I’m terrible at this…

… but I’m going to have another go. To date, there is not a single novena I have successfully completed from start to finish. Part of me really fears the saying “be careful what you pray for.” That’s how strongly and firmly I believe in the power of prayer. I am going to lay that fear aside for now…

A reader sent me this fantastic link detailing how Rod Dreher met his wife. Think what you will of Mr. Dreher, but there is no denying his story is indeed miraculous by no stretch of the meaning of the word.

So being terrible at love, prayer and follow through, this seemed like an excellent finale to my most arduous year and a superb way to kick off the start of my quiet introspective dating sabbatical.

My final prayer before surrendering Spouse Search 2010; for the Lord to bring me a good Catholic husband and help us find each other … or remove the desire from my heart entirely.

Day one…

About Katrina Fernandez

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01678341854029479678 Old Bob

    Dear Kat, I will keep you in my prayers for your Spouse Search intention. I think maybe one of the reasons God has seen fit to keep me single, is that for a very long time I wanted a wife more than I wanted Him. I think. This is all very murky and mysterious, and of late years I just tell myself,. "God knows me better than I do myself, and He doesn't make mistakes."

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13649579041626151831 PaxetBonum

    Hey Kat, what happened to the Catholic courting rant/whinge post from yesterday? Did we annoy you so much w/ snark and gratuitous/inaapropriate/impractical advice that you dumped it down the memory hole? Or did it just magically disappear back into the great Bit Bucket In The Sky from whence it came? Inquiring minds want to know…

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13649579041626151831 PaxetBonum

    Oh, and I do wish you every success with the novena. Isn't there, like, an automated novena app for Windows, iPhone, Droid, etc? It would sure increase novena completion rates if you could program your laptop or PDA to do the prayers, or at least remind you to do them. Or you could fill out one of those spiritual bouquet cards and let a comtemplative order pray a novena of Masses for your intention … just trying to help the cause here, boss… P&B;.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/15262778035877473976 3puddytats

    I do my Rosary at 7:30 in the evening, and add any Novenas to the end.I have a really good Catholic calendar that helps with the major ones…it has all the saint days on it as my daily mass chaplain on base will ALWAYS ask what feast/saint day it is at the begining of Mass.. if I am starting a new one I write it in and the start/stop days. Also write in feast days/fast days for my Carmelite stuff. I check my calendar in the morning and evening, and have little smily face stickers to put at the end of the day.Works for me.Sara

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/15262778035877473976 3puddytats

    P.S. NOTHING kills the dating process like desperation…you may be trying too hard…I met a nice guy at coffee hour at church this past Sunday, another at the grocery store (he commented on my half a grocery cart of cat food and kitty litter), and another at the gas station..(please kind sir, the gas cap is stuck and I'm having difficulty removing it..) I get alot of dates at gas stations :)Also they won't call if they don't have your phone number :)Sara

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16185810008704682978 Michelle Therese

    Have you tried the orthodox on-line dating sites? Ok, I'll stop there. I'm sure you've heard it all. But I used them and met a lot of lovely guys but I was thinking of becoming a nun? So it kinda dampened things LOL Or come here to Orkney. Lots of single farmers. I'm awful at Novenas too. I want to pray one for my sister. Hmmm. I'll try it! Wish me luck! Er… wish me blessings lol

  • http://openid.aol.com/Muzical84 Muzical84

    Being in the same boat (single,) I'll try to remember you in my own prayers for this intention. ^^

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07327013707393086096 Christopher Lake

    I'm not so great at praying, period. One of my ex-girlfriends from my Protestant days called me a "prayer warrior." She meant it as a compliment, but I almost laughed. I should have known, right then and there, that we weren't going to stay together. She had an idealized notion of me that simply didn't fit with who I actually am. Of course, I pray, but it is a *struggle* most of the time. As to why, that's a regular topic of discussion between me and a priest friend…. On marriage… I have prayed for a wife. I have prayed for God to bring us together. I have prayed for Him to take away the desire, if it is not His will for me to be married. Three years ago, I even moved across the U.S., because I thought, after multiple visits, countless hours of phone calls, meeting each other's families, and getting engaged, that God *had* brought us together… and maybe He had… but not, ultimately, as man and wife. I give up… and I've given up before, at various times in the past! :-) People have told me that when one gives up on finding a spouse, or even on really spending energy hoping for a spouse, God often brings a spouse. Not for me. Maybe what I've giving up on, this time, is the idea that there is any formula or way for me to ultimately *know* what God's will is, in this area of my life. It's such a mystery… I've lost the desire for a spouse, numerous times in my life, but it always returns, without being fulfilled in actually *finding* a spouse. I don't know the answer…

