Woman whose 9-year-old was drugged and raped checks in

This just came in, and thought I’d take a moment to share it, for those of my readers who did such a great job of showing our friend here the kind of love and support she needed to … well, end up writing me this (which I’m sharing with, of course and always, her permission):

Hi John,

It’s Courtney, who wrote the letter you answered so beautifully in Where was God when my 9-year-old son was drugged and raped?. Thank you for that. Reading that piece and all of the responses moved me so much, and really helped my healing process. I have started to come out of the state of frozen terror/guilt I was in. I have even started taking college courses! Your blog gave me courage and a beginning amount of freedom. After years of encouragement from my boyfriend, I finally signed up for classes! I am in my 4th week of a philosophy class, and boy is it interesting. I now have a feeling of freedom in my life, of moving forward. Thank you for what you and your readers do.

So. There we have it. Healing happens—and as it happens for one, it happens for all.

To say this sort of thing wouldn’t happen if it weren’t for the depth and caliber of the “comments” people leave on my blog is an understatement.

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About John Shore

John Shore (who, fwiw, is straight) is the author of UNFAIR: Christians and the LGBT Question, and three other great books. He is founder of Unfundamentalist Christians (on Facebook here), and executive editor of the Unfundamentalist Christians group blog.  (In total John's two blogs receive some 250,000 views per month.) John is also co-founder of The NALT Christians Project, which was written about by TIME,  The Washington Post, and others. His website is JohnShore.com. John is a pastor ordained by The Progressive Christian Alliance. You're invited to like John's Facebook page. And don't forget to sign up for his mucho awesome monthly newsletter.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kimberli.rose Kimberli Rose via Facebook

    Very inspiring! Thanks for this and I still admire the original article where she wrote in and you answered her so compassionately.

  • Dawn Dusendang via Facebook

    John, you are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing this. If only more Christians could be as compassionate and empathetic as you are. :)

  • textjunkie

    Yay and best wishes to her and her kid!!

  • Courtney Kelman via Facebook
  • http://www.examiner.com/user-naiomigonzalez02 Naiomi

    This is great news! Hope she continues to experience healing in the days and years to come.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alexis-Twiford/841384198 Alexis Twiford via Facebook

    Thanks…..John & Courtney Kelman :)

  • Chris Gillespie via Facebook

    Fellow-pilgrims give the best kind of help – often just by being there and walking alongside, sometimes by sharing their own experiences.

    Loud-mouthed spectators of life are usually the most useless, and even damaging to listen to.

    How is the child doing?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Blaine-Williams/100001220897612 Blaine Williams via Facebook

    I know it’s none of our business, but this made me wonder how the healing of the boy is going. He may not remember the rape because that is the nature of the drugs used in this way (loss of memory), but the experience could be subconscioulsy remembered, and, as a dancer, I know the body has it’s own memory. I pray he is getting the help he needs.

  • Valerie

    So glad to hear that you are doing better, Courtney. I pray that you and your son continue to heal and move forward in your lives. God bless.

  • Courtney Kelman via Facebook

    @Chris and Blaine, he is doing very well in his current hospital. He remembers very clearly what happened, and is working through all of his memories, flashbacks and feelings. His grades have come up dramatically (specialty hospitals have schools), and his behavior has improved overall. He has begun to see a future life for himself. He still is not sure where to direct his fury over his experiences, but that will all be worked out in time. Thank you for questions!

    • danielle

      That’s great news. He’s obviously got an amazing mother; he wouldn’t be able to open up and begin to heal like he has without you. Even in a great facility, it’s hard to really open up without knowing there is someone out there who loves you no matter what and is there for you every step of the way, even when it gets ugly.

    • http://rawfaithrealworld.wordpress.com/ Linda B

      Courtney I’m so glad to hear the update on your story. I’m so glad that your son is in a place where he is able to work through his memories in a safe place and that he’s doing better with school too. As someone who experienced prolonged physical, sexual and emotional abuse as a child, I want to be the voice of encouragement that says that there is so much hope for him to experience life and wholeness. He has one of the most precious of all gifts, a mother who is there for him. Having professional help to help him navigate his responses and to help him learn effective ways to deal with the hurt, and the anger and rage with help him so much as well. Thank you so much for your courage to share your story with us all. My continued prayers for both of you. Thank you John for creating a safe place for us to care for each other.

  • mike moore

    Courtney, your courage is amazing. And to know you and your son are healing makes the world a better place today.

    John, your blog is also making the world a better place. Thank you, again.

  • http://www.barnmaven.com Barnmaven

    This is so lovely. Courtney, I am delighted to hear that you are experiencing some healing. I can’t imagine how it has been for you or for your son, and I appreciate how you have shared your feelings and thoughts with us.

    I pray your journey continues to bring you healing and peace and that you continue to experience the love and care of others along the way.

  • Allie

    Wow, this is great news! Courtney, I’m so happy for you, and glad to hear your son is doing better.

  • Melody

    I’m glad you’re doing so much better, Courtney. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to recover from such a thing, and I just want to say what a courageous, strong woman I think you are. I’m also very happy to hear that your son is doing better, and I pray for continued healing during this time.

  • Christine McQueen

    I need to find some way to cut down on the groups and pages I follow on Facebook, because, somehow I missed this when it went up! Very glad to read that both Courtney and her son are doing better.


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