She Could Have Been Me

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She could have been me.

I didn’t get to that thought at first. My first reaction when I saw the Live Action undercover video The War on Baby Girls was anger. I’ve known this was happening, that women were aborting baby girls because they were baby girls, for quite a while.

My sources were nurses and chaplains who work in Oklahoma hospitals. I helped pass a bill which tried, within the straight jacket of Supreme Court rulings on the subject of abortion, to do something about it. The supporters of legal abortion claimed that the bill was unnecessary, that sex-selected abortions don’t happen.

It gets wearying, dealing with the constant barrage of lies that attend politics these days. No one tells the truth; not about their intentions, the legislation, or the objective facts of medical practice. Nothing — and I mean NOTHING — brings out the facile lying more than the fine art and practice of medical misogyny.

So, when I watched that video, my first reaction was anger. It took a few hours for the other reaction to come around. I kept remembering that counselor. She was careful with her words. She never said “abortion,” or “abort.” The word “kill” didn’t cross her lips. She talked about “terminate.”

“If you decide to terminate,” she said.

I replayed her face as she told the girl to avoid telling people that she was planning to abort her baby if the baby was a girl.

Some people might “place judgement,”  she said.

Nothing about the counselor shouted Monster! But what she was doing, what she was saying, what she was aiding, abetting and helping to happen WAS monstrous. How did she, how does anyone, get to this place? The grim logic of abortion and its illogical conclusions doubtless played a part in her actions. If a five month old baby (and that’s what a 20-week fetus is) is not human enough to have a right to life, then what does it matter why we kill her?

But the counselor’s words resonate: “Place judgement” she said. That’s the paralyzing ethos of our times at work. Judging, judgmentalism, are the evils in this upside down world, not the murder of an innocent baby girl.

I would guess that a lot of people look at that counselor with disgust and rage. But I feel sorry for her. I hate having to admit this, but the truth is, she could have been me. There was a time when I wasn’t just pro-choice, I was a stinking fanatic about it. I had seen and experienced first hand the violence, degradation and destruction that is misogyny and, like so many young women of my time, I saw abortion as a way out.

But when you go down that path of using one evil to justify another evil you end up committing even greater evils yourself. If you really aren’t a monster who has no conscience or concern for other people, you look for ways to hide what you are doing from yourself. The greatest lies of our times are the lies we tell ourselves to justify doing things that we know are wrong. What makes it work is that the whole culture conspires with us in the doing of it.

The culture, not just of Planned Parenthood, but of our whole American world, says that you can not, you should not, you must not “judge.”

As with most lies that are effective, this one has truth mixed into it. The desire to play God runs strong in all of us. I think that if we had the power to enact our judgements on one another, none of us would go to heaven. We would all condemn one another to hell.

But using the word “judgement” itself as a condemnation is not only idiotic, it’s destructive. The human brain is designed by Our Maker to observe, compare, think and conclude. These conclusions are just another word for “judgement.” When our culture labels this power to discern and decide an evil; when it shears our thinking brains away from us, we become a culture of co-dependence and mental decay.

It’s as if we’ve all suffered a cultural stroke and the words “this is wrong” have been erased from our minds. Instead of saying the plain facts of things, we go into mental gymnastics, trying to “understand” the most hideous behavior. We create fantasy motives for crimes against humanity which are tissues of lies we tell ourselves. These fantasy interpretations of the plain reality in front of us help us silence the thinking, analyzing parts of our brains. They allow us to avoid the social anathema of being labeled “judgmental.”We find ourselves unable to set standards for behavior for anyone, including ourselves.

That is how a basically kind-hearted person can become a monster.

The great irony is that the flip side of this is no better. If we take the untrammeled power to judge others onto ourselves, we unleash the monsters of condemnation, discrimination and, inevitably, killing of innocents. That’s where the gulags, pogroms, lynchings, rapes and murders come from. On the other hand, if we flee from this into a refusal to “judge,” we unleash the monsters of condemnation, discrimination and, inevitably, killing of innocents. That’s where the attacks on Christians, abortions, euthanasia, and starvation of millions for corporate greed come from.

We can whipsaw our human nature from pole to pole; from legalistic judging to fear of judging that becomes another kind of legalistic judging, and we always end up right back where we started from. We are caught forever in the morass and mess of original sin and we cannot think, moralize or fight our way out of it.

