* What follows is based on a seminary assignment where we were encouraged to use the indicative (what God has done) to lead to an ethical imperative (what we can do). I wrote a mini-sermon or sermonette 🙂 It is very personal and a bit longer than the average post (about 1500 words), but I trust that if you take the time to read that thoughts will be moving. Love to hear your thoughts…
There once was a boy who lived in the tension between joy and pain; happiness and hurt; light and darkness. At an early age, his parents who loved him dearly, got a divorce. He would go on to live primarily with his mom and would visit his dad every other weekend. This happened at such an early age that the he did not know anything different. Having a family in tact only existed in his clouded dream-like memories, which he could not even confirm were more than mere dreams.
Around the time that this boy was getting ready to begin school, his mom began a relationship with another man. After all, she could use the financial stability that comes from some relationships, because she struggled to maintain a job and mostly relied on welfare. Soon after, this new man began to show his true colors of anger, alcoholism, and abuse. On a sporadic and yet regular basis, this man would beat the boy’s mom and would even take his rage out on this child. At home with mom and the man, this boy’s life became a constant nightmare that he never could seem to quite wake up from.
Now it is true that along side the pain, the boy also experienced joy. His dad, grandparents, uncles and aunts, and church gave him opportunities to know love. Unfortunately, the boy chose to keep these people in the dark because if such things came to light, he feared that his mom would get into trouble. He was protecting her. After all, she truly did love him and hated seeing her son get hurt, but she could not see a way of escape. Nevertheless, as he grew older he knew that a time would come when he would be strong enough, brave enough, and big enough to fight back. If this man, his greatest enemy, continued to make life hellish; a day of vengeance would come when the boy would be able to defend his mom.
There is a story in the bible that we don’t know much about. It comes from Genesis immediately after Cain has killed Able. You may remember that God has mercy on this murderer and makes known to all people that: “anyone who kills Cain will suffer vengeance seven times over” (Gen 4.15). After this, a character named Lamech enters the story and admits to having committed murder. He claims for himself what God had said about Cain: “If Cain is avenged seven times, then Lamech seventy-seven times” (v 24). Notice that this story is a warning to the enemies of Lamech. Anyone who kills or tries to harm Lamech will receive vengeance 77 times worse. This is a story rooted in the idea of the fear of retaliation.
Now in the first century there was a man who taught about a way of God that was rooted not in vengeance, but forgiveness and love toward enemies. One day he was approached by a disciple named Peter who asked: “Lord, how many times shall I forgive someone who sins against me? Up to seven times?” (Matt 18.21). Listen to Jesus’ rabbinic response: “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times” (v 22). Can you imagine how revolutionary his words would have sounded if you were a first century Jew for whom the story of Lamech was part of your heritage? You would be saying: so… in the same way that the story of Lamech claimed vengeance toward enemies, Jesus says that this is how often we ought to forgive our enemies! Wow! But we should remember that this is not the first time Jesus has said something like this. Earlier in Matthew, Jesus taught this lesson in another way. He said: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’” This would be an acceptable ethic to the Lamechs of the world. But the Jesus ethic is different: “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…” (Matt 5.43-44). Jesus’ way is never about vengeance but is always about reconciliation and forgiveness. He demonstrated that in the most compelling fashion in his journey to the cross. 1 Peter reminds us:
But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps…. When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. 1 Peter 2.20-21, 23
Lets return to the boy in our story one last time. A time finally came when he was probably strong enough, brave enough, and big enough to fight back. By this time, the man was far removed from the family that he had once brought pain to. Even so, in the back of the boy-turned-young-man’s mind was the thought that if this enemy ever were to creep back into the picture, he could now fight back. But then this boy-turned-young-man had an encounter with Jesus that changed the question from: how to respond? [to] how has God responded? God through Christ’s faithfulness offers forgiveness for the purpose of reconciling his enemies to himself. And having received such a generous and restorative gift the boy-turned-young-man came to realize that he could not help but give it away, even to his childhood enemy. God’s attitude and action toward his enemies not only served as an example for him, but also had become the overflow of his heart. How could he not pay forward the generosity that he had experienced from his heavenly father to forgive this quasi-earthly-father? The boy, whose name is Kurt, eventually (with God’s help) decided to let go of vengeance and to extend forgiveness. To let go of the need to be ready to defend, and to choose to learn a posture of love toward my enemy. Because of this, I have been able to pray for my childhood enemy. I have been enabled to wish God’s best for him. This is not always easy and at times in my journey the temptation has been to return to hatred and un-forgiveness. However, as I grow into the love of God, I cannot help but dream of the day when my childhood enemy will experience the reconciling love of Jesus and will encounter the possibility of turning enemies into friends.
So, who is your enemy? A co-worker, a boss, a relative, an abusive person from the past, a spouse? Or perhaps your enemy is a group of people: conservatives, liberals, terrorists, gays, non-Christian religions? Can you imagine the possibilities that could burst into your situation if you chose to respond to your enemies out of gratitude for how God has responded to us? Can you envision the healing that could take place in your life and in our communities if those who are our enemies were reconciled to us through sacrificial forgiveness? May we respond to our enemies in the same way that God has responded to us. May we choose to live less like the Lamechs of the world, and to embrace the reality of reconciliation that has ultimately been accomplished through the self-sacrificial love of the cross. May we show our enemies a nonsensical love that is rooted in the nonsensical love of God. May we choose to “love our enemies and pray for those who persecute” us. Lets Pray…
* Let me add that my mom and I have a great relationship and God is working in her life like never before. Things are not perfect, but broken pieces have been put back together by the grace of the Lord Jesus!