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Jan and I are headed for Olympia. My mom sounds like she is declining rapidly. Don’t know how to do this right.
Being there is doing it right.
May the Lord bless you and keep you, and whether the day is near or far, grant your mother the grace of a happy death, surrounded by the love of family.
You are in my prayers.
We found great solace praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet for our parents and will do so for your Mom.
There is no right way of doing this. She’s doing the hard part. You’re job is to be there, comfort her and comfort each other as best you can, according to your gifts.
Praying for peace and comfort for your mom, you, and your family.
I’m praying. How many times families said to me on the unit “no one tells you how to do this.”. As others have said, there is no right way: Go. Hold her hand. Tell her you love her. Say thank-you. Sing songs of comfort, songs she loved. Pray for her and with her. Laugh and cry with her. Be her advocate with the medical staff. Ask her and your guardian angels for inspiration and guidance.
I offer my prayers through the intercession of St. Joseph.
Just be there and let her know you love her. God help you.
Nothing to do. Just be there. We’ll pray.
I’ll be praying for you.
I am so sorry. I held my own mother’s hand. She sat up suddenly to say two decades of the rosary with me, though a moment earlier she had appeared to be in a coma. It is hard. God bless you all.
Canadian, like Kathy Shaidle. God love you, Mark, and your mom and the rest of the family. Praying!
God take her into His everlasting peace, and send comfort to you, Jan and the entier family. So sorry.
My family and I will be praying for your mom and your family brother.
:’-( I am so sorry. Prayers for you all!
There is no right way to do this. Unfortunately, whatever you do, it will hurt. I think Sherry and the other commenters have the right advice. Just be there. Laugh with her, cry with her, pray for her, and tell her that you love her. God bless you, your Mom, and the rest of your family.
Just focus on loving her. A few years ago, my mom gave me a plaque that reads, “You know the song in my heart. Sing it to me when I’ve forgotten the words.” Time to sing to your mom, Mark.
I am so sorry and am praying for you.
You, your Mom and your family will be in my prayers. I agree with most of what others have written. If you do your best to be there for her, and to support her, there really is nothing you can do wrong. When it was my Dad a year ago, we put on a CD player with some of his favorite music. We all prayed as my brother offered him the last rights, we told him we loved him. In the last minutes, I silently prayed the rosary… Its all weird, part of you wants it over and part of you hopes it lasts longer so you can get one more precious moment with your parent.
Peace be with you. I’m not sure there’s a “right” way to do this.
I write on the anniversary of my wife’s death.
I am so sorry Mark. Praying for you, and for her.
Be patient with yourself, your family members and your mother. There’s a reason this encounter with the Lord’s will is called “vigil.” Be receptive to resting your weary eyes in the days and nights to come as and when needed (ie no need to be reading these comments for now) even if that means some other dear-heart is privileged to sit at her bedside when her soul surrenders her spirit into the arms of her beloved Saviour. Holy Week may resonate more deeply for you the sorrowful mystery of separation, a gracious gift foreseen for you by our loving Father from the moment you were a mere twinkle in your mother’s eye! Her share in the Alleluia promise is being fervently prayed for in PA.
I’m simply praying that God will strengthen you and the family for whatever lies ahead. And that your mother may have the grace of a peaceful and holy death.
Prayers and blessings. I just lost my mother in the fall, my sister and I found there was no right or wrong, just love. My heart goes out to you.
I am sorry, Mark. Prayers for strength and peace for your whole family.
May God bless and keep you all. Praying.
God bless you, Mark. My mom died three years ago. No right way to do ‘it’, just do it with love and prayer. You are in my prayers.
Prayers for your mom and whole family.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Praying for you and your family, Mark.
Prayers, including: O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in You.
I am very sorry for this sad news. Prayers for your mom, you and your family. Let the Holy Spirit guide you. There is no “right way.” Speak and act with love. St Christopher also pray for your safe travels.
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on the dying. Let every breath, to the last, be an act of perfect love for you.
Prayer sent to our Blessed Mother for her. God be with you too.
Mark, I was in this exact position a few years back with my Mom. All I can say is pray with and for her, hold her hand, give her love. For us it was a mystical time yes filled with sadness, yet with hope and as crazy as it sounds a sense of joyful anticipation that she would be going to her true home. I pray for you and your family to find the strength and peace in each other and your faith at this difficult time. Peace.
I have been there. It is an amazing crossing over. It is painful. But Jesus is there waiting for her. How amazing is that! Not only Him, but a host of others that love her dearly. The pain is ours, the joy is all hers and those waiting for her.
I will offer the Mercy Chaplet now on behalf of your mother, and for your whole family. Be there with love (as you are doing), and you are doing it right.
So sorry – I am praying.
Hope you make it in time, from the perspective of a daughter who didn’t. I called when my plane landed to find my mom had just died. There is no right. Prayers for her and those who love her.
I am so sorry to hear this Mark.
May God guide and hold you and yours.
Prayers up for you.
Praying for you.
May St. Joseph intercede for your dear Mom for the grace of a peaceful and holy death. I know he did that for us last year when my husband died here at home, surrounded by family. The love and peace in that room was palpable. I’m praying all those graces and blessings for you.
All My Prayers.
Prayers and good luck, buddy.
Prayers for your mother.
I’m praying for her & your family.
God go with you, Mark.