The only thing that can save us is the cross. The only One who can save us is Jesus.

I know. Because He saved me. My first reaction to that video was anger. Then, I indulged in a few minutes of self-righteousness by remembering what I went through trying to help pass a bill to lessen the practice of sex-selected abortion. Finally, I came around to the truth: That counselor could have been me, was me, is me, without Christ.

Human beings become monsters when we take the deciding of right and wrong, good and bad, on ourselves without reference to the One who made us. Nothing we can do, and I mean NOTHING we can do, can save us from this. You can go to church, sing in the choir, read the Bible, but if you do these things on your own power and by your own lights, you can and you will become a monster to somebody. You may not have an abortion. But you’ll do something.

We are not saved by ourselves, of ourselves, or even for ourselves. Our salvation comes through the humiliation of the cross and the only honest way we can approach that cross is with humility.

The only salvation we have is at the foot of the cross.

The counselor in that video could have been me.

When you look around at the sins of the world, which of them could be you?

  • jescherr

    Oh yeah!! Great post.

  • dgcree

    I concur!

  • Rebecca Hamilton

    Thanks to both of you!

  • abcinsc

    Reblogged this on The Peanut Gallery and commented:
    Peanut Gallery: Human beings have an infinite capacity for self-deception. Rebecca Hamilton ably describes the convoluted self-deception surrounding the horror of sex-selected abortion.

    “The greatest lies of our times are the lies we tell ourselves to justify doing things that we know are wrong. What makes it work is that the whole culture conspires with us in the doing of it.”

    Augustine and Calvin talked about “original sin” and “total depravity.” Theological discussion becomes a deadly reality in the most unlikely of places… a mother’s womb. Is there no hope for us?

    Hebrews 4:16 says: “Let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.” Run don’t walk… while there is still time.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      These are such insightful comments. Thank you for making them, and for the reblog.

  • Christian Coping with Suicide

    Your honesty gives you the right to talk about this abuse of life. Thank you for doing so.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      I’ve come to the conclusion that God uses us best in the broken places that only He can heal.

  • crookedsky71

    Awesome Article. I enjoyed reading it.

    • Rebecca Hamilton


  • meetingintheclouds

    As one who became a Christian a few months before she was about to become a Roman Catholic nun, I guess we would have a few differences, but we have at least two things in common:

    Abortion is murder – for any reason and under all circumstances.

    “The only One who can save us is Jesus”

    What an amazing Saviour!

  • Rebecca Hamilton

    He is indeed!

  • Kathie Siler

    God works in such mysterious ways! I am counseling a young woman who was pressured to abort by the child’s father and her friends but refused. Her friends have ridiculed her for, “not taking care of the problem” but God has been faithful as she has sought to honor Him. She will deliver her baby son very soon and has agreed to allow the adoptive mom to be there for the birth. She continues to be ridiculed by her “friends” but God’s peace radiates through her as she “counts it a privilege” to carry her little one to term. Her willing sacrifice has served to remind me and those “who have eyes to see” what an awesome God we serve!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Kathie, this girl and others like her are the heroines of our time. They are the real heroes in the battle for life. I would guess that she’ll need support and love for a long time after the baby is adopted. I pray she’ll have it.

    • Sarah Kuriakos

      It just amazes me that people can call a baby, a human life and a miracle from God, a “problem”!!

      • Rebecca Hamilton

        Sarah, there are none so blind as those who will not see.

  • Rev. K.H. Marple

    Very well written. The Cross is the only way – Jesus Saves! If it were not for the LORD, I would be stricken, drunk and perhaps dead. But Praise GOD! For He loved me when I was so wretched.

  • Rebecca Hamilton

    Well said Rev!

  • Christopher Ralph Newell

    Brilliantly written! I don’t know if this was the intention, but I took your article as a post on the hate and stigma surrounding using one’s brain to properly assess good from evil (a topic I would like to cover in coming weeks) and used sex-selected abortions to exemplify the issue. Reading others’ comments, however, I am lead to believe that these abortions were your topic. Nonetheless, God has given you quite a gift in diction and clarity. I enjoyed the entire read, and I hope to read more of your work in the future.

