Memorial Day Weekend Wrap Up

When planning my posts for this past weekend, I didn't think about the fact that it was Memorial Day weekend. Since people are generally online less over a holiday weekend, I probably should have slowed down on posting. Except I didn't. So I thought I would offer a sort of link wrap up for the posts I put up over the weekend. Enjoy!What Feminism Means to MeRaised Quiverfull: Homeschooling CompleteWorthwhile Reads: Marriage, the Bible, Sex, and ModestyMarital Blind Spots: Miming … [Read more...]

Dear Libby: How can I help my cousins?

Dear Libby,The reason I'm emailing is because my husband's uncle is really into the quiverfull, biblical patriarchy stuff and I'm really concerned about his daughters. They're home-schooled, not going to uni and seem to be just waiting at home to get married. I'm pretty worried about them and what options they've got for their futures. They live in New Zealand, so the only contact is via facebook at the moment.Do you think it's possible to try and challenge them to think through their be … [Read more...]

Interesting Parallels: Patriarchy in Islam and Christianity

I just found a blog called A Sober Second Look, authored by an American woman who converted to Islam in the 1980s but has since deconverted. She uses her blog to muse on her experiences and work through what she had been through. What strikes me from perusing her blog is just how very very similar her experiences regarding patriarchy are to the Christian Patriarchy culture in which I grew up. It's not that I'm surprised by this, really. It's just that when I read her articles and want to yell … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Purity, Courtship, and Sex Education

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What were you taught about physical purity, emotional purity, and courtship and dating? How was sex education handled? Joe: Sex was bad.  Sure, it was supposed to be beautiful and all AFTER MARRIAGE, but it was bad until then.  You couldn't talk about it, think about it, read about it, look at pictures about it - or so Mama tried to tell us.  I got all my sexual education from my public schooling, even though Mama made us sit out of sex education.  I knew so much about it that I wanted it.  I w … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Dateable: Am I?

Every so often I get a pingback indicating that another blogger has mentioned one of my posts. Sometimes, as it did today, this leads me to interesting and insightful post and blogs. This particular one is so spot on that I just have to share it with you. It's called Dateable: Am I?, posted on VeganAtheistBlog. Here is an excerpt in which the author discusses what a purity book she read as a young teen taught her: - Boys only think of sex. Always. No boy ever likes you, they just want to have … [Read more...]

Marital Blind Spots: Miming Our Parents’ Mistakes

I recently read a guest post called "But He Never Hit Her." Every once in a while I run across a post that really makes me think and evaluate my own actions, and this was one of them. The author starts by talking about her parents' abusive relationship and then goes on to talk about how growing up with this view of marriage as normal affected her own marriage. After quoting from the article, I'll provide some of my own thoughts and experiences with this. So many people think that abuse is … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Marriage, the Bible, Sex, and Modesty

Spiritual Tyranny offers an excellent satire, Modesty Check for Men, pointing out what would happen if the purity culture dropped its double standard regarding modesty teachings and pointed itself at men as well as at women: Am I wearing a sleeveless shirt that shows my underarm hair? Some women are turned on by the smell of sweat and hairiness of men. I need to put on a good deodorant, and wear sleeves.Are my jeans too tight in the groin or buttocks regions? Many women can be distracted if … [Read more...]