Do I Love My Country?

Bismillahi Rahmni RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahDo I love my country?  Today is Veterans Day, so I guess it's as good a day as any to contemplate this question.  So, do I love my country?  Well, I'd have to say no, but before you come after me with flaming torches and pitchforks, screaming "Love it or leave it!", let me explain:I'm an American.  I was born in France to a German mother and an American soldier dad who was stationed overseas.  I grew up here in a town … [Read more...]

When a Gallon of Milk Means “I Love You”

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahLast night was movie night in our house.  We were camped on on the bed, hubby on one side, me on the other, baby in between, my oldest son teetering on the far edge while his brothers and sister came and went.  They were more interested in fighting space battles with plastic light sabers than watching a shoot-em-up bang-bang movie on TV.The movie was pure action adventure, with an unlikely hero pitted against a stereotypically evil … [Read more...]

How Do You Do It? Uh, I Don’t….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI got a message from a friend on Facebook.  "MashAllah, how do you do it?  Take care of the kids, the house, everything?"  Well, much as I would love to bask in the plaudits of my loving friends, I have to set the record straight.  To the question of "How do you do it?", my answer is "I don't". See, what you see on Facebook or my blog or elsewhere is a snapshot of my life.  A very, very brief snapshot, and only the … [Read more...]

When is a Miracle Not a Miracle?

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI read a lot, probably way too many news websites.  I read articles about major disasters such as floods, fires, plane crashes,  and other mayhem.  Oftentimes, there is one person who survived, and the media makes the most of it.  The survival is labeled "a miracle" and people are in wonderment that one has been spared.  Then I think about the flip side.  If the survival of one person in a plane crash that kills … [Read more...]

Hmm, Thursday, What to Write on a Thursday….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahGood Thursday everyone!  Happy Yawm al Jumuah-Eve!  :).  I've been pretty busy and also a bit unfocused the last several days.  Allah knows there's plenty in the news to comment on, from a toxic spill in Hungary to bullying to firefighters letting a house burn down.  No slow news days lately, with plenty of chaos and lots of "Beware: graphic content" videos.I have been hearing a lot lately about the state of our … [Read more...]

Better Get This Said Before I Go Off On A Screed….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI looked at what I've written over the last few days and I am thinking to myself, whoa, not exactly looking uplifting and inspiring there.  I guess when you're dealing with a complex topic like the relationship between men and women, you can get very down on everyone.  I mean, look no further than the pages of your local newspaper and you can see evidence of the dysfunction of the family.  And I don't get asked for advice when … [Read more...]

You Aren’t Evil, You’re Weak (part deux)….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahYesterday I wrote a rather, uh, forceful post about marriage and how sometimes the men are not doing their part to make an Islamic home.  Well, I  don't want to be accused of man-bashing, because that is certainly not my intent.  We women are just as flawed as our brothers, so sometimes we need a good kick in the pants as well.  I'll be happy to oblige (and I'll be kicking  myself as well, don't worry).Okay, first and … [Read more...]

You Aren’t Evil, You’re Weak…

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI am getting soooo tired of reading blogs, status updates, and e-mails from women complaining about their husbands.  It makes me so sad to see families split up when there are children involved.  I could write a long post about how to not marry an idiot (that goes for men and women), but there are so many couples out there who already got married and are on the brink of divorce, or who are separated, so let me say a word about the … [Read more...]

Ache in My Chest

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahSo I have this ache in my chest, anxiety, a feeling like I should be doing something (besides writing a blog entry). I know I have tons of things that I need to be doing, including paying bills, shopping for groceries, posting on eBay, ordering pictures for my mom, cleaning house, laundry, lawn care, cleaning the shed.  Okay, now I know why I have this ache in my chest.  I have all this stuff I need to do, some stuff I want to do, … [Read more...]

Conspiracy Theories

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI read a status update today on FB.  It mentioned something about denying the Holocaust and believing in The Protocols of the Elders of Zion, a fictional work attributed to Jews that I've never seen but which purportedly talks about the Jewish conspiracy to take over the world and orgies of feasting on the blood of goyim children.  Can we just stop right here?  I mean, right here, right now.  The Holocaust happened, … [Read more...]