    Thank you for the ‘like’, I look forward to possible comments and likes in the future, and God bless you.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Christopher, it was about both things, and others as well. Thank you for reading it with such thoughtfulness.

  • jimmyandcha

    This brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for stopping by and liking my post.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thanks for your touching comment.

      • jimmyandcha

        You are very welcome!

  • Mindy Bowman

    Perhaps a language change is required. If words such as kill and murder are used in counseling, how many women would go down that path once the mask of “terminate” is ripped off? Awesome post!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Mindy, I think that in the case of abortion (and most other political discourse these days) language has become a tool of obfuscation rather than communication. You’re right when you say that if we used the words that truly fit our actions many people would no longer be able to do these things.

  • Daniel Undem

    Outstanding post. I love the last few paragraphs. Very well done.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Daniel!

  • neenergyobserver

    Reblogged this on nebraskaenergyobserver and commented:
    This is an incredibly good (as in the real meaning of the word) post. Here Rebecca goes into right and wrong, moral codes and why we all need one, abortion decisions by sex and how we all have fallen. We NEED a moral compass more than we ever know in our head, or even heart, until we find one. Make sure to read the comment stream, also.

  • McDermott Footcare

    from Pray for the counselors. They’re most likely RNs. In nursing school, we study biology, physiology and anatomy. We learn all about giving the best care we can. After learning all about human development and committing our lives to caring for our patients, how can any nurse be pro-abortion? Nurses have a lot to answer for. Pro-abortion nurses are complicit in this crime.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Excellent thoughts, as usual. I’ve read in your blog some of what you’ve encountered and the brave way you handled it. You’re my hero, and not just for this but for your beautiful family.

  • mcdministries

    It appears that being in the public arena haven’t yet corrupted you. Keep up the good work. I’ll pray for you.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you for your prayers.

  • Garrick D. Conner

    This is such a compelling read. I’m sharing this with my social networks. I find your level of discernment refreshing and pray that God will raise up more people who care more about His truth than the applause — or judgment — of men.

  • Rebecca Hamilton

    Thank you Garrick.

  • reaganmillerblog

    Rebecca, thanks for your perspective. We must remain humble while we proclaim the truth, and you have so well captured both. Blessings and courage.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you! I read your blog on the same issue. Very good.

  • The Diatribe Guy

    Thank you, Rebecca.

    I am on the Board of Directors of a local Christian Pregnancy Center. Board members do not deal directly with clients, but we get updated on what goes on at the Center at each Board meeting from the Director. The front lines of abortion are not in the politics, but in the hearts and minds of each person walking through the doors, each with their own struggles, emotions, and story. We pray that they walk through our doors instead of Planned Parenthood’s. So many women come in and are just looking for hope. So many have lost it after they’ve had an abortion.

    These are sad times, but it’s like the guy on the beach throwing back the starfish washed up on the shore. When asked “why bother… you can’t hope to save them all,” the answer was “maybe not, but I can save this one.” We don’t do the “saving,” but each person we help is a person made in the image and likeness of God with infinite worth and dignity.

    Keep up the good fight.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      I volunteered at a crises pregnancy center for a number of years before the stress of trying to do both that and my work as a legislator just got too much for me. It’s God’s own work. Bless you for doing it.

  • gracestories

    “Judging, judgmentalism, are the evils in this upside down world, not the murder of an innocent baby girl.” –good insight, ma’am!

    You have a new angle with your blog. May our Lord Jesus bless you in your efforts. Satan is masterful at trying to discourage us. Thank you for your bravery.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you for your wonderful blog!

  • Holiday Longing

    Thanks for liking my blog. It’s an honor from you. I totally agree with the post. There’s a fair chance that our adopted daughter might have been considered for this barbary. In so many ways, our culture (and soon the evangelical church) is losing its mind.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you! I believe it’s the job of Christians to “be the light of the world” in the darkness of the evil that surrounds us. We do this by following Jesus in our daily lives, even when it costs us.

  • quinersdiner

    Stated with intelligence and compassion. That’s why I like your blog.

  • Rebecca Hamilton

    What a nice compliment. Thank you.

  • Regina Munchel

    Hi Rebecca!

