Guest Post: Dear Son, Here are Some Things You Need to Know

Editor’s note: This is a letter from my friend Rabiah to her 10-year-old son Issa.

Dear Issa,

This past year has been a challenging one…to say the least.

You have heard a lot of talk about kicking people out, not letting people in, and what it means to be American.

All of this divisiveness in our national debates has no doubt trickled down to your young ears and left you wondering — why can’t grown-ups get along and do the things they expect of you: Play nice, share and compromise.

I wish it was that simple… and maybe it is… I am not sure.

What I do know is that while I wish I could protect you from every injustice, act of discrimination or feeling of pain, I know that I cannot.

The best way I know to protect you is to empower you with the values that will help you rise in spite of all that tries to bring you down. So here are some things I want you to know:

First, know that while we can’t always control the forces around us, we can control how we react to them. Develop a strong sense of self so that no matter how much someone tries to make you feel like the “other,” you never question who you are or your place in this world — you belong, and you have a purpose in this life.

Second, have the courage and confidence to stand up and speak out for yourself, but make sure to do this for others as well. When you do so, you will better understand and appreciate the struggles of those before you and those around you. You will find that you are not the first, last or only one.

Third, you have many partners, allies and friends in this world who see you and will help lift you up. Seek them out. Your little shoulders need not carry the heavy burden of changing the world alone. You might also find some of these folks in the most unexpected places so don’t assume the worst about others.

Fourth, when you come across someone with an opposing view, always keep an open mind, seek common ground or agree to disagree respectfully. Don’t be the one who can’t be moved.

Fifth, you are blessed to be where you are. You have access to resources that most in this world don’t – freedom, education and safety. But with this blessing comes responsibility to do something meaningful. Don’t take this lightly, and don’t take this for granted.

And finally, when you find yourself down and tired, don’t give up and don’t lose hope. Know that there is much beauty in this world, and real change takes time and real work. Keep at it and find solace in the fact, that ultimately, God will show the way.

Love,

Your Momma

Rabiah Ahmed is the director of media and public affairs at MPAC (Muslim Public Affairs Council).