I am in dire need of help. My husband and I married 8 months ago and it has been the hardest 8 months of my life. First off his laid back personality changed to yelling all the time at me for a plethora of reasons. Mainly our sex life and his frustration that I wasn’t enjoying it the way he thought I should. With the help of great books we overcame that but it took a few months and a... Read more
I have been married for over 10 years & love my wife. I am happy with my wife. I feel sure that she feels happy with me. We have two great kids, still young enough that one sleeps with us some. We both work hard as parents, with church callings and in our professional lives. We rarely have sex more than once or twice a week. My wife enjoys sex at times, but has little interest most of the time.... Read more
This is the last week to be eligible for the free give-away, The Discovery Game, sponsored through SimplySweetMarriage.com. You need to subscribe to my email list-serve to be eligible for the drawing by the end of this month. Be advised that if you win, I will contact you by email and then will need your shipping address so that the sponsor can mail you your prize. Also be advised that I have a new email list-serve widget. If you’ve subscribed... Read more
It is interesting to see the results of these polls. On this one, I am a bit confused with how to answer the definition of “led to a problem with”… Is your definition of leading to having a problem: “still masturbates on occassion”, or “masturbates frequently – possible addiction”? Although I still masturbate on occassion, I said that it didn’t lead to a problem – has not affected my sexual relationship with my wife. What I am looking for is... Read more
My loving, wonderful boyfriend has just confessed to me his past addiction to masturbation. He’s a marvelous, spiritual boy who struggled with this particularly on his mission, and also at times in his life when he’s felt particularly lonely. He’s told me I’m the only person who knows, apart from scattered priesthood leaders from his mission who I don’t think did a lot to help him. He’s a perfectionist and feels a lot of guilt and shame and, based on... Read more
My husband and I were married in the temple as believing LDS members. Now my husband’s beliefs have changed. This has been a difficult change, but we are working through it using whatever resources we can find. My question is how to deal with this- Things that he used to think were wrong are now ok. For example R movies with nudity and sex and raunchy humor, a little porn, drinking, tobacco. He thinks any of this in moderation is... Read more
Does anyone feel that some form of erotica is ever appropriate for helping a lower-drive spouse become aroused for sex? Is there some type of arousing media that would be appropriate for this purpose and not be considered pornographic? First of all, I think it is important to correctly define the term “erotica.” literature or art dealing with sexual love. literary or artistic works having an erotic theme or quality If you’ve ever gone to a movie where there is... Read more
The following two articles are written about a new study that recently came out including a study population of 662 African American students in grades 6-7 in Pennsylvania. Abstinence-only programs might work, study says Abstinence Education Done Right The following is the link to the actual study itself: Efficacy of a Theory-Based Abstinence-Only Intervention Over 24 Months Read more
Before I came to college, I moved 18 times in 17 years, and I’ve been physically/mentally/emotionally by my biological father and physically/sexually by my first step-father. I think that putting all of that together is making it hard for me to not be paranoid about the friends I’ve made at college, and it makes it really hard for me to trust people. I love them like sisters, and they rarely hurt me (and when they do, it is minor), but... Read more
Beautiful Fat Woman:I apologize, but due to the influx of questions I receive it usually takes me several weeks to get back to people with a response. I know it’s difficult to spill your guts like you did and then have to wait such a long time. There’s just so much I can do. A donation speeds up a response since I put questions linked with a donation at the head of the line. You can click on both “disclosures”... Read more
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