Advocating for Your Gay Mormon Family Member

I recently had the opportunity to interview Wendy and Tom Montgomery and their two children, Jordan (15) and Susannah (14).  They are devout Mormons from California who have five children in total.  They were part of the movement of many LDS members who pounded on doors in 2008 to support the passage of Proposition 8, the state referendum that overturned the ruling that allowed same-sex couples to marry in California.  They did so not knowing that their oldest son Jordan was gay and that he was s … [Read more...]

Respectful Commenting

I just want to remind everyone that I have a "no tolerance" policy for harsh or unkind comments.  There are plenty of places we can have those types of conversations on the web - and I really try hard to keep this a respectful space where everyone can feel safe and supported - even when we disagree.I really hate to delete comments - because usually, there are valuable parts of the comment that get lost just because of the tone of the message.Please help me keep this a place of respectful … [Read more...]

Survey for Return Missionaries

For those of you who have served an LDS mission, the following survey is currently being taken:Purple Heart RMs They are a group trying to address medical issues which occur on missions and are planning to meet with an emeritus general authority to present their data by the end of this month.  Please take the time to help out. … [Read more...]

Is oral sex wrong before marriage?

Is it wrong to partake in sexual acts like oral sex, fingering and handjobs before marriage? If so, what can go wrong? I’m a firm believer that sexual intercourse should be reserved for marriage due to scientific evidence, but whether the same applies to other sexual acts is a point of conflict for me.I believe the church makes it clear on its position being that the sexual acts you mention are not deemed appropriate outside of marriage.However, I would like to look a little deeper into w … [Read more...]

Teaching Chastity to the Relief Society

Lesson I will be giving in Relief Society on September 22, 2013.Based on the talk given by Elder David A. Bednar: We Believe in Being Chaste from the April 2013 General ConferenceMy Favorite Quotes from the Lesson:All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and … has a divine nature and destiny.  The Family: A Proclamation to the World.Our physical bodies make possible a breadth, a depth, and an in … [Read more...]

I am cutting myself…

I am the only person in my family who believes in the lds church. I love to go church every Sunday. I love to play soccer and I am a cutter. That's kind of hard to say without being disappointed and crying but living in an lds based place I've had a hard time finding answers or anything/ anyone to help.I am only 13. I have been cutting myself with a pencil sharpener blade since like 6 months ago. I did it a couple times on my inner thighs and on my wrist. Since then I haven't been able to … [Read more...]

I have an addiction to porn…

I have an addiction to porn. I'm busy going to a support group and the 12step process. I'm currently on probation - church wise that is. My wife and I have been wondering how do we now fix the physical side of our marriage? My wife has been sick for many years on and off. She is overweight and does not consider herself "sexy". I'm not sure how to switch on the desire and keep it in check. Is there a sex or couples therapist in your area you could work with? If I was working with you: I … [Read more...]

Teaching about Chastity to the Youth

This is an email I wrote in reply to the Young Women's presidency in my ward wanting some feedback as to good quotes/resources for teaching about chastity - which is the theme this month.  So this is the quick email I responded with: sorry it's written in a somewhat discombobulated way:I know which scripture should NOT be read is the one in Moroni 9:9.  That is a rape/pillaging scripture and should not be used to teach about normal sexual development/exploration.My main concerns with t … [Read more...]

Relief Society: True Charity & Pure Religion

Here is the Relief Society lesson I've prepared for Sunday, July 14th.My favorite quotes and scriptures from the lesson:I was hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me... Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my sisters, ye have done it unto me.  Matthew 25: 35, 36 & 40And charity … [Read more...]

Conversions by Craig Harline

I was recently part of this great bookclub discussion. Very interesting and well written book about the conversion process for individuals and its effects on family systems.Conversions: Two Family Stories from the Reformation and Modern America with Craig HarlineCraig Harline, a native of California, is a cultural historian and a professor of history at BYU. He teaches courses on the Reformation, the history of civilization, film, and Christianity.  He has also taught seminars on m … [Read more...]