    I’ve missed you at WordPress! :)
    Love your fire! Again, it is refreshing to hear someone who’s actually in a place of being able to put action to her convictions and beliefs, standing up for what it right. Your walk has brought you to a beautiful place of balance, to speak truth from a broader perspective and not just religious rantings.
    May God continue to guide your speech and your insights with great wisdom for the hour. Blessings!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Regina. It’s good to see you here.

  • Becca

    Again, I am astounded and moved by your words – God has gifted you! “It’s as if we’ve all suffered a cultural stroke and the words “this is wrong” have been erased from our minds.” From the beginning of time, mankind has been duped into believing that what God has established for us as wrong, isn’t really “wrong.” It is very deliberate, not accidental, and, before we know it, nothing will be “wrong” (a sin), therefore no need of a Savior. God help us.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      “God help us.”

      Amen, Becca.

  • Mary

    Amen, Rebecca! I am reposting…

    I have been struggling with that fear of offending my ultra liberal Obama loving family and friends lately. I have stopped posting important eye opening articles, because I fear losing them. And I believe they are so entrenched in the lies that they probably won’t read what I have to say anyway. All of this discouragement has further convinced me of the importance of regular Eucharistic Adoration and Confession. If we don’t take our own splinters out of our own eyes, how are we ever going to lead others to see the splinters in their own?

    You speak the truth with amazing clarity! Thank you for sharing this gift of yours…God bless you!
    We can do all things, through Him, who strengthens us!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Mary, you are right about Eucharistic Adoration and prayer. Pray for your friends and trust God. He does incredible things with people.

  • Mary

    Amen Rebecca!
    This is a must repost!
    I struggle with discouragement in trying to “reach” my ultra liberal Obama worshiping family and friends. But, it is posts like these that strengthen my resolve to speak the TRUTH with gentleness and love, no matter the cost! God bless you in your work to spread the truth with such clarity!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Mary.

      • Mary

        Sorry I repeated this comment…I didn’t think the first one went through! :)
        Thanks for responding to comments…it’s kind of you!

        • Rebecca Hamilton

          I’ve repeated a few comments that way myself. Thank you for commenting here Mary. I enjoying answering nice people like you.

  • J. H. M. Ortiz

    But what about the clear Scriptural prohibition “Judge not” (Luke 6:37, Matthew 7:1)? I think Gerald Vann, O.P., has eloquently offered the solution in his book The Heart of Man (Ch. III), in noting simply that “where there is obvious wickedness, we must protest and fight against the external crime, indeed, but we can never judge of [another person's inner] sin because we can never know the human heart.”
    In a similar vein, Vatican II’s constitution Gaudium et Spes states (in Section 28) that “[God] forbids us to make judgments about the internal guilt of anyone.”

  • Ray Bones

    Rebecca, this is a stunningly profound sentence:

    “That counselor could have been me, was me, is me, without Christ.”

    Reading it was quite an epiphany for me. How close we all are to being what we don’t want to be, and would be, but for Christ. It seems to me that all of Christianity is in that sentence, and it answers the question, “Why believe?”.

    Very nicely done. Thank you!

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Ray.

  • Paolo

    Great, great, great.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Paolo!

  • Linda

    I really appreciate how you frame this issue by illustrating how very close we are to those who commit the gravest of wrongs and sins. Often times we can become righteous in our own arrogance that WE would never do something so horrible, but it is not through our own abilities that this is possible. As humans beings we are broken and weak, which can lead to so many mistakes, so many sins. This we must remember in order to be charitable and have compassion for ourselves and our fellow brothers and sisters. This does not negate the reality that a sin is a sin, or evil is evil, but it brings upon a new framework in understanding why certain choices are made and how to work towards a culture of life.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      This is a beautiful comment. Thank you.

  • Sue Korlan

    In order for something we do to separate us from God 3 things are necessary. The act must be seriously evil, what the Church calls grave matter. This is a simple matter of fact about which judgment should be in accord with Church teaching on what is and what is not grave matter. The person also has to knows it’s wrong (and trying not to find out means your conscience already knows it’s wrong) and freely will to do it. How free is someone’s will? Only God knows. If we can’t even know how free we are in our own actions, how can we possibly know how free someone else is? So we can’t judge where a person stands with God even if they do something horrible like flying airplanes into occupied buildings. The action was definitely evil, but the people who did it may very possibly be in heaven. That’s what not judging is all about, not the action but the person.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      I agree.

