Don’t want your photo to end up as the “before” picture in an online diet ad, don’t post your photo online to begin with…

… What did I just say about nothing being private on online?

So this blogger posts a picture of herself in a bikini and, horror among horrors, her image is taken and used for a dieting advertisement. As the before photo. Yes, it’s highly insulting and ego bruising, but I am perplexed by her shock and outrage.

Kudos to her for rocking a bikini in public and writing about it to help fat women with body issues. Her heart’s in the right place. Not sure where her mind was though.

“It made me feel exposed and not in control of my own image,” Cateyes tells Yahoo Shine.

Yes. That is exactly what happens every time you share an image online. You lose control over it.

Please let this be a lesson, ladies.

On another note, I followed the link to her blog and I’m digging her spunk and rock-a-billy style. She writes poignantly about dealing with body issues and how painful it is to struggle with weight. That I get. But as a fat girl myself, I’m not big into the whole Fat Pride scene. I find the whole idea strange and curious. Mostly because I refuse to accept myself at my current weight.

I can still love myself without being proud of my fat.

I also don’t get devoting an entire blog to writing about how women are so much more than their body shape and that size doesn’t matter, while being so intensely focused on the one thing you don’t want people to make a big deal of.

Doesn’t that sort of defeat your purpose?

I’m fat. But I don’t write about being fat. all. the. time. Because being fat isn’t all who I am. I see what she’s trying to do and I applaud her for it. But I think the best way to deal with fat stereotypes is to just be a nice, happy fat person to whomever you meet. People assume fat people are lazy and miserable, so show them otherwise.

But eh. That’s just me.

Obligatory Disclaimer Stuff: If you do visit her blog know that it’s got some profanity and a nude picture of her on her About Page.

About Katrina Fernandez

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  • Susan Peterson

    I don’t think they have the right to use her picture without asking her. And I think she ought to be paid for it.

    • Katrina Fernandez

      No, of course they don’t have the right. But she shouldn’t be shocked that something she posted online is used in a way she did not intend. Once she stuck it online she lost control over it. Is it right? No. But it is what it is.

      • oregon nurse

        And by that reasoning you should fully expect that people will steal what you write and pass it off as their own and use it to make money. If they do, you have no right to whine or fuss about it because you should have known better than to post it online.

        But I agree with you on the rest of your post. She’s defined herself by what she objects to and that’s just dumb.

        • Katrina Fernandez

          They do it all the time. Grab quotes, and misinterpret them, steal my ideas, piggy back on things I write. You name it.

          It’s frustrating but such is the nature of being online. I can’t police the internet, I can only police myself.

      • UWIR

        I don’t see how the article says that she was shocked in the sense of having no idea this was a possibility. She says she was “infuriated”, not “shocked”. And speaking of this issue, do you have permission from Allie to use her artwork? And what’s with the caption?

        • Katrina Fernandez

          X all the Y is a meme, yes, inspired by Allie Brosh. And?

          Also, the caption is because people love to accuse me of slut shaming. And I find the accusation laughable.

          Bottom line… once you put anything on the internet do not be infuriated or surprised if it gets used in a manner that you did not intend.

          • UWIR

            And… you’re using her copyrighted artwork without permission or even attribution. You really need this explained to you? You aren’t exactly a disinterested party when it comes to “Is it okay to use other people’s intellectual property?”

            Perhaps if you were not so morally stunted, accusations of slut shaming would prompt introspection, rather than derision and “ironically” doing exactly that in your avatar.

            As for the final sentence of your post, people own their intellectual property, and they have the right to vigorously defend it. I don’t know where you get off telling people how to feel about their rights being violated.

    • Lydia

      Yes, I would think there are actually legal issues here. Not that I’m offering her the money to hire a lawyer, but my strong impression is that one’s personal image can’t be used willy-nilly without legally binding consent for selling a product. Er…except by Facebook…where you’re agreeing to it by their terms of use unless you uncheck the itsy bitsy box. But I gather these were just some people selling diet products who grabbed her picture and used it fraudulently as a “before” pic for their product. I’m guessing she has legal recourse, if she can find the right info.

      • Katrina Fernandez

        Yeah, I think she does a legal case and I hope it goes well for her. I also hope she and other ladies learn from this.

    • Mary E.

      I agree with you, Susan, and the law is behind that position, but the law must be enforced through courts, once the jerks have been tracked down, which can take considerable effort. And pursuing the jerks in court can involve a lot of time and money. If someone is ready to take that on, more power to them, but many people do not have those resources. I dislike taking a defensive position on this, but given the current state of things on the Internet, I avoid posting any photographs that I don’t want shared around the world.

      • Katrina Fernandez

        Smart gal.

  • Quittin’ time at Tara!

    Yes, it does defeat her purpose. But, many activists are this way. They display great moxie while having an incredibly thin skin. It’s like they can’t take their own advice.

    I think happiness lies in loving your body for the wonderful things it can accomplish, not just for the way it looks. Just be around a person whose body has truly failed them for five minutes, and you’ll be adoring your fully functioning body, fat or thin. Who cares? Grease the pan with Crisco and do the disco.

    But on to more serious matters: how could she have pierced her totally darling dimples? Who does that? And the tattoos? Oy.

  • Gretchen

    Facebook, Pinterest, and other social media sites tell you in their “Click here and agree to this if you want to use this site” fine print that they own everything you post. By posting, you waive all rights to the material and it becomes the property of the site.

    • oregon nurse

      That is her own blog and she didn’t waive her right of ownership.

      • Katrina Fernandez

        Actually she did share it on her tumblr, pinterest, and instagram pages too. But I agree with you, it still doesn’t make it right.

  • tj.nelson

    Dear Aunt Crabby:

    You wrote:

    “I can still love myself without being proud of my fat.”

    Exactly! That works for other ‘issues’ as well.

    I’m with Fr. Longenecker – you need someone to pick you up to write an advice column.

    • Katrina Fernandez

      Do not encourage me.