The wrong spiritual gift?

Update: for anyone who'd like to read my male friend's personal thoughts on this issue, check out today's guest post: "Conquering with kindness!"I am not a fan of gender roles, as anyone who's been reading my blog lately knows. As a women, I am constantly presented with expectations that I either cannot, or do not wish to live up to.But gender roles are bad for men too.A few weeks ago, I had a discussion with a male friend of mine (who gave me permission to anonymously write about him) … [Read more...]

The problem with generalization

I have been unable to avoid thinking about the issue of gender roles in our society and in the church.A few days ago, a famous pastor posted a facebook status calling people to mock "anatomically effeminate males," and reactions to this brought up some interesting discussion in the blogging world. "What gives us the right to call a man effeminate?" people wondered. Where do our standards come from?Inspired by others (especially Tyler L. Clark and Dianna E. Anderson) who were frustrated with … [Read more...]

Words bruise

As I've discussed in several of my posts lately, my first boyfriend was abusive.He didn't hit me very often (in fact, I only remember him hitting me once). He didn't need to. He could bench press 300 lbs, so I was just a rag doll to him. He pushed me around, threw me into things, or picked me up and shook me when he was angry. If I tried to run away, he would grab my arm so tightly that it would leave bruises in the shape of his hand.Those things hurt. They hurt badly. And the bruises were … [Read more...]

Love by leaving

How do you love a boyfriend that abuses you? How do you treat an abusive girlfriend like Jesus would treat her? How do you forgive a person without letting him/her hurt you again?Ever since I broke up with my abusive first boyfriend five years ago, I've been searching for answers to this question.If I had treated him better...If I had stayed with him longer...If I hadn't responded with violence at the end (our break up involved me punching him in the face out of … [Read more...]

I’m ready to be a voice (I think)

I don't always finish what I start. About two weeks ago, I promised a series on the good and bad of Disney Princess movies.  But I never  finished writing even one post besides the introduction.Perhaps someday I'll pick the series up again, but at this point I have lost interest. I quit because I got stuck. I had ideas. I even made an outline (and I never do that). But the first movie that I planned on analyzing, Beauty and the Beast, hit much too close to home.The "bad" that I was going … [Read more...]

What I learned from the turtles

Over the weekend, my best friend and I got our first tattoos. Mine looks like this:Why a turtle, though? Well, first of all, to symbolize the long life of our friendship. Also, my best friend and I are the proud, unconventional parents of two turtles of our own. We rescued them from the black market in New York and raised them together. Aren't they cute?After taking care of these little guys (who aren't so little anymore) for a few months, God began to use them to teach me some important … [Read more...]

Having secrets makes me lonely

If you haven't ever visited http://www.postsecret.com/, you should do so. People mail postcards containing a secret to the site's creator. Every Sunday, new secrets are posted.I've never sent in any of my secrets but there is usually at least one secret each week that I can relate to. And sometimes being able to relate to something can be helpful.Take the past two weeks for example. I spent them fighting off depression. Nothing new. I've struggled with depression on and off for most of my … [Read more...]

Love may Win, but Environment Loses (via Images and Words)

My boyfriend decided to judge Rob Bell before reading his book. Check out his blog for yet another review of Love Wins (from a perspective that you probably haven't heard yet). I may be biased, but I think it's pretty dang funny. Garbage, utter garbage. And I say garbage with utter contempt, because as a proud recycling citizen of the U.S., I find contempt in garbage. And I find nothing but garbage in Rob Bell's book, Love Wins. The book has gained quite the controversy in conservative … [Read more...]

Why I Shouldn’t Write (According to Me)

Writing is hard work sometimes...Like right now, for instance.I've always felt called by God to write. That's my part right now in this race that we call the Christian life. But I must admit that I've spent most of my life on the sidelines. Why?Because I made too many excuses.But lately, as I've been pondering these excuses, and as I've been reading advice from writers that I look up to, I've been learning something. Most excuses aren't legitimate.These are my 5 most commonly used … [Read more...]

When Stephen King Punched Me in the Face (figuratively speaking)

For the past four days, I have been blogging daily. I know that may not seem like much of an accomplishment, but if you'll take a look at the dates of my other blog posts, you'll notice that this is a new record for me. My previous record for most consecutive days in which I blogged is probably a whopping 1.But, a couple weeks ago, I finished reading Stephen King's book, On Writing (which is a must-read for anyone who wants to be a writer, by the way). It inspired me, encouraged me, but most … [Read more...]


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