A few staggered breaths and he is gone…

My dear brother-in-law, whom I have known for all of my life, left us today. In his last weeks, we have seen in his leave-taking all of the horror of my brother S’s death, and only some of the beauty. His passing was very quick, and he died at home, in his own bed, as he wished. I almost cannot believe he is gone, except that DH and I saw him only an hour before he died…and it was plain that tonight’s goodbye would be our last.

Please pray for my sister; she is exhausted beyond words and, of course, in deep grief. Today began badly and got worse – an exceedingly difficult day for her, and it ends with her watching the funeral director take her husband’s shockingly shrunken body from their house.

He was a very kind man, a rescuer of small animals, a hero to ignored children. Never sick a day in his life, and he seemed ageless, too – he simply never seemed to age. A prince of a man.

Now cracks a noble heart. Goodnight, sweet Prince.
And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest.

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  • http://ohhowilovejesus.com Jeanette

    May he rest in eternal peace, and may his wife, children and extended family find peace in His peace that passes all understanding.

    Prayers going up for the lot of you. God bless.

  • http://yargb.blogspot Terrye

    I am so sorry.

  • kelleyb

    God Bless you and your family. May your dear brother in law rest in the arms of our Lord.

  • Cathy

    My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  • http://www.worshipnaked.com tracey

    My condolences to your entire family, A.

  • newton

    My sincere condolences to you and your family, Anchoress.
    Your sister is going to need you all more than ever before. She has lost half of her heart today. That loss seldom goes away, if ever.

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  • http://closedcafeteria.blogspot.com GeraldBoSox

    …et lux perpetua luceat eis…

  • http://crufty.blogspot.com crosspatch

    My most heartfelt condolences to you and your loved ones. It is not only through sharing our joys but also in sharing our moments of loss that we come together as a community. God bless you.

  • Ellen

    I’ll pray the Office for the Dead for the repose of his soul. My deep condolences to you all.

  • goddessoftheclassroom

    My deepest sympathy.

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  • http://donsingleton.blogspot.com/ singleton

    My condolences to your entire family, and I am sure that your faith lets you know he is in a much much better place now, and that you will see him again, in a blink of God’s eye.

  • Gracie

    I’m sorry for the loss of your beloved brother-in-law and friend. Have said a prayer for your sister and her children. May God Bless you all.

  • http://hammeringsparksfromtheanvil.blogspot.com/ Wordsmith

    You and your sister have my condolences; may he rest in peace.

  • http://almostaverage.com Tommy

    my condolences

  • Donna

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours, Anchoress.

  • wsr4law

    My deepest condolences for you and your entire family, especially for your sister. The good news is that all of you will see your brother-in-law again. Until that day, may God’s blessings be upon each one of you.

  • http://benningswritingpad.blogspot.com/ benning

    My prayers have gone out for you and your family. I’m sorry, Ma’am.

  • stephanie

    Oh Anchoress, I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve carried this poem with me for years- I’ll share it with you, and hope it provides some comfort.
    “Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on the snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn’s rain. When you awaken in the morning’s hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there; I did not die.”

  • http://maxedoutmama.blogspot.com MaxedOutMama

    I’m very sorry, and I have been and will be praying for them and for you. These are very hard times for your family.

  • Jean

    My sympathies and prayers, Anchoress.

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  • http://calledasseen.blogspot.com HaroldHutchison

    Very sorry about your loss. My sympathies.

  • http://none Darrell

    Prayers for you and you family! And more prayers that you be given a respite from your recent string of sudden losses…

  • http://weeklyscheiss.blogspot.com Mamacita

    Blessings on you, dear Anchoress, and on all of your family. You are in my thoughts today.

  • http://bamapachyderm.com Beth

    Prayers, prayers, and more prayers. May God give you and your family peace, and may your beloved brother in law dance in the light of God with the angels in eternal love and peace.

  • buckey1

    Sorry to hear of your loss. Your sister and her family are in prayers.

  • Miquel

    Dear Anchoress
    My deepest condolences. I’ll unite myself to the people that are praying for you, your sister and all of your dear family. May God comfort you and bless you abundantly.
    I hope I’m not being callous here, but I want to tell you that I agree 100% with your take on immigration.
    God bless again.

  • fzavis


    With deepest sympathy to you and your family.

    One thing your dear brother in law had that money can’t buy – your love and freindship.

    Life is short.



  • igout

    Lord, receive him into your Kindom, and comfort this family.

  • anniebird

    I hope your sister and your family will feel the prayers said for them, and that there will be some hint of beauty born of this experience that remains to comfort you, make you richer in faith and turn your face more fully to God.

  • http://badhairblog.blogspot.com Fausta

    My most sincere condolences to all the family. You are in my prayers

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  • http://www.marchhareshouse.blogspot.com March Hare

    Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace. Amen.
    My prayers and condolences are with your family, especially your sister.

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  • pendell

    Prayers. I’m sorry to hear of his death.


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