  • Niemand

    A majority of zygotes fail to implant. If a 20 week old fetus is a five month old baby then an egg that has just been fertilized must be (for lack of a better term) a newborn. At least 50% of conceptions fail to result in “clinical pregnancies”, i.e. pregnancies that are evident to the woman who is pregnant. What is your policy for saving the 50% or more of babies who die before implantation or shortly thereafter? Perhaps you could propose a bill to the Oklahoma legislature to provide funding to U Oklahoma’s medical school for research into this question. That would save more “babies” than even stopping abortion altogether would and would have the side bonus of improving Oklahoma’s economy. And, of course, better prenatal care means fewer “late” miscarriages (i.e. after clinical pregnancy is established) so a universal health care system, perhaps something like that in Iowa, would be quite helpful for saving fetuses and even children who have already been born.

    So many people I see talking about abortion and fetal life on the internet are in no position to do anything about the problem of loss of fetal life to miscarriage. But you are. If you’re interested.

    • J. H. M. Ortiz

      Maybe it’s not evident that a one-celled human zygote is a child, nor that a cluster of apparently undifferentiated cells of a human morula in the first couple of days after fertilization is other than a colony of cells. But by about the fourth day after fertilization, when those cells have begun multiplying not by replication, but rather in ever more intricate and orderly DIFFERENTIATION of some cells from others, in one single unified developing organism — by that time, the specifically human DNA is already guiding the development straight toward the neo-cortical brain impulses characteristic of human personhood — a personhood already evidently present, therefore, by about the fourth day after fertilization.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      I’m on vacation. My plan is to answer everyone when I get back. But I think I’ll wade in here. I’m typing this on a gen 1 iPad, so be charitable about typos, please.
      First, the idea that because there are miscarriages in early pregnancy that somehow makes abortion ok, is daft. EVERYONE DIES … from the unborn to the extremely elderly, death is our constant companion. To try to use that as an argument to jusifty deliberately killing people does not track.
      Second, does anyone honestly think that at 5 months of pregnancy, what the woman is carrying is NOT a baby? Anyone?????? Of course it’s a baby.
      Third, there is no question, none, that a unique human being is formed at conception. This is biological fact. The question is whether or not we will extend legal protections to this human being.
      I’m sorry if I sound impatient. I’m really not. In fact, I am having a lovely vacation. But trying to type on this iPad is not the best.
      JMH’s answer is great, btw. I just wanted to add my two cents.

  • Peter

    I truly realized how far I am from being like Christ through Jesse’s illness . I spent far too much time thinking of myself and how Jesse’s cancer affected me instead of praying, trusting God, and thinking of my poor little boy. What a miserable person I am without Christ. I know what I could have become had not Jesus saved me from myself. For truly, I am my own greatest enemy. Thank you so much for taking us back to the solution: Jesus and His cross.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Peter, I believe you were closer to Jesus during Jesse’s illness than any saint. The humility and suffering you are feeling now, as bitter as they are, are also a kind of grace. We all feel this way when we are confronted with our failings before God’s perfect love. Remember, Jessie is praying for you and with you from heaven.

  • Proteios1

    Two thoughts, both a bit strange came to mind when I read this.
    1) the gender balance that naturally seems to occur is skewed by selectively aborting females. I wonder about the legalization of gay marriage between men when we may end up,like china who has 40 million ‘extra’ males do to killing the girls. If you don’t encourage them being gay, the other option is soldier.

    2) in the old testament there was a lot of killing of first born males to prevent them from killing the existing power, king. When I think of the fact revelations says a woman will crush the serpent under her feet, I wonder is the devil trying to destroy women as the glue of our family and culture, and destroy women inthe womb in the attempt, though failed attempt, but attempt to prevent the prophecy from coming true.

    I know. Weird, but those were the thoughts….and the general sense of nausea that this article describes something actually happening.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      You may be right.

      “feet, I wonder is the devil trying to destroy women as the glue of our family and culture, and destroy women inthe womb in the attempt,”

  • Jim from Utah

    My stomach is turning from watching this video. I am reminded of Dr. Scott Peck’s book called ‘People of the Lie’.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      It does fit that book. I hadn’t thought of it, but you’re right.

  • Neil Baltazor

    Very good article my friend! May God bless you!

    • Rebecca Hamilton


  • lbkennett

    But by the grace of God, there go I.