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06117353945124506952 The Crescat

    P&B…; I removed the post bc it was a very stupid post indeed. Stupid in content, emotion and consideration. I often forget this is not an anonymous blog and when I go on and on like that people who read may take it personally. I always try to be careful to be very ambiguous when referring to my personal life for this very reason. That last post was just me behaving hurt. Yes… I have feelings and they get hurt form time to time.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06117353945124506952 The Crescat

    Oh… and wouldn't you know… the first night of the novena I dreamed I was a nun. Not just any nun… the Abbess of a convent in charge of a hospital for the mentally and physically disabled. I woke up horrified.

  • dmw

    Your approach is wrong. You need the nine HOUR novena, e.g. http://www.infantjesusofprague.net/novenas/66-nine-hour-novenaI already looked for the nine minute novena with no luck.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01469622835449220113 Dymphna

    If Our Lady can find a woman to put up with Dreher then she surely has a man for you up her sleeve.

  • http://sbroadway.livejournal.com/ sbroadway

    Might I introduce you to Parker Euton — he seems to be in a bit of the same predicament. http://thecatholicfascist.wordpress.com/contributors/

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01903117581927591052 Jon

    Kat,Whether you like it or not, I'm praying you raise The Boy, get him situated securely and wisely, and then, well, do what I think you should do, and what I think you think you should do. Damn presumptuous of me, I know, but hey, you're the one sharing.Our Lord will pick among the prayers, and things will turn out fine. Don't you worry.PS – In that dream, could you starch a wimple?

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09819523933502820341 Terry Nelson

    This is exactly how you meet someone and end up in the bridal chamber:Resolve to give it all up – give up men, sex, whatever. Decide you are going to live chastely and celibately and will never date again. Decide once and for all you will never seek or get involved in a relationship with any guy ever again. In a very short time Prince Charming will show up with an offer you can't refuse. (Maybe finish the novena first.)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02645484704486562810 Mimi

    What a sweet story, thanks for the link.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11484509700642430451 Theocoid

    No dating/courting suggestions from me, but I will suggest a practical point. Whenever I want to do something like this consistently, I add it to my calendar in Outlook or to my Palm Pre so I get a reminder. For me, the biggest challenge with novenas is rembering them.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05699746979019393620 The Little Way

    You can get into the practice of finishing a novena by saying one for someone other than yourself. You don't even need to have a particular person in mind. For example, if offering a novena to St. Rita, you could offer it for a terminally ill child. As previously noted, you don't need to pray a Novena 9 days in a row. Nine hours, nine days and even nine weeks in a row is acceptable. Why not ask us, your not-always-gentle readers (speaking strictly of myself) to pray a novena for you? St. Raphael is the patron saint of happy meetings. What do you say fellow bloggers? Let's get to work!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00540186205959897960 Owen

    Removed posts remain in downloaded rss and they exist in perpetuity in search engine caches. That's the way of this weird thing called the Internetin the mean time, when I think of it, I remember the ongoing intentions of bloggers I followone of the things I so value about that little plurk community is we pray for one another all the time – it's quite somethinganyway…will pray…though not likely the 54 day deal

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04229134781669560505 Rick

    Prayers are always good. But if you want to win the lottery, you need to buy a ticket. A priest friend of mine recommended a Catholic Singles website to a friend who is now getting married.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06117353945124506952 The Crescat

    Rick… btdt to no avail. I've made a few friends along the way, but nothing deeper.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00540186205959897960 Owen

    On the plus side, of blogging, my DD1 and two friends began this novena on Sunday and will therefore conclude it on another Marian Sunday. They are holding each other accountable to completion. So, thanks for posting the link and your own intent to complete this novena.