On Doing This Church Thing Again

A few years ago, I was in what I am starting to admit to myself was an abusive church relationship. I can't really go into all the ways that this church relationship reminded me of the one abusive romantic relationship I was in. There are too many and I haven't taken enough time to reflect on those yet. But here's some examples:The pastor dictated how we were to think and live. I'm not just talking, "Be nice and love each other!" I'm talking, once when Myspace was "the thing" (yeah, I … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Wrapping Things Up

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assaultWe've come to the last post in my series about rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books. Yup, that's right......It's time to kiss dating books goodbye. To sum up, there were four significant findings related to rape and sexual assault in these books:These books create an en … [Read more...]

Reminder: The Queer Theology Synchroblog is TOMORROW!

I originally  posted this a couple of weeks ago, but for those who still want to participate, I'm reposting as a reminder! Who Wants To Create Some Queer Theology? If you’re a regular reader of this site, you’ll know that I have a thing for feminist theology. I believe that, if there is a God who is anything like the God Christians talk about, she has a special place in her heart for the oppressed, the marginalized. For those who’ve been othered and treated as “less than” by the rest of society … [Read more...]

Joseph, Potiphar’s Wife, and Rape Culture in Our Sunday Schools

I love these veggies, y'all, but I can't even with this.

Content Note: RapeI recently read a post by Emily Wierenga entitled, "What I Want My Son to Know About Sex." There was a lot in the post that I disagree with, which isn't surprising. I'm not really on the same page as most evangelical Christians when it comes to sexual ethics. One line in this piece made me think, though. I wanted to talk about that line.Toward the end of her piece, Wierenga tells her son, I pray for you, that you will shine, that you will be a man among men, a leader … [Read more...]

Must Reads!

Princess Buttercup, making a yawn by Sam Moon

Here are some important and/or interesting recent posts from around the blogosphere. Also, as always, I will include an adorable picture of one of my cats. Enjoy!"A Statement of Trans-Inclusive Feminism and Womanism" by Feminists Fighting Transphobia What we all have in common is the conviction that feminism should welcome trans* people, and that trans* people are essential to feminism’s mission to advocate for women and other people oppressed, exploited, and otherwise marginalized by pa … [Read more...]

Rape Culture: It’s Not Just For Christian Dating Books!

Content Note: Rape CultureAs I wrote my You Are Not Your Own series over the past few months, one of the most frequent response I got was, "[Insert thing that is not a Christian dating book here] does this too!" This is true. Rape culture, benevolent sexism, dehumanization, etc. come from sources, often even from sources that aren't explicitly Christian.Because my series was based on a research project I did, it was very focused on one specific thing, and that one specific thing was … [Read more...]

When churches hurt children

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Content Note: Child Abuse, SpankingI've followed Stuff Fundies Like for years now. It's been a great resource in my journey away from fundamentalism, helping me realize how harmful some of the stuff I'd been raised to see as normal really was. I'm far enough removed from that culture that I usually laugh at the entries, and laugh at myself for having once been so strongly a part of fundamental Baptist culture.But a recent post brought me to tears. I couldn't even laugh at the … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” Is Rape Just Another “Sexual Sin?”

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assault, victim blamingThis is the LAST post on the findings of my series on rape and sexual assault in Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, andWhen God Writes Your Love Story). I may have a wrap-up post or two after this, but we're coming near to the end!If you are behind and need to c … [Read more...]

I write from my wounds and they don’t hear Jesus

Today I saw a tweet by a liberal (?), progressive (?), doesn't-think-gay-people-should-have-sex-but-probably-changed-their-FB-profile-picture-to-the-HRC-logo-a-few-months-ago (yeah, that's it) Christian blogger I once read and appreciated. It said, If you only write from your wounds from an abstract “Church” and you no longer root yourself to a body of believers, I don’t hear Jesus. I can't help but think that many of the liberalish evangelical or post-evangelical bloggers I once followed and l … [Read more...]

“You Are Not Your Own:” When Metaphors For Sex Sound A Lot Like Like Rape

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This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating booksContent Note: rape, sexual assault, violent imagery, discussion of colonialism/imperialismWe're getting toward the end of my series on rape and sexual assault in evangelical Christian dating books (Dateable, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Real Marriage, and When God Writes Your Love Story). If you need to catch up, you can find older posts here. Here are the … [Read more...]


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