    • Rebecca Hamilton


  • Sarah Kuriakos

    I’ve often wondered how these people expect to have more children in the future. If they stop having girls by selecting against them, ultimately there won’t be any women left on earth left to bear the sons they so desperately desire. Seems kind of silly to me!!

    • Sarah Kuriakos

      Why don’t they have an “edit” button? I would REALLY like to edit my comment…

      • Rebecca Hamilton

        I don’t know. It bugs me too.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      I’ve read that there are problems finding enough women for wives in both India and China. I don’t know details, but it does seem consistent, doesn’t it?

  • Arkenaten

    Thought this was interesting….

    “Abortion rates were lowest in Western Europe – 12 per 1,000 – and highest in Eastern Europe – 43 per 1,000. The rate in North America was 19 per 1,000. Sedgh said she and colleagues found a link between higher abortion rates and regions with more restrictive legislation, such as in Latin America and Africa. They also found that 95 to 97 percent of abortions in those regions were unsafe.”

    Experts said increasing birth control options for women in poor countries, like providing long-acting implants, would make a big difference.

    “Wherever we have made better contraception available in the countries where we work, hundreds of women will walk hours to get it,” said Dana Hovig, CEO of Marie Stopes International, a family planning organization. He was not connected to the study.

    As people are always going to have sex, in or out of wedlock, maybe a serious, conscientious drive to promote contraceptive use (planned parenthood?) might be the better way to go rather than fight this issue on thinly-veiled, pseudo religious grounds?
    Just a thought….

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Douglas, I’m not disputing the study, as I know nothing about it? Do you know who did it?

      • Arkenaten

        No. I merely typed a question into the Google Search bar and this came up.
        They seem on the level though and the figures were similar to those I found on other sites.
        Canada is about 16 per thousand, by the way.
        But the abortion issue will not go away and fighting it with a big (guilt) stick or attempting to re-criminalize the issue will only make anti – abortionists (especially the militant ones) even more reviled.
        If pregnancy can be PREVENTED until people want to become parents then abortion would not enter the picture. My kids were planned. No accidents no little surprises.
        I realise this might also offend strict Catholic sensibilities regarding contraception, but it is an undeniable fact of life, religion has solved absolutely nothing. Not a single social ill has been ‘cured’ through religion. We still have incredible poverty and squalor and the ever widening gap between rich and poor. Religion might offer solace and help for the needy in some areas of life (Mother Theresa’s work in India is a perfect example) but in areas where unplanned pregnancy comes into conflict with church dogma; and especially Catholic dogma I’m sad to say, then the only result is misery.
        You cannot guilt someone into not smoking and you will never achieve any lasting positive results in the area of abortion using similar strategy.
        Being such an emotive issue it is the time for rational thought.

        • Rebecca Hamilton

          I can’t address it if I don’t know what it is.

  • Kim

    I just want to say that I thank the Lord for the anointing He has put upon your life to be a fearless trumpet of truth, a much needed voice of godly influence. I believe you have come to the Kingdom for such a time as this and I will continue to pray for you…..Kim

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Kim.

  • Cassi

    I shudder to think. Without Christ, I may easily have been one of the many women seeking an abortion. One of my children was planned. I have four. :) Some were conceived in very difficult circumstances. Without the grace to see my children as real lives, and as “surprises” (but still gifts) rather than “mistakes” or “problems”, one or more might not be here today. And what a wonder of blessings I would be missing. Taking it back a little further, without that same grace applied to my mother, I might never have been born myself. A single woman when she found herself pregnant in the early 80′s, she was counselled quite strongly to abort. Fortunately for all of us, she would hear none of it. :) Your post, btw, is excellent. I confess I did not watch the video, as my mother is sleeping in her recliner, and I don’t want to wake her–and my children have destroyed my most recent set of earbuds, lol. Still, I believe I get the gist.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Thank you Cassi. Your mother sounds like a brave woman.

  • Ted Seeber

    Hate to have you revisit this, but can you explain to me the pro-choice thought process that claims that abortion is an escape from misogyny? Because from my point of view, few things are more misogynist than abortion.

    • Rebecca Hamilton

      Ted, would you remind me again after the election? I want to answer your question, but it will take some time and I’m pretty well snowed under this week.