Why I Haven’t Given up on Christians

I grew up in church. My family was there every time the doors were open. I loved to attend Vacation Bible School, choir, mission trips, Christian camps, etc. I gave my life to Christ in high school and vowed to serve Him with all my being. In college I spent my summers volunteering and working for Christian camps and organizations. I led Bible studies, served with various ministries, and even joined a Christian sorority. After college I became a missionary with a parachurch Christian organization and devoted myself to reaching, loving on, and discipling teenagers for Christ. My whole identity was in being a Christian, a missionary, and a child of God.
But when I came out as gay everything came crashing down around me. [Read more…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – Dec 15th

Join us on Monday, December 15th for our last Living in the Tension Gathering of 2014. It will also be the last LITT that Kevin Harris, our Director of Community Relations, will lead. Kevin has been the heart of this organization for several years now. If you’ve been out to one of our LITT gatherings [Read More…]

Saying Goodbye to Kevin

Kevin Harris, our Director of Community Relations, will be leaving his position on staff at The Marin Foundation at the end of the year after starting with us in 2009. With him moving on, we wanted to take the opportunity to have him share a little about his work with us, some of what he [Read More…]

Christmas is the Perfect Time to Protest. No, Really.

If there’s one theme that unites these two traditions — the plate-of-cookies-for-santa narrative and the candle-light-Christmas-Eve-service narrative — it’s comfort. The warmth of firelight. The familiarity of ritual. The excitement of anticipation. It’s all very comforting.

Yesterday, the church across the street from where we live did something very uncomfortable and untraditional. They filed out the doors and into the street chanting, “Hands up — Don’t shoot!” They held signs saying, “Black lives matter to God and us,” and “We can’t breathe,” and “Do Justice, love mercy and walk humbly with your God.” They filled the intersection in front of my building and shut down traffic (with the help of law enforcement officers, it should be added). [Read more…]

Building Bridges Instead of Armies

I define building an army as an agent that seeks a following of people that look like them, talk like them, act and think like them, vote like them, believe like them, choose like them, work like them, and exist in the same sphere as them.  Anyone can do that.  Anyone. It takes no boldness, faith, [Read More…]

World AIDS Day

Just over three decades ago, when we knew only the devastation HIV inflicted, those living with it had to fight just to be treated with dignity and compassion, and since the first cases of AIDS were reported, tens of millions of vibrant men and women have lost their lives to this deadly virus. Today, we [Read More…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – 12/1/14

With Monday, December 1, being World AIDS Day we will be watching the documentary How To Survive a Plague for our Living in the Tension gathering. Considering that the documentary has a runtime of 120 minutes, we will be starting it right at 7pm. We will be at our normal spot in Room 124 on 5255 N [Read More…]

Facing the Music

Our friend Jennifer Knapp, who put on a special Living in the Tension concert for us back in 2012, has been working on a book, and it’s been out for not-quite 2 months.    If you’ve ever been a Knapp fan, you ought to try to pick up a copy of the book when you [Read More…]

Transgender Awareness Week

This week has been Transgender Awareness Week, culminating in yesterday’s Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), on which we honor trans people who have been victims of homicide.   Some of you joined us yesterday in observance,  and we’ve compiled a few resources for those of you who want to read more.   The Transgender Violence [Read More…]

If You Don’t Get Our Newsletter…

…then you’ve missed a lot of great things.   Because we love you, here are some highlights: Michael writes about his experiences at The NINES conference and at The Reformation Project, sharing with us this video from The NINES:  and this one from The Reformation Project:    Laura writes about her experience at The Youth [Read More…]

On Body Image

I moved to Chicago two months ago now; I’m meeting with challenges here. Wear and tear, so far, includes the theft of my catalytic converter, a minor injury, and issues with my bank that’ve had me calling them weekly. Having worked in customer service, I know better than to antagonize folks who do the same. On my last phone call with the bank, though – the fifth, I think – I flipped, until someone finally explained the situation I was trying to address. And that was that. [Read more…]

Living in the Tension – November 17th

For our upcoming Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, November 17th, we will be discussing body image. Our current intern, Anna Stokes, will be sharing a part of her story and leading us in discussing how we experience and think about this topic in our lives. We will be meeting at 5255 N Ashland [Read More…]

The “Closet” is OK, But Here’s an Alternate Floorplan-Based Metaphor for Coming Out

The term “coming out” is an interesting phrase (with a long and fascinating history that you can find out about here). The imagery associated with it is one of emerging from a closet (a place of hiding) into a room (a shared space). It’s moving from a private space to a public one. It implies a decisive moment for an LGBTQ person. One minute their sexual orientation or gender identity is a secret, and the next it isn’t. [Read more…]

NEW: Support Groups for Christian Parents of LGBTQ Children

It can be very difficult to find support groups specifically for Christian parents of LGBTQ children because they are few and far between and often not well advertised. Therefore The Marin Foundation spent the last few months researching and scouring the Internet to compile a list of these groups throughout the United States. [Read more…]