Friendly Fridays: Should We Rejoice At The Death of An Enemy [What Violence Does to Us] (by Alan Molineaux)

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Should we rejoice at the death of an enemy?

Several years ago, when our children were still quite young, my car was attacked by a gang of drunken thugs. I was stuck in stationary traffic with no way of driving away from the incident. As my third daughter screamed in the back of the car our assailants (more than ten of them) began to kick and rock our vehicle before opening the drivers door and attacking me.

Fearing for our safety, and with what appeared to be very few options, I managed to fall out of my seat and looked for an opportunity of defense. I hit the one nearest to me and managed to get to my feet. I had no chance of winning against so many guys. As I continued to fight, with the sound of my daughter still ringing in my ears, several other drivers came to our rescue. By this time however a rage had come over me and I continued to hit one of our attackers; eventually having to be restrained by my rescuers.

On telling this story to family and friends on my return home I was unequivocally congratulated for having stood up in defense of my daughter. However, I knew the truth of how I had somehow crossed a line from being the defender to the aggressor. This line was somewhat feint to the external observer but I knew of it’s presence so very clearly on that day. I began to see that evil did not just exist in my attackers but in my heart also, as my fear turned to the most intense rage. I wanted to hurt someone and I wanted to hurt them so badly that other people had to restrain me.

This is our problem when it comes to defending our freedom and our families we can so very easily cross a line; rather than revealing a noble sense of honour it shows the grim truth that evil is not just in another place or another heart.

Times like this are moments for reflection rather than celebration.

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Thanks to my good web friend, Al Molineaux for this challenging guest piece.  Connect with him on Twitter.

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  • http://thepangeablog.com Kurt Willems

    As a believer in nonviolence, I wonder what I would have done in your situation Al? Honestly, I would hope that I would resort to some other means but when family is on the line, I fully understand why you fought back. That is not the point this post however. Here you remind us that violence does something to us. The violence within becomes the violence without. I agree, in personal situations we ought to reflect and in the US’s scenario as well as it concerns bin Laden. Thanks for your post!!!!!

    • Alan

      Thanks Kurt

      I agree. I wonder how the world would look today if mssrs Bush and Blair had approached our Muslim neighbours with a plan of peace and not a declaration of war.

      My experience showed me the danger of rage within even a peaceful person/nation.

      We have to find a better way.

      Al

  • http://undeception.com/ Steve Douglas

    Great post. Thanks, Alan and Kurt.

  • Alan

    Thanks Steve

  • Tiffany Lucus

    Wow.
    As someone who has never claimed to be a believer in nonviolence (not that I am a violent person…I am 5’6″ and from a town that has a large population of seniors…I’m not fooling anyone into thinking I’m scary) and has often been heard uttering phrases that would depict an entirely different belief; hearing your story has absolutely shaken me. To go through something like you went through and come out with a view of violence that you have gives me so much to think about. Thank you so much for sharing this. I definitely have some thinking to do.

    • Alan

      Wow Tiffany. Thanks for your comments.

    • http://thepangeablog.com Kurt Willems

      Great thoughts @08ca66e9d8da74e195ee6e4ad3e295ce:disqus! I would invite you to check out the series on this blog on nonviolence called: “Nonviolence 101″. You can find it here: http://www.thepangeablog.com/category/nonviolence-101-series/


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