? Sounds like someone's body sugar is too low. Email me with mailing address. Cookies on standby.

  • I'm sorry to hear this day depresses you like it does. I'm a little naive I guess. I hit Good Friday knowing what it brings with it. While it was a such a tragic event, in just a couple of days it brings with it a promise fulfilled. It sort of reminds me of a man who used to play Santa for a care center for retarded children. It always upset him so thinking that any of those children could have been his. I had to ask him one time why it didn't put joy in his heart to put such joy on their faces?

    Thanks for sharing that you aren't always "high on life".

  • I think that many of us resonate with you John.. many not just on Good Friday 🙁

  • Thanks, Mr. Bob.

  • Thanks to you all!

  • Greta, Brandon Heath sings "Give me your eyes". It's my favourite song these days.

  • Greta Sheppard

    Janelle…I shall try and find the song… thank you for enlightening me…the words were and still are poignant to my heart…really gripped me…


  • Tammy Ransdell

    I know you wrote this a few years back..but I have to comment and say how much I agree! I don’t like that its’ called “good” Friday. I prefer to call it Easter Friday. There is nothing good about anyone dying…especially our Christ.

  • Right? Thank you.