Complementarianism is a scam.

I'm still reading through the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Dr. Eggerichs is, obviously, a complementarian--meaning he believes that men are the heads of the household and are the providers and protectors, while women's job (all marriages in Eggerichs' world are one man/one woman) is to submit and nurture and care for the home.Dr. Eggerichs' does this thing that complementarians love to do now-a-days where he tries to convince folks that his way is actually good for women. I … [Read more...]

What “Love and Respect” and “Fireproof” Teach Abusers and their Victims

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Content Note: Descriptions of Abuse, Abuse ApologismEver since we started dating, my husband Abe has been trying to talk me into watching the movie Fireproof with him. No, not because he thought it would help our relationship, but because he insisted that it was one of the funniest movies I'd ever see. A couple of weeks ago, we finally rented the DVD at Family Video (yes, those still exist), and he was right. It was pretty hilarious--in the same way that Troll 2 and Jaws The Revenge are h … [Read more...]

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Dig Deep: Beyond Lean In by bell hooks Sandberg’s work would not have captured the attention of progressives, particularly men, if she had not packaged the message of “lets go forward and work as equals within white male corporate elites” in the wrapping paper of feminism. Unsafe Spaces by Mikki Kendall  Does that mean that there is no good solution? No. Should abusers get help? Absolutely. Can they heal? Again, absolutely. I certainly think that the cycle can be broken. But their healing can’ … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Privileged Pacifism’s Worldview Problem

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This is my fourth, and final (probably...for now at least) piece on some of the problems that unevaluated privilege can cause in Christian pacifist movements. I’m linking this series up to h00die_R’s synchroblog on the topic–The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out my other posts here,  here, and here. Content Note: Discussion of Hugo Schwyzer, John Howard Yoder, sexual abuse, and abuse apologyOver the past few weeks at my church, my pastor--Julian Davies--has been going through a series of … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: What Counts as Violence?

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This is my third piece in a series about the problems that privilege brings to Christian pacifist movements. I'm linking this series up to h00die_R's synchroblog on the topic--The New Pacifism. Be sure to check out the other posts in my series here, and here. I've already talked about privileged pacifism's tendency to take scenarios where violence might occur and treat them as thought exercises where they can fantasize about how they'd respond to that violence. I mentioned in this post that … [Read more...]

Embodied Faith is a Faith I Can Live With

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Today, I'm guest posting at Suzannah Paul's blog on the topic of Embodied Faith. This is a really important topic to me--the idea that my faith matters to my body and to the experiences I have in my body has been so healing and freeing for me. So, I hope you'll check out my post and the other posts in Suzannah's series on Embodied Faith!Here's a quick preview: What theological insight can I gain from my body and from my bodily experiences?In my depression, I can meet with the suffering … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: Fight the Systems, Not the Survivors

This is the second post in a short series I've been working on about the problems that privilege brings in Christian pacifist circles. The first post can be found here. I'm also linking this post up to the Political Jesus synchroblog--The New Pacifism.In my last post on pacifism, I discussed the tendency of many privileged pacifists to shame survivors who do not react to abuse in "approved" non-violent ways. I wrote about how it's dehumanizing to hear people who admittedly probably won't … [Read more...]

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Here are some awesome posts from the past few weeks from elsewhere in the blogosphere. I hope you'll take the time to check them out!Liss Says Stuff #3: Devil's Advocate by Melissa McEwan Devil's Advocacy seeks to turn the intimate aspects of one's life into an abstract discussion. This Is Why I Talk About This Stuff by BRACE If you think that ableism ends at the top of a ramp, you have gotten lost somewhere. Why Our Notions of "Sex-Positive" Feminism Are in Need of an Overhaul by Kelly R … [Read more...]

Privilege in Christian Pacifism: My Life is Not Your Thought Exercise

No, not THAT "What Would You Do?"

I wrote this post a few days ago and had it scheduled for today, but since h00die_R is hosting a synchroblog at Political Jesus on the topic of pacifism, I thought I'd link up! Check it out and see if you'd be interested in participating. I've been thinking about pacifism lately. It's come up in my church, in Twitter discussions, and in blog posts. This is not a response specifically to any recent discussions of pacifism, but since it keeps coming up I do want to let out some of the thoughts … [Read more...]

Reclaiming A Feminine Christianity: A Guest Post by T E Hanna

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Today, I have a guest post for you all from T E Hanna. He shares his thoughts--from the perspective of a male pastor--on reclaiming and embracing feminine images for God. T E Hanna is the author of Raising Ephesus: Christian Hope for a Post-Christian Age and he writes regularly on issues of faith and culture on his blog at TEHanna.com.In 2007, the Pew Forum for Religion and Public Life released a short synopsis of the gender makeup of the various world religions that shape the relig … [Read